An illustrative diagram according to which your emotion training sessions should be structured, contributing to the speedy preparation of the soul for reunification with the image of youth and health.

Emotional training rocks the skidding truck of our spirit so that it can roll out of the hole in which it is stuck without hindrance.

Many of us have frayed nerves, tears are close to us, we ourselves often don’t understand why we suddenly break down and unfairly offend our loved ones. All these are signs of a violation of emotional (mental) balance. If this condition persists for a long time, it can lead to neurosis, and after some time - to more serious disorders.

We consider tears a sign of weakness, we are ashamed of them, even when they appear appropriately. This is especially true for men. We are often shackled by dubious conventions, our emotions are suppressed by false attitudes, we have become unnatural, we have forgotten how to behave. Remember how natural children are in expressing their feelings. Is this why their laughter is so contagious and their crying so unbearable?

Let us also be children for a little while - sincere, pure, absolutely free. Let us also let our emotions go free and allow our feelings to prevail over our minds, at least for a short time.

You ask: “Why do we need this?”

To find a feeling of deep inner serenity, comparable to that of a child, is the answer. Remember how easily a child transitions to peace. A second or two, the tears have dried, the face lights up with a radiant smile, the eyes shine. The baby has forgotten everything, forgiven everything and is ready for a new game. We need to restore emotional flexibility to our spirit so that, swaying like a tree caught in a whirlwind, it acquires the ability to withstand the onslaught of everyday storms and always then returns to a neutral, peaceful state.

Life is a theater, and people are actors. The maxim is well-known and common, but it invites us to a game that you and I will now willingly enter into.

Emotions greatly influence our internal state and, as a result, our external appearance. Therefore, in order to look good and constantly be in high spirits, we need to learn to manage our emotions. How to do it? At this stage - with the help of feedback.

If our emotions influence our appearance, then our appearance should influence them, and actors are well aware of this. Quite simple things help them get into the desired image.

Let's turn into actors. Let's try to play the role of a ruler embraced by boundless calm. We play honestly, without bias, physically relaxed and completely freeing the brain, for which we push all extraneous thoughts - one by one - into an imaginary square or circle, like into a trash can.

A necessary reminder. While working with figurative rows, your eyes should be closed.

So, closed your eyes, sat up straight, straightened your shoulders, raised your head, lit up your face with a slight smile... You are the fairest king (or ideal queen) in the world. You are perfection itself, you are filled with nobility and dignity. You are forgiving of everything that surrounds you and everyone who depends on you. You are proud, internally free and completely liberated: you know - everything is vanity of vanities, but you are personally removed from all this, you are absolutely invulnerable...

Now taste the bitter pie.

Remember something from your past that you can’t even think about without crying.

Help yourself get into the role... open your mouth a little, relax your lower jaw, breathe quickly, shallowly, start sobbing slightly and remember, remember, remember... Childhood, youth... Go through all your grievances, griefs, losses, disappointments... that, it seems, is what cheeks are wet - everyone has something to be sad about, something to cry over. Don’t hold back your tears... don’t be ashamed of them, remember that they are healing for you, they free you from all the stupidities and injustices of your past, from everything that tormented and oppressed you, from everything that hung like a stone on your soul... (Fix with the edge consciousness this moment - everything that oppressed and tormented you is gone forever.) Try to switch to sobs, don’t hold them back, intensify them as much as possible... Both good and enough... Tell yourself - stop!

Go to calm, tune yourself to calm... Raise your head, straighten your shoulders, don’t forget: you are an actor (actress)... What happened here? I think we cried a little? Well, nothing - all this is in the past, everything is gone forever. But how nice it is in my soul now, how peaceful it is... (Remember this moment too.)

Now let’s swallow the laugh.

Let's remember something that would... well, just make you die and not get up! (Let's allow ourselves to relax, let's tune in to a cheerful mood.) Who is the easiest to laugh at? First of all, above yourself. And also over friends, over friends, over loved ones. There is so much going on with them, so many fun things in life! We laugh sincerely, contagiously, from the bottom of our hearts. We don’t hold back, we start laughing... and again we tell ourselves - stop!

And again blessed peace. (It’s already easier, the soul is already sliding into it, like a ball into a familiar hole... a familiar, desired, basic state of the soul.)

Let's turn to sadness.

