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Meeting a girl is always a very exciting and difficult moment for any man of any age. Therefore, in order to overcome this stage of relationships, many guys resort to online dating services, since meeting a girl on the Internet is much easier than in real life, however, there are also subtleties that should be taken into account and today’s article will be about them.

Where to start meeting a girl on the Internet?

It is better to start any acquaintance, no matter whether it is virtual or real, with a sign of attention, a compliment or a gift. If you want to meet a beautiful girl on a dating site, you must immediately come to terms with the fact that you will have much more competitors than usual, so you must somehow stand out from this gray mass. Fortunately, this is quite easy to do, if only you had money. Many services provide the opportunity to make a gift in the form of a virtual toy or flowers, which will subsequently be placed on the page with the girl’s profile. For special gifts, there is even the opportunity to give VIP status on the site, which allows you to significantly expand the capabilities of a girl’s profile (decorate your page, be invisible, hide age, etc.).

We agree that a gift requires money, which is not always available in sufficient quantities, but we are now talking about your potential future. Don't you already feel sorry for 1-5 dollars?! In addition, if you met in real life, you would most likely invite her to a cafe, restaurant, buy flowers, etc., which would cost much more than a harmless gift.

From all that has been said above, let us sum up the first conclusion: you should start meeting a girl on the Internet with a virtual compliment - flowers, VIP status, a soft toy, etc. In any case, the girl will like such a gift, she will pay attention to you, understand the fact that you really liked her, and you will be able to take the next step.

What to write to a girl when meeting online?

Now let's move on to the main thing and one might even say the final step on the path to acquaintance. Since your future joint relationships will depend on him: will they be friendly, loving, or absent altogether.

There are several rules that will include advice on what you can write to a girl and what you can’t:

• Never reveal the whole truth about the purpose of your acquaintance with her. The answer should always be the same: “First of all, I’m looking for a girlfriend, and then how fate will turn out...”. Even if you want to marry her, want children from her and live together until the end of your days, do not write this. Some will understand this as a joke, others will perceive it as childish and frivolous. And of course, you don’t need to write about sex if you are looking for a girlfriend for an intimate relationship. Yes, you are being deceitful, but only in this case will you be able to win the girl.


• Start the conversation by complimenting her. Appreciate the beauty of her hair, eyes, waist, long legs, flat tummy, etc. But just don’t resort to vulgarity - you don’t need to point out her breasts, buttocks or thighs at the first message. This needs to be mentioned, but not now!


• Don’t rush to get her phone number or make an appointment, 80% will refuse right away. You must interest her first, and only then invite her to a cafe.


• Be careful with punctuation and expressions. Your turns of phrase and mistakes will tell you a lot about you. Excessive “literariness” will show your pedantry, seriousness and may even scare off the girl a little. Keep it simple, build your sentences more concisely.


• Ask questions more often, talk less about yourself, unless she asks for it herself.


• Call her by name more often; it captivates any person when he sees or hears his beautiful name.


• Before asking questions, study her profile and ask questions based on it. This way, you will have topics for conversation: hobbies, work, life principles, taste preferences, etc.


• If you feel that your supply of ideas is running out, end the conversation (just name an important reason) and offer to continue it in a cafe over a cup of coffee.


• Be sincere in your conversation, but present any fact beautifully. Even if you are an ordinary salesperson in a store, call yourself a consultant in the field of trade. Let there be a mystery in you.


• If she asked you about having a car that you don't have. Walk out of the situation proudly: “I’m still saving up for a car... I don’t want to waste money on the cheap auto industry!” If you are ashamed of the car brand (Tavria), then answer that for you a car is not a luxury, but a means of transportation.


• Don't pause in conversation! Try to ask her as many questions as possible, and as soon as you see that a certain topic arouses her interest, develop it by asking leading questions and telling your own stories or news read.


• Keep it simple! Don't memorize certain phrases or sentences; your speech should be natural but interesting.

If you can’t think of topics to talk about, then read our article:

We have told you the basic points of filling out the questionnaire. Another 5 minutes to equip yourself with knowledge, and it won’t be difficult for you to get acquainted correctly on the Internet. Now we will take a closer look at what to write to a girl and what is better not to write.