The body is relaxed, the shoulders are lowered, the head is bowed, the hands are thrown limply on the knees... Oh, why did it suddenly become so sad, where did such melancholy come from? Everything somehow doesn’t warm up, everything goes at random... and the children don’t call, don’t write, and a friend has left, and life passes by... what did you do on this earth, why did you trample the soil, why did you live? Everything is hopeless, everything is meaningless - and there is nowhere to go, and no one to say a word with... Have the tears come?.. and God be with them... we don’t even wipe them away... we sit, feel sad, mope - we don’t want anything.

And they returned to peace. Everything is fine and we want everything, but without fanatical urges to jump up and run somewhere. The soul likes a state of balance, it feels comfortable; comfortable, and you would like it to always be like this.

And so (and only so!) of course it will be, but not now, not in the next couple of minutes. Because in the next couple of minutes you are going to try to get scared. And seriously - to the point of horror, to the point of tremors in every cell of your gray matter.

Enter the role of a terminally ill, desperate person. You have no way out, no choice, you are absolutely helpless, abandoned by everyone, there is nothingness in front of you. A week, a month - how much is left? No matter how much is left, it doesn’t matter, there is no way to escape. Try to physically feel this horror, every second gnawing at a doomed person. Inevitability, inevitability - real things. You used to sympathize with people in this situation, now this abyss has opened up beneath you, and there is nothing to rely on, nothing to grab onto... you are powerless, nothing will help you.

Everyone knows the feeling of fear. Fear plays a useful role when it alerts us to danger by stimulating hormonal releases in the blood that encourage us to react defensively. But once you give it free rein, it will turn into a paralyzing nightmare, it will crawl into every corner of your being, nestle in every cell of your skin. Stop when despair becomes unbearable, and in this state, think about what to do? Huddle in a corner? Whine, howl, squeal? Or, having mustered all the courage, do you deserve to say goodbye to those who are dear to you and loved by you, and at the same time to everyone with whom your path has crossed in this life? Say goodbye, forgive, ask for forgiveness for everything you once did wrong, for all the suffering you brought to someone... Maybe because you once didn’t understand something, didn’t forgive, didn’t regret, turned your nose up , accumulated grievances, bent, breaking someone else’s, your own - maybe this is precisely the main reason for what is happening to you now? Maybe you are now being rewarded for your past deeds? You will see, this one thought will immediately bring relief and remove fear. On this note, without hesitation, start from the abyss upward!

You woke up, woke up, you feel incredible joy. You are young, alive, healthy, the nightmare has dissipated, it turned out to be a bad dream. And - thanks to him. The contrast seemed to renew you. Every cell of your body trembles with the desire to live. All things are seen in a new light, all roads are open, all horizons are clear! Remember this state (and value your past experience at least for the fact that it initially serves as a trampoline for your high jumps). You should always wake up in this mood. At the same time, it is not at all necessary to have nightmares in your dreams.

Moreover, you should be in this mood all the time. At first (especially when the cats are scratching your soul), learn to artificially awaken the joy of life in yourself until it begins to come to you on its own.

Train your emotions daily, adhering to the above scheme, but try to build your own imagery. You need to properly develop your spirit so that it gains flexibility, so that the pendulum of your well-being does not get stuck in extreme positions, but always comes to neutral. In addition, such activities greatly enrich a person’s inner world. Some time will pass, and you will be surprised to notice that those around you are drawn to you. Why? Because a secret has appeared in you, a riddle, because you have changed. You have become broader and deeper than the character who stood in for you while you were wandering away from yourself.

Don't be embarrassed if things don't work out for you at first. Believe in success and tirelessly activate your creativity. To increase your work efficiency, look for your own details for each training position, combining them with storylines that are close to you personally. At first it will seem difficult, but then the ice will break and you will find them with ease. Creative searches develop our imagination, helping to quickly form an image of youth and health and prepare us to merge with it.

Such a merger is best facilitated by meditation - a state of deep concentration or, in other words, a person’s special mental disposition to receive positive (light) vibrations (waves) of the macro- and microcosm that permeate the world space.

You should learn to easily, almost automatically, enter this state with the help of appropriate figurative constructions, which the next chapter will talk about in more detail.

The importance of meditation in the practice of self-healing.

Etc Examples of figurative series, mentally sorting through which the student enters an emotional state that promotes the merging of his essence with the image of youth and health.

Ancient Eastern sages believed that a person has two ways of communicating with the Almighty. The first of them is prayer, when a person speaks and the Creator listens to his words. The second way to communicate with the Creator is meditation, when a person remains silent and absorbs everything that the Lord inspires in him.

Thus, meditation - we emphasize once again - is a special state of deep concentration of a person in his mental disposition to perceive the positive (light) vibrations of the universe. A student, starting self-health training using this method, must learn to freely enter this state, because it:

a) has a calming effect on the human psyche;

b) greatly enhances the effectiveness of all exercises of the method;

c) promotes the organic fusion of the inner essence of the person being healed with his individual image of youth and health.

Meditation brings order to our inner world, straightening spiritual deformations, forcing our bodily and spiritual energy to work harmoniously, either directing it to eliminate certain defects, or directing it towards the general improvement of the body and spirit of the student.

Directed meditation aimed at improving the health of a dysfunctional organ of the body ensures the high effectiveness of all types of non-contact automassage, which will be discussed in Chapters 3 and 4 of the book. Meditation on the cleansing act of forgiveness plays a special role in the process of self-healing. This action will be discussed in more detail in Chapter 5.

General meditations create a special mood in the soul of the person being healed, without which the reunification of his essence with the image of youth and health is almost impossible. This mood is achieved by mentally traveling along a series of visual, auditory, tactile, olfactory and dynamic images, arranged in a certain order.

The return on such trips increases many times over when these figurative rows are selected by the students themselves, but at first you can use the options given below. Experience shows that many students find the last one most pleasant and close.

We relax our whole body, close our eyes, breathe calmly... feel a slight coolness, relax our facial muscles... Imagine that each of our cells becomes light, airy, as if weightless.

With each inhalation and exhalation, our hands move forward a little... inhale-exhale... the body becomes weightless, light... we mentally look at our hands from the side... we move our head back a little... lightness, lightness... the body becomes light. Wonderful…

Our hands move apart, then reach out to each other... Mentally we move a little to the side... How the feeling of our own body becomes dull, how it becomes easy, calm... What are we thinking about? One by one we dispel, we remove those thoughts that bother us, to one side... to another... third... fourth... Great. We remove it faster, give it lightness, airiness, weightlessness... Lightness, freedom, divine calm... We give ourselves the suggestions that we need. We imagine our face - fresh, young... our body - elastic, light... our muscles - elastic, light, free... We walk, leaning on our fingertips - this is how they walk in ballet... We smile, we are calm... Our every organ, every cell is working freely, easily... We tell ourselves: I will be healthy - and soon. I will!.. Deep sleep, good appetite. The mood is calm... Clarity in the mind... Clarity in the head... Clarity in actions... Full control... We give up... Great.

On a gray background it’s vague... a square, a circle, a triangle... a brighter square, a circle... a triangle... a bright square, sharper edges, a circle...

The circle turns into a ball with cloudy edges... brighter, more distinct - the edges... We give the ball a color... gray... lighter, lighter, more... more... gray turns into blue, grayish-blue... Blue brightens, turns into blue, light blue , white - with a hint of sea color, yellowish, yellow, tangerine, tangerine... - reddish-yellow, orange, scarlet, red, purple, pinkish, pink, hot pink, lilac, greenish-lilac, light green, yellow-green, bright green, dark green, violet-green, violet, light violet…

Now it’s as if some flower is floating before your eyes... try to see, feel every petal... a bug is crawling... the ladybug is busily searching every fold with its antennae... There are fibers on the petals, pollen inside, a smell... below you can guess a table... old, old... with blackened legs... Tablecloth old, but clean, clean... on the table there is a pot, cast iron, old, but polished to a shine... We put a flower in the pot... A small window... a curtain... we look out the window...

We mentally look around ourselves... our bare feet are scratched, our heels are hard from walking barefoot... we look at our hands, they are surprisingly small... we open the window... sunny... The warm smell of flowers, grass... blue, clear sky... clouds here and there... We walk along the path, there is silence all around ... quiet, calm, nothing interferes... only the leaves tremble, as if someone is touching them and they rustle... the trampled earth warms the heels... There is silence in the soul... relaxation... high, high, a lark, bursting with love, singing... The singing of a lark... in the distance behind the hills there is a forest, a calm, resting forest... a cool, resting forest... We look at the clouds, at the water... crystal clear sand... We begin to slowly soar up to the clouds... any desire is subject to us... we rise up into the clouds... we look around, down... heat... cool air in the forest... We hear the mooing of cows wandering home from the field... we return to the house... Feet are dirty, dusty... At home, grandmother, grandfather, parents... do not notice, peacefully talking about something of their own...