I never use pick-up techniques for several reasons:

1. Normal, sexually mature girls no longer fall for standard pick-up phrases.

Only a young girl or some TP would be interested in a template message in the style of “call me urgently 01, a fire started in my heart when I saw your ava, baby.” Write like this only if you really have a house fire and the heart-shaped pillows are already burning.

2. By following the path of a pickup truck, you inevitably leave an imprint on your worldview and attitude towards girls in general.

If you succeed in this, then it becomes a habit to treat girls as prey, meat. Yes, you can temporarily solve your current problems and satisfy your physical needs. But you risk one day feeling devastation and loneliness, which none of your sheepskins can do anything about. But all you need is a girl equal to you.

3. It is unpleasant for girls to realize that they were treated by a “professional”.

Having learned that her natural protection against wicked men was bypassed with the help of a universal “opener”, she will certainly add herself to the list of cold bitches of this world. And there are already plenty of them.

So, what should you write to a girl on the Internet?

As we have already found out, the guy should write first. You don’t need to hope that you create a profile and a sea of ​​cool girls will write to you. With those who wrote to me first, I never had anything other than friendship. Although friendship is also great. :)

Of course, you can simply write “Hello.” But she receives a lot of such letters. And even if she liked you outwardly, your shares are priced low. The first phrase to a girl on the Internet should be a little more meaningful.

Study her profile, even if there is not much information, you can usually catch on to something. It is better to take not by quantity, but by quality.

With this approach, you will have fewer unanswered messages. And the girls you meet will be more interested in you, just as you are in them.

There may be some interesting detail in her photographs that you can notice in the first message.

For example, if she is learning to roller skate at the All-Russian Exhibition Center in a ridiculous pose, then we can say that she is very
graceful, even when off balance. Or ask what bearings she uses (after Googling the options)

There is no need to look for little things in the background. It will sound insulting and stupid if you write about some vulgar-shaped stone in the background, pretending to be Petrosyan. After all, in the foreground - she is all so beautiful, with a perfect manicure, in a dress, rings and an interesting pose. You need to start from the detail directly related to it.

If the content of a girl’s profile is a dark forest for you (and this will often be the case) - search, find out, and start a conversation on topics that are interesting to her!

Use the clues they leave for you. If you see a mysterious title of her favorite book, look for a summary. You don't even have to go to the library! Surely you will have some thoughts about the book. Discuss them with the girl, not forgetting to admire the fact that a beautiful girl reads good literature.

It's the same with photographs. If you see something that she is clearly interested in, go to google.ru and look for information about it. This way, creating an interesting conversation is not difficult, and the girl understands that she can talk to you about anything. And this is already 60% success.

And 2 more very important points:

Try to be short and concise in your first message.

Write correctly!

Yes, here you are taking a Russian language exam. And you are lucky in any case: either in the fact that you simply write correctly, or in the fact that you have a bunch of spell-checking services at your fingertips. For example, this one.

What NOT to start meeting a girl with:

Offer a bed in the first message.

This puts an end to your profile, and it immediately ends up on the black list. Girls receive whole bags of such spam. It’s also not a good idea to offer her to buy her old bed.

And in general, speed up the acquaintance right away.

Offers to live together with you in Butovo (because you are scared to return home alone), chat on Skype (because you are scared to be home alone) or give birth to a child together (for the same reasons) put the girl in culture shock. Respect her personal space, and remember that any girl is actually a stronghold of inner purity. Her very essence does not allow her to go with you into all the troubles right from the doorstep.

Organize a theater of the absurd for her or play the game “guess my diagnosis”

Take some time before introducing her to the Cucanostrus galaxy and your seven invisible selves. Go down to: Universe, Milky Way, Solar System, Planet Earth. Perhaps later she will even find your inner world cute, but don’t make the dive too abrupt.

Ask trivial questions, or questions with obvious answers.

She is not interested in telling for the hundred thousandth time where she studies, works, or what she does on this site. During the communication process you will receive answers to these questions, but this is not suitable for the first message.

Where to meet people on the Internet?