We fall asleep, we fall asleep, there is no strength... Rough hands, calloused, take, stroke our hair, put us into a clean, cool bed... voices... the child is growing... heavy... did not reach the bed... and we dissolve... we no longer feel anything... sleep.

Having woken up, we lie with our eyes closed... There is a pot of baked milk on the table... We raise our hands... we lower them...

Childhood is the starting point, we look from childhood, we look back at our lives... Is it worth being nervous, offended, angry, tense, striving to surpass someone there?..

Life passes... with love... passes... with hatred... passes... Everything is in our hands...

There is everything in life - both joy and sorrow... We are looking for heaven - it comes... we are looking for hell - it comes... What is better - life in heaven or in hell? The choice is ours... We create difficulties for ourselves... Any riches in the world will not preserve happiness... We just were children, and now we have silver in our hair... We don’t know what happiness is... yesterday we laughed, now we suffer... what will happen in the future - love or tears? .. the choice is ours... everything is in our hands...

Twilight... warmth... the seashore... the sounds of music are barely audible... as if tango... yes, a beautiful tango... the melody seems pleasant, familiar... very pleasant, very familiar - it awakens memories... A small orchestra is playing - on a tiny stage, on the very shore of the sea ... it’s late, everyone has already left... the musicians are playing only for you... You are in a light light dress, next to you is the one you have always dreamed of... you are dancing, you are almost weightless, you obey the rhythm, the music... you are happy, your soul is trembling with divine bliss ... The melody takes you higher and higher... spinning... spinning in a dance of happiness... You literally dissolve in it... You are happy.

Good books, poems, music are also able to tune a person to the desired wave, close to his inner essence. Read more, think, reflect, try to expand your horizons in every possible way.

The importance of training emotions in the process of creating an image of youth and health.

The desire to be healed - what it should be.

Tuning fork effect.

The purifying value of the act of forgiveness.

Let's talk again about our emotions, feelings, desires, because every moment of our life is colored by them.

We already know something about them, for example, that they have a direct effect on our health, and also that between them and our posture (appearance) there is not only a direct, but also an inverse relationship. Now we need to learn the following thing: it depends on how we work with emotions whether we live on this earth happily ever after or sadly, creakingly pulling our burden, waiting for the end.

The goal of a person who decides to train according to our system is to become HEALTHY and YOUNG. “I want to become young and healthy!” - such a person says loudly to himself and thereby expresses a thought, that is, outlines the idea of ​​​​the task. “Well,” the body responds, “I really want this too. But your thought alone, master, is not enough for me to do a good job. Give me some clearer guidelines, tell me more precisely what I should strive for.” “Have it your way,” the person says and involves imaginative thinking, that is, he begins to form his personal ideal image of health and youth, so that a dry thought takes on “flesh.”

An illustration of what the image we create should be is the example of a girl who was cured of diabetes, which we talked about at the end of Section I of the book.

From the point of view of our methodology, there is nothing strange in this case. The girl was simply lucky enough to intuitively find her image of health, and she managed to completely merge with it. In other words, her personal image of health became her essence, and nature did the rest. This happened, firstly, because the girl REALLY WANTED to become healthy (“like everyone else”). And secondly, her age most likely played into her hands (that well-known “difficult” transitional period in the development of the human personality, when a person is no longer a child, but has not yet had time to grow up). At this age, teenagers are characterized by very contrasting changes in emotions and very strong movements of feelings. Plus, a biologically planned restructuring was taking place in the girl’s body, so the image of health “arrived” at the right moment.

“It still looks like a fairy tale,” you say, waving your hand. - Well, okay, girl, a young developing organism. But my body is fading, old. Where can I get strong movements of feelings? I, of course, want to get better, but I only feel one thing - that my sores can kill me today or tomorrow!

It's good that the girl's story seems like a fairy tale. This only proves once again that there is much more reality in fairy tales than we give them credit for.

As for the “strong movement of feelings” that you do not have, then by training emotions, we are precisely solving this problem. We are precisely developing, warming up our spirit, bringing it “to the required condition” so that our desire to heal and become younger reaches the desired point of intensity and helps our image of health to organically merge with the spirit and flesh of our being. “Of course, I want to get better” is a sluggish, amorphous phrase. Wanting is not easy. You have to be able to want. After all, the success of our work mainly depends on HOW we want it.

Let me, to clarify this issue, offer you a small test.

Imagine that there is a board in front of you. Stable, strong and able to support your weight. It is slightly raised above the floor. You are offered to walk along it. Can you do it? Certainly. Would you like to? Unknown. Maybe yes, maybe not. Well, okay, the company seems to be a good one, everyone is coming, and the girls (or boys) are watching. I'll pass, so be it. And off you go. But you still have doubts swirling in your brain - do I need all this?

You walked the board because you wanted to. But the desire was implicit, weak, provoked by a small target calculation (it would be nice for the girls to like him, and for the company at the same time). You had a choice: to go or not to go. And if you had not gone, you would not have lost much. Nothing would have happened if you had stumbled.

Now there's another option. In front of you is the same board, but it is already raised high (three or four meters above a pile of stones or asphalt). Can you walk around it now? Probably yes, but first think hard about whether it’s worth the risk? There is already an obvious calculation in your thoughts and reasoning, and the fear of hurting yourself in case of failure is placed on one side of the scale. If the board is thrown to the balcony of your beloved, you will undoubtedly walk on this board. The risk remains, but the winner is rewarded. What motivates you? The desire (great desire) to receive a prize. But, note, you can still refuse a dangerous walk. By doing this, you, as they say, will remain with your own people. Health is more valuable, but your loved one will die or eventually come down to you on her own. The desire is great, but sanity (or laziness) wins.

Third option. The board is thrown over the abyss. There is a child in his arms, behind his back there is a mortal threat, a fire. How long will you think about this? Yes, without hesitation, you will run (or, stepping carefully, walk) along this board. You automatically mobilize all your strength to save the baby. You have something to lose, something to save for. The desire to overcome the obstacle, in comparison with the other two options, will triple, tenfold. As a matter of fact, there will be nothing left in you except this desire (no “I can - I can’t”, “I want - I don’t want”, no ulterior or extraneous thoughts).

Capture this moment. He clearly shows HOW you should want healing, HOW you should strive for the desired goal.

This is why we train emotions. That’s why we artificially plunge ourselves into the black abysses of despair, then soar like a candle to clear heights, permeated with the joy of being. We make our desire to get healthier and look younger INTENSIVE and QUALITY. We know that there is a mortal threat behind us, a fire, but knowing is not enough, we need to become one with this knowledge for a while, we need to clearly imagine all this horror. Only in this state will our body mobilize all its resources to “run across the board”, only in this case the process of restructuring will truly become an avalanche.

But here, as in any other matter, there is a danger of both “underdoing” and “going too far.” Your desire to be healed should not be insufficient or fanatical. A weak desire provokes uncertainty; too strong a desire provokes haste. Moving slowly (board topic), you can lose your balance; hurrying, you can fly to the side. Intuition, which is developed in us by the same training of emotions, will help us find the optimum. Here is an image for you, as a rough guide: your desire is a hand, your health is a bird. The fingers should be squeezed so as not to strangle the fragile creature and at the same time not allow it to fly away.

When your artificially created ideal image of health and youth comes into line with the general mood of your body, the “tuning fork effect” will appear. Both structures will sound in unison and, having combined in all positions, will become a single whole. What does it take for such a merger to happen?

Please note that it is not for nothing that the methodology emphasizes that the image of health and youth that we create must be ideal, that is, clean, light, bright, free from foreign impurities. The state of your soul should be just as pure, free, and bright. Otherwise, the structures will not match, and the ball will not settle into the cluttered hole.

What clogs the soul? Emotional waste. Envy, anger, despair, irritation, the oppression of long-standing grievances - you continue the list yourself. Emotion training revises our emotional state; it clears away and clears away the emotional rubble that accumulates in the nooks and crannies of our subconscious and depresses our spirit. However, only one meditative action can free us from this rubbish, namely meditation on the act of forgiveness.

To forgive means to put an end to something wrong, unfair, bad once and for all, and thereby relieve your soul. Just as the human body needs to get rid of harmful toxins, the human soul also needs cleansing. Forgiveness is the act of this cleansing, which has a beneficial effect on the health of our soul and, consequently, on the physical health of our body. The correctness of this statement was brilliantly confirmed by Louise Hay from her own experience. “Every illness comes from unforgiveness,” she once told herself and, adhering to this postulate, she managed to independently heal from an illness against which official medicine had admitted its powerlessness.