Here are the most normal dating sites, in my opinion:

Dating.ru– I started from this site. The main advantages are democratic nature and free registration of the questionnaire. For some reason, this is where I had the most successful acquaintances. There are a lot of fake profiles, but they can be easily identified by the blank information and just one photo.

Loveplanet.ru- the most popular site today. There are a lot of profiles, you can really find something interesting here if you dig around. But recently, unfortunately, he began to demand money for almost everything.

Mamba.ru– Good, high-quality resource, convenient mobile application. You can't go wrong if you choose this one.

Datingstyle.ru– dating for informals, mainly of a gothic orientation. Sparsely populated, but life is great. The main advantage, of course, is the audience - a lot of interesting people. Although he is also a minus.

Love.mail.ru– judging by Rambler statistics, this is the most populous dating site. However, I did not stay there for long. It seemed to me a bit unclear, spammed with false questionnaires, but nevertheless worth attention.

So, you decided to use all possible methods and find out how to meet a girl on the Internet and did not miss the article that will ensure your success? You did everything right, and taking into account all my advice, the acquaintance will be more than successful.

Basic rules of online dating

Let's start, perhaps, with what without which all your further actions will be meaningless - with the rules and fundamentals of behavior on the Internet.

Be well mannered

You simply do not have the right to be vulgar and rude. Forget it will not give you points in the eyes of the lady. At best, she will simply think that she is dealing with a gopnik, at worst, with an unbalanced pervert.

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Try to master your literacy

Yes, some girls are also “not a fountain”, but you still try to write correctly. After all, if one out of 10 does not notice your gross mistakes due to their own illiteracy, then 9 will definitely pay attention to it. You may not have all the commas placed correctly, but the words “girls” or “want” are an irreparable stain on your reputation.

If your spelling is very bad, use special services to check texts. Finally, write your messages in Word, copy and paste into the dialog box.

A few tips

If for some reason you can’t see a girl’s photo or you can’t find out her age (this often happens on forums and dating sites), you can try using these tips:

• If a young lady is very capricious and touchy, most likely she is beautiful (or at least considers herself so).
• Cowardly, a little stupid and quite naive - most likely she is a teenager.
• If he brings up a topic about work, weekends, lack of free time, earnings, etc. - Most likely, she is already over 20.
• If she starts talking about her studies, she is either a schoolgirl or a student.
• If on a girl’s page you only see photos of her face, try to make sure you see her completely. You can just ask for a full-length photo of her if you are already close enough. Otherwise, you risk seeing on the first date something that is far from what you hoped for.

The advice is banal, but sometimes we forget to pay attention to such little things and what we get is not at all what we pictured in our minds.

Let's meet on a dating site

How to meet a girl on the Internet? Of course, on a dating site - they are all open to communication and dating, they don’t have boyfriends and they are just waiting for their prince. But on the other hand, there are thousands of active users on popular sites and they are not sitting idle.

Your task is to stand out from the twenty men who wrote to your beauty at the same time as you. What do I need to do:

1. Never write to a girl what you could write to everyone else. That is, “you’re beautiful, let’s get to know each other” won’t work. And most likely, 15 of those 20 people will write to her exactly like that. Look at her profile and write something unique to her.
2. If the site is designed in such a way that messages are conveyed with a subject, always make it beautiful.
3. If possible, write to girls who are “online” - this way you will immediately see the result if she does not want to continue communication.

Young woman: « Marina, brunette, 17 years old, student at the pedagogical school"

Letter:

Subject: “To the most charming girl in the pedagogical school”

Then I would like to tell you about myself: my name is Oleg, I do programming, and in my free time I prefer active recreation. I will soon turn 22 years old and for my birthday I would like to meet a wonderful girl with whom I can go on an interesting journey.".

1. The second rule follows from the written letter: a message on a dating site should not be too short. You have to make a girl read it and think about you. A simple 25th “Hello” risks even going unnoticed. But a long, interesting letter is sure to stand out from the background of banal one-word messages.
2. Romance and mystery won't hurt you. For example, in communication, do not be shy about doing strange things: write that you are inviting her to a slow dance. In your next message you can write her the name of a beautiful slow song that she should listen to.

Experiment + example

For the sake of the experiment, 10 girls were chosen, the introduction was the same, and the answers were not particularly different. The goal is to get a phone number.