Wise people have known about the great significance of this action since ancient times. In Christianity, for example, there is a holiday - Forgiveness Resurrection. On this day, each person can come to another and ask him for forgiveness or, in turn, forgive someone. This is a quiet, joyful, soul-enlightening holiday.

But what if our offenders (or those whom we have offended) are no longer on earth or they are so far away that they can no longer be reached? There is only one way out - to mentally imagine these people, talk to them and sincerely, from the bottom of your heart, forgive them everything (or ask them to grant you forgiveness).

If relief does not come, you should repeat the meditation and repeat it until the disturbing echoes in the soul completely subside. You should do the same with unpleasant situations, memories of which have tormented you for a long time (maybe even decades).

This refers, in particular, to those moments when you could have said something, but didn’t (or, conversely, said too much), when you could have done something, but didn’t (or, conversely, went too far), when you could have done well, but did differently. Mentally play out the flawed situation in all its details, bring it to a critical moment, and then direct it in a positive direction, that is, mentally do what seems right to you. Repeat the meditation until the pain subsides. After all, since childhood, there has been an observer in us who understands well when we do something “wrong.” The name of this observer is our conscience.

An example of a cleansing meditative action that removes negative layers from the soul.

Close your eyes, enter the image of a sad, unlucky person. You are in an empty cinema. The hall is in twilight. The screen is still blank, but you know that now a film about you will be shown on it. How it was built, what it will tell about - nothing is known. There is curiosity in the soul, mixed with anxiety, it grows, pain appears behind it. Everything dear to you is gone forever, and it’s as if it never existed: the past consists of nothing but troubles, disappointments, humiliations, insults... Memory sorts through these grievances, goes deeper, to youth, to childhood... first griefs... emptiness in a candy wrapper instead of candy, the neighbor boy took away a toy... and something else, and another, and another...

The screen lights up, some silhouettes, shadows, faces are moving there... you peer, but without tension, the sharpness gradually increases, you begin to recognize someone in the line of faces. Look, these are the people you have met in life. Many of them hurt you, and you hurt someone... You didn’t call anyone here on purpose, but they came, they are here, which means both they and you need it. This means you must talk to everyone who comes.

Mentally enter the screen, become a participant in the action, say to each of your offenders something like this: “Yes, you once did something that made me feel very bad. I was very hurt, but now it’s in the past, it’s not like it never happened - I forgive you! hearts: “You are in the past, I am here of my own free will to say goodbye, my life is the present, I forgive you!..” Do not stay with anyone for a long time, go from person to person, but talk to everyone, even those who are not familiar to you, and listen to everyone, and forgive, and ask for forgiveness from those whom you yourself may have hurt. Be kind to everyone, especially to your loved ones, loved ones cause us the greatest suffering, but sometimes they themselves don’t know what they are doing... forgive them everything. If tears appear, do not hold them back... Cry and cry, tears bring relief, with them goes away everything that tormented and oppressed you, everything that will never return now.

Mentally tell yourself - enough. I visited the past, but only because I wanted it... Now I am not the same as I was before, my life is the present. Everything bad that happened has nothing to do with me, there is no place for it in me. Yes, in my life there were many mistakes, insults, griefs and disappointments, but I am LIVING, which means I had the strength to survive everything, which means I have the strength to move on, and I will never return to my old self, I will never I will become the same, I am doing everything in my power not to become the same, I want to become renewed, different... I am already different. I think, I feel, I breathe, and this alone is happiness, but before I didn’t understand it, didn’t know it, didn’t appreciate it.

Everything I need for happiness is with me and in me, I have a goal in life and nothing prevents me from moving towards it. I am young, I am confident in my abilities, I will do everything to make my life full and happy - I know that I can do this. (Clearly formulate a specific goal, the movement towards which fills your life with joy and meaning. Children, family, work... Everyone may have something different here.)

If you manage to carry out this training in the right way, if you are able to sincerely and from the bottom of your heart forgive all your offenders for all your old and recent grievances, you will feel incredible relief, similar, perhaps, even to bliss. Your soul will be freed from heavy oppression, and the “naughty” image of youth will slide into the vacant place, it will merge with you and become part of your being.