Me: Hello, are you looking for love?)
She: Maybe / Just communicating / Of course / No
Me: It’s unlikely that you can find anyone on this site, they only offer all sorts of nonsense...
She: Exactly / That's right / Bla-Blah-Blah
Me: I hope you’re a good girl, you’re not writing anything bad?))
She: No / No, I’m good / I don’t write...
Me: To be honest, I haven’t visited such sites before, and apparently I won’t visit them again, after what they write here. Let's talk on the phone for 2 minutes. Write the number)

Result:

• 2 wrote their number after the last message;
• 4 wrote the number after several messages, basically I complimented and said that I was in a hurry;
• 3 continued the conversation and later gave a number (banal conversation about interests + intrigue);
• 1 refused to give her phone number and the conversation was not continued

The dialogue is a little truncated, but the essence of the correspondence is clear, I will reveal the psychology of such an acquaintance in the following articles, if you are interested, write in the comments.

How to meet a girl on VKontakte

This site is known to you firsthand and you have probably already received many refusals. I want to warn you that this will continue. According to statistics, even with the most correct approach, girls on VK do not respond to messages in 45-50% of cases. Such a harsh truth. But if you do it wrong, you may lose those 50% of girls who respond.

How to learn

To understand how to properly meet people on the Internet, you need to develop an approach. So, in order:

1. You weed out the girls you will train on. Choose absolutely any city and put the same one on your page. You need to gain experience before writing to a girl you really like, and those with whom you will communicate will even help with advice!
2. Next, you choose 10 normal, not “fashionable”, not “scary”, but simple pretty girls “online”, perhaps with cockroaches - good for training.
3. You write everyone the same message with an individual character for each of the applicants. below↓
4. Let's call it exercise. You need to repeat it until 8 out of 10 girls continue the dialogue with you. Once a week is enough.

Thanks to such training, your page will be filled with interesting girls from whom you can ask for advice, and you will gain confidence in your abilities and can easily develop a dialogue.

Your task:

1. practice a certain model of communication that is inherent to you on the Internet;
2. learn to determine which message suits a certain type of girl;
3. be able to develop a dialogue until its final completion or its goal;

It is important to have a goal for communicating with a girl, that is, set a goal and achieve it in various ways, otherwise you will waste your time.

Everything must be perfect - 6 stages of preparation

If you have taken into account the rules, put a good photo on your avatar and filled out your page with suitable information, do not rush to relax:

Stage No. 1. Hide unnecessary albums

If you managed to post online photos from a wild drinking session, leave romantic photos with your ex-girlfriend, etc. - hide them. You must have an ideal profile: photos of moments of your success at work, photos in the company of your friends (adequate, sober...), photos in nature, on a trip, at a concert, etc. Hide everything that is compromising far away - leave what characterizes you from the best side.

The same goes for vulgar videos, vulgar idiotic songs, subscriptions to porn groups, etc.

Stage No. 2. Clean up the comments

Get into the habit of erasing comments that show all your cards. Entries like “Zai, yesterday was very good” should be deleted immediately (if you don’t stop at one girl).

Stage No. 3. Recognize fakes

To avoid wasting time on decoy pages, learn to recognize them immediately. If you see that everything about a girl is too perfect or she has very few photos other than her avatar, it could be a fake. You need to take her photo, upload it to Google image search and see in what other profiles and on what sites this image appears. If you see her on various sex sites, etc. - it's fake.

You should be alarmed by the imbalance between the comments under the photo and the number of friends. Also, fakes often have over 1000 friends, and the page was created relatively recently.

Stage No. 4. Find the “right” girls

Your task is to find the girl with whom you have something in common. According to statistics and personal experience, ordinary compliments are powerless here, but common interests work very well. Go to the groups of your favorite musical groups, open the list of participants and look for pretty girls there. So from the first messages you will have a topic for conversation - “she also loves the group Nirvana.”

• The same goes for groups dedicated to your favorite films, TV series, books, writers, places, travel, etc.
• If you are not interested in anything at all, find common interests in her. She has beautiful legs and you like them? Most likely, she also likes her long legs. Why not a topic for conversation?
• You can search for girls with the same last name as you. First act like you think you're related. Then just turn it into regular interesting communication.

In short, develop effective tactics, and don’t just add just anyone.

Stage No. 5. Be vigilant

You will have to add a huge number of girls as friends, among whom you may meet friends. But you are “not a noble womanizer, but a simple good guy who decided to meet a beautiful girl,” so you can’t get shot. As soon as you go to a girl’s page and see that your mutual friends are the one with whom you had a nice conversation 5 minutes ago, run away from there.

But if you have mutual friends who do not relate to the process of your hunting for girls, this will only be a plus for you. When girls see mutual friends, it seems to them that you already know each other, that they can trust you, etc.

Stage No. 6. Do not disappear

Be prepared for the fact that you will have to correspond with the girl for about two weeks. If you suddenly disappear for a week, things can get out of control. Therefore, do not be too intrusive, writing to her all day long. But don’t get lost for long.

Take pauses between messages, but the girl should not think that you are slow and squeezing out an answer.

The most important thing is the first message to a girl

All sites tell you that the first message on VK is the most important part of your acquaintance. But I’ll express a different opinion: if you have an awesome account, looking at which a girl thinks “he’s cool,” 85% of the work is done. In this case, it is enough that your first message is just normal.

1. Do not write an offer to have sex in your first message, no matter how veiled it is.
2. Don’t just write “Hello,” even if you follow it up with “How are you?” Girls almost never respond to such messages. You must come up with a phrase that will lead to the development of the conversation.
3. Don’t be too cocky: “Sly, you’re going on a date with me today.”
4. There is no need to be too sweet, from the first messages telling about how you dream of taking her on a date, so that she can caress you, etc.
5. Be calm with compliments too: beautiful, amazing, magnificent - this is too much for the first message.
6. When you add as a friend, know why you are doing it and let the girl know about it.

Here are examples of how you can start a conversation:

• You simply write: "I know something about you." She will definitely want to know what you know. In response, you can write about her what you noticed while studying her page, and what you yourself liked about her.
• “When I saw your photo, I was simply amazed at how much Photoshop can do.” This phrase will touch her pride and make her pay attention to your message. Most likely she will answer that her photo is natural and she looks the same in real life.
• "Hello. You look like an energetic girl. What sports do you do?”
• “I noticed that you play tennis. How long have you been training?

The last two phrases can have hundreds of variations. All you have to do is understand what the girl is interested in and come up with a message about it .

It is important that the first message provokes the girl to answer you, that is, you need to ask a question at the end of the monologue!

• "Hello. You seem like an attractive girl to me. Yes, and I'm not bad. We’re just destined to meet, don’t you think?”

This sounds atypical and a little provocative. You don’t shower her with compliments, raising her self-esteem to a sky-high level. But at the same time you say that she interests you. You yourself also behave with dignity, showing that she will receive a lot of good things from you. It’s clear from the example that you made her laugh with your non-standard behavior, but that’s good! Then you can develop the dialogue, because the girl is already ready to communicate.

If you have a good sense of humor, show her this, and don’t write “you know, I have a great sense of humor.” You can joke and even tease her - this will only cheer up the girl. But always control what you say: in extreme cases, your jokes and jokes can really be offensive.” You can even start your dialogue with some kind of joke, for example: “Wasn’t it you who ate all the tangerines in the supermarket yesterday? Continuation: It seems similar - that girl was so pretty too".

In general, a joke may be suitable for the first message, but not vulgar or offensive. You don’t need to immediately shower her with compliments or show her what a super man you are, saying, “As you said, so it will be.” Just be yourself, communicate naturally and easily, letting her know about your interest, but without showing that you began to idolize her from the first glance at the photo.

I want to tell you that even this hated “Hello” can work if you completely fit into her framework. That is, if on your page she found a photo of a young man attractive to her, and then reinforced this opinion by reading the information on the wall, she will even respond to a regular greeting. That is why there are no 100% methods, phrases and methods. You can only remain yourself and not do anything stupid in communication, thus getting what you want, and using our tips you will understand how easy it is to meet people on the Internet.

If you have suggestions or real examples of your online dating success, write them in the comments, everyone will be very interested in supplementing their knowledge.

You can meet a girl on the Internet on dating sites, social networks, and on thematic forums. To interest your interlocutor, you should not start the conversation with banal phrases. "How are you? “- sounds familiar and uninteresting. In the best case, the girl will answer: “Fine,” and the man will again have to rack his brains over how to captivate the person on the other end of the line. Stupid jokes are also not a good idea. If you are not a stand-up comedian, it is better to save the girl’s nerves. You can interest her with erudition, interesting work, and diverse hobbies.

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Personal page monitoring

1. 1. Study the page, personal data, posts on the wall. Find something to “catch on to.” Write that you love the same thing.
2. 2. Check if you have mutual friends. You can send a message with approximately the following content: “What is this “radish” (or good person - depending on the circumstances) doing among your friends? "
3. 3. If you know a girl in real life, but don’t know each other personally, you can start the dialogue like this: “I saw you on the street today. Everyone walked gloomily, but you smiled. What were you thinking about at that moment? "
4. 4. If you are from different cities, ask how the locality lives; you can even ask about disasters.
5. 5. Send her a funny video. Only without vulgarity. Even the most callous people love funny animals and children.
6. 6. It is acceptable to compliment her appearance, but without “fanaticism.” Saying: “Yes, you can paint pictures” is fine, but it’s better not to constantly admire her lips and eyes. Such phrases give away professional pick-up artists.
7. 7. You can start a conversation by discussing books, clubs, trips abroad - depending on what the girl publishes on her personal page. Even discussing the weather is not forbidden if the interlocutor is a meteorologist.

The main thing in communication is to show sincere interest. Women know how to spot Don Juans. Overt flattery should be avoided, as excessive praise looks false.

Turn your weaknesses into strengths

What can you tell about yourself

First message

As you know, people greet you by their clothes, and online by their first message.. Be nice and casual. Girls also love impudence, but the main thing here is not to slip into rudeness. Light trolling is what you need to start a conversation.

Sample phrases for getting to know each other (not for copying, but for thinking):

	"Greetings to sunny Moscow from gloomy St. Petersburg!"
"How are you?"	“You’re probably as in love with Italy (seals, snowboards, rock music) as I am?”
“Girl, doesn’t your mother need a son-in-law?”	“Until now, I was a confirmed bachelor. But it seems that my foundations have been shaken.”
“I want to give you a gift - a kiss. Catch it quickly.”	“Look at the funny slogan on my T-shirt. I love stupid clothes. Do you collect anything?”
"How are you?"	“It’s cold outside. I don’t want to get out of the warmth. Shall we go and freeze together?”
"Have you ordered a guy?"	“Have you ever been to the Khomyachok bar? Do you want to go? I’m kidding, there is no such bar, but there are a bunch of others. I invite you for coffee and donuts.”
"How are you doing?"	“I understand that you adore (insert idol’s name here), and I’m just going to his concert. Will you come with me?”
"You are beautiful"	"Wow! Are you a professional stylist?"

Some young men make the same mistake - they bombard the girl with questions and become overly intrusive. The other extreme is to write a message and disappear. The interlocutor, without waiting for an answer, will simply lose interest.

Meet a man

Dating websites

It is believed that it is easier to meet people on special sites. But even here, “pitfalls” await the man.

Girls come to dating sites with some prejudices. They are sure in advance that the man’s goal is a short relationship, but she came here to start a family.

It would be right to first ask your interlocutor about her interests, goals, hobbies, and only then call her for a cup of coffee. It is advisable to invite a girl to a public place: a cafe, bar, restaurant, club, even to a library or bookstore. But by inviting a guy out for a walk, he risks being branded as stingy and insolvent. Even the most unselfish girl will think about it.

On love sites you need to express yourself in a special way. If on social networks only a few may show attention to a girl, then on dating sites there are dozens of interested men. The main task here is to stand out from the line of interlocutors. It is on a dating site that girls are most likely to appreciate male attention. Compliments, light flirting, and good-natured banter are used.

A story about yourself

Long questions will convince the girl that the man simply has nothing to tell about himself. Therefore, there is no need to be shy about talking about work, interesting cases in practice, curiosities, about your travels, supporting the story with beautiful photographs. Funny stories will amuse your interlocutor and relieve tension. According to research, the most attractive professions in the eyes of women are: doctor, rescuer, military man, businessman. Less popular are firefighters, musicians, and bodyguards. If you work in one of the fields listed, use it in the conversation.

The guy's stories about his own family will convince the girl of the seriousness of his intentions. A woman will especially appreciate her love for children.

Other good topics for conversation:

• animals (girls value kindness and responsibility);
• healthy lifestyle (smoking and alcohol have long been out of fashion);
• future plans (proof that you are a serious and mature personality);
• interests (women love guys who are not boring);
• skills: playing the guitar, sawing with a jigsaw, building model ships (the ability to do something with your hands is valued among women).

You need to be decisive in a conversation, since excessive shyness does not attract women. Women do not like it when a man complains about life, salary and ex-girlfriend. It is worth remembering that the interlocutor will carefully study the profile on the site, so it is advisable to indicate “Friendship and communication” or “Meeting, date” in the purpose of dating. Ladies are sometimes wary of the goal of “creating a family.” Old bachelors who missed time in their youth and now urgently want to start a family, having no experience of living together, declare their desire to get married. You should definitely not indicate “Rare Encounters”.

Many men prefer to meet those girls with whom circumstances bring them together for a long time: at college, at work, or, for example, with those living next door. This option, of course, has a right to exist, but it often poses certain problems: office romances do not have the best impact on a career, and a friend’s girlfriend is far from an ideal option for creating a strong relationship. Therefore, it will be useful for guys to learn how to properly meet a girl on the street.

Psychologists say that there are no places where it would be indecent to make new acquaintances. The other half can wait everywhere, including on the street. Any acquaintance includes elements of a game, so it must take place according to certain rules.

How to meet people on the street?

Many young people do not know how to start meeting a girl. The first sign that communicating with a stranger on the street can be successful is eye-to-eye contact, as well as a friendly and welcoming facial expression. This suggests that the girl liked the guy and paid attention to him. But many men at this moment get lost and simply pass by, reproaching themselves for their indecisiveness. It would be stupid to miss such a chance; you should definitely take advantage of it.

If a guy is wondering where to meet girls, then he should just leave the house. Dating on the street is both a difficult and promising matter, because you can meet completely different girls here. The difficulty of such communication lies in the fact that you need to act quickly and confidently, without disappointing the beautiful stranger. Otherwise, she will simply turn away and continue on her way.

Appearance - business card

When meeting a girl, she evaluates not only the behavior, but also the appearance of the guy. This is what characterizes him in the first place. It is important to look not only stylish, but also neat and well-groomed. Wrinkled clothes and dirty shoes are unlikely to evoke admiring glances from your chosen one.

What to say?

If a guy doesn’t know how to properly meet a girl, he needs to work on the first phrase. It is of no small importance, since the first words will become the beginning of communication. Or they won’t if the guy says something stupid. On the street, girls often think about something of their own, feminine, so they may not immediately respond to someone addressing them.

Before approaching a stranger, it is advisable to make her smile and make eye contact. The first phrase should be as effective as possible and comply with several rules:

• It should consist of several words (1-5), you can simply say “Hello!” or “Let's get to know each other...”
• There is no need to ask a girl a question, because she may not answer. And then the guy will be in a stupid position.
• The phrase should be appropriate to the situation, for example, it could be some comment: “Careful, there’s a car coming.”
• If the guy is confident enough in himself, you can start with a compliment. But it needs to be said in such a way that it looks like admiration, and not a simple banality. The phrase should “hook” the girl.
• You need to address a stranger positively and kindly in order to immediately win her over.

What to talk about?

If a guy wants to understand how to learn how to meet girls, he needs to understand the main thing: in order to trust you, on a subconscious level, the interlocutor must receive answers to the following questions:

• What kind of person is this?
• What does he need from me?
• Can he be trusted?

If a girl is sure that communication will not bring her problems, she will probably be interested in a handsome and witty guy. You can tell about your place of study or work so that your interlocutor learns a little more about you.

It is not so important where you meet; in any case, you need to make sure that the reason for your interest is extremely clear. If the main goal is long-term communication, there is no need to ask the girl for a cigarette or ask what time it is.

How to interest a stranger?

The ideal option is when the girl is initially friendly and responds well to jokes. This means that she liked the man and would be happy to talk to him. But to enjoy such success, you need to know how to properly meet a girl and constantly work on yourself.

What to do if there is no sympathy?

Often, guys get lost in a situation where a girl maintains communication, but there are no visible signs of sympathy. If the stranger does not show emotions, you need to try to interest her.

You can use the following options:

• Make her smile by telling a funny joke or a life story prepared in advance.
• Be interested in your social status, if any. This does not necessarily have to be financial solvency; perhaps the guy participated in some competitions or did charity work.
• Talk about your extreme interests and hobbies.

To feel confident, you need to know not only how to properly meet a girl, but also what to do in case of failure. If there is still no positive result, and the girl continues to communicate “automatically,” it is better to end the conversation, citing employment or an urgent matter, and ask the stranger for her phone number. Rather, it should not be a question, but a statement. The young man should note that he would happily continue the acquaintance over a cup of coffee. Maybe next time she’ll be in a better mood and she’ll reciprocate the guy’s feelings.

How to meet people on social networks?

Nowadays young people spend a lot of time on the Internet and various social networks. Considering this fact, guys should not forget that you can meet girls there too. But if young people think that it is enough to send a message and the girl will immediately continue communication, then they are very mistaken. The technique of how to make acquaintances on VK is quite complex, because you need to attract attention and stand out from hundreds of other accounts.

Working on the page

Having a good photograph is important. Not every girl will want to answer if she has no idea about the owner of the account. There is no need to put pictures of movie characters, inscriptions or photographs of animals on your avatar; this approach will not bring success. The girl does not hear the voice, does not feel the aura, so she will form her first impression based on the photograph.

The “About Me” section must be filled out in detail and interestingly; boring lines will not attract attention. You can indicate bright moments that happened in life, describe hobbies and interests. You should not forget about your sense of humor, but you should also not go too far, so as not to give the impression of a buffoon.

first letter?

If the questionnaire has been compiled and the photograph has been selected, then you can get down to business. First of all, you need to select the page of the girl who will become the “victim”. The first letter should be written in such a way as to captivate and interest, to arouse a desire to continue communication. If she smiles while reading the message, success is almost achieved. Phrases such as “Hey, what are you doing?” and “Hi, how are you?” should be immediately excluded from the arsenal. The maximum they can bring is a monosyllabic answer, from which it will be very difficult to develop interesting and lively communication.

The message should consist of several sentences. If a guy has problems with grammar, it’s worth checking everything carefully at least the first time so that there are no mistakes. This not only makes girls laugh, but also irritates and repels them. To understand what is best to write about, it is worth studying the chosen one’s page, reading her profile and statuses. They can often tell a lot about a girl’s views, mood and feelings. If your profile lists your favorite films, you can write something like this: “Hello, Nastya! In search of communication, I came to this site and found you. I really like going to the cinema, I want to invite you to such and such a film, and then you can drink delicious tea in a cafe.” The text, naturally, will change depending on the girl’s hobbies. It would be nice to back up your words with photographs so that the story looks believable. Then the girl will go to the page and see a confident guy, having fun with friends and enjoying life.

It is not uncommon for young people to turn to a psychologist with the question: “I’m afraid to meet girls, what should I do?” If you don’t have this gift by nature, then you will have to constantly leave your comfort zone. At first, weak legs, increased sweating and stuttering will cause a guy to become completely numb, but over time you can learn to control these processes and not panic. Any overcoming of your own fears and weaknesses is a step towards freedom and self-confidence.

Find motivation

To understand how to learn to meet girls, the best place to start is with yourself. Daily training and communication with different girls is the path to success. To be bolder in communicating with the opposite sex, you need to find a motivational justification. It is not necessary to flirt with every young lady you know and don’t know, you can just have a friendly conversation. Such communication will also give courage and self-confidence.

Active listening

If you have practically no knowledge about how guys meet girls, you can use the tactic of asking more questions that the girl will be pleased to answer.