Ups and downs, ebbs and flows, day and night, heat and cold, light and darkness... The world order in which we exist is characterized by rhythmic qualitative movements of things and energies to the polar points of their states. Our moods also fall under this general law. We are either moping for no reason, then we become cheerful, we either feel like we are ready to move mountains, then we notice that the work is not going well and we scold our “leaky hands.” Our condition is subject to changes that, at first glance, do not depend on us.

Meanwhile, the quality of the healing process directly depends on a person’s mood. According to the observations of American scientists, 30% of people suffering from severe cancer overcome this scourge. Psychological studies of those who were healed showed that they were all optimists by nature and during their illness they not only did not mourn their bitter fate, but did not even think about a sad end. They did not fight for life, they lived (daily, hourly, every minute), rejoicing in their small successes and not losing heart in the hours of defeat. They believed that the clouds that covered their horizons would certainly go away. It is no coincidence that despondency in Christian ideology is considered one of the most serious sins.

That is why it is so important for each of us to be able to cope with the tides of melancholy (depressed state of mind). The next chapter explains how to do this using the skills gained from training emotions.

Optimism. (How to become an optimist with a pronounced tendency towards pessimism).

Optimism, as we have said more than once, directly contributes to the speedy recovery of our body and spirit. The chapter below will tell you how you can become an optimist even with a pronounced tendency towards pessimism. Once you decide to build a temple of health and youth, drain the swamp in which your good intentions are drowning!

It is best to begin this kind of amelioration when you more or less clearly understand your emotions and learn to control them more or less.

A depressed state of mind brings destruction, and in it lies the truth of death.

An optimistic mood promotes creation; it contains the truth of life.

Having thrown both of these on the scales, it is not difficult to establish whether you are wandering along the sunny or shady side of the street, and this way you can get a chance to move to the sunny side in time if it turns out that you are a pessimist.

First, let's create a work schedule. To do this, we will have to evaluate our well-being and performance every day for a month. We evaluate using a 10-point system. 10 divisions up the vertical axis from the zero mark - assessment of positive well-being (light), 10 divisions down - assessment of negative well-being (black, shadow). The horizontal axis of the graph is the time scale.

Day after day we evaluate our condition and plot the points corresponding to the estimates on the graph. By connecting them a month later with a smooth line, we get a wavy curve (the line of our mood). We find the middle line between the extreme (upper and lower) points of the graph.

It is she who will show us how we “stand” in this life. It is precisely this that we should try to raise to the proper height, that is, direct it towards creation and health.

In the course of further observations, the schedule will be increasingly refined. You can create a daily schedule in a similar way. Keep in mind that mood swings vary from person to person. These cycles vary from person to person - they range from 20 to 34 days, and sometimes longer. Only you can determine your cycle.

A person, depending on the “color” of the day, reacts very differently to the same things. See the next page for examples of such polar reactions.

Mood is up (bright day) / Mood is down (dark day)

Morning: A vigorous rise, the rustling of invisible wings in the air. / We can barely open our eyes; there’s some kind of disgust in the air.

Attitude towards the universe: I love everything, I embrace everything. / The eyes would not look at anything.

Mirror: And I’m still very, very! / What a face!

Wardrobe: Choose your shirt carefully. / We get into anything.

The way to work: We look around with curiosity. / We don’t see anything. I wish I could get there soon.

Stranger (stranger): The desire to impress. / There are all kinds of people walking around here! There is no way out of them.

Conversation: Smile, complimentary. / Closedness, reluctance to talk.

Rain: God, how fresh! / This stupid drizzle again!

Eyes of the person you meet: Shine like stars! / Two hooks. If you gape, you'll eat it whole!

Arriving at work: Hello! Good morning! Glad to see you! Hello old man! / Silently we make our way to our place. In response to greetings, we mutter something incomprehensibly.

Plans for the day: A couple of witty ideas. / Gloomy contemplation of one’s own hands.

Thoughts: Soaring like birds! / My head is a mess, a confusion.

Performance: Ready to move mountains! / Everything falls out of hand.

Discussion of a work problem: Striving for a mutually beneficial solution. / Irritation, readiness to explode and remember all the sins of someone.

Creativity: Searching for a non-standard option. / I don’t care about anything.

Lunch: Consumed with gusto. / Not soup, but slop! I should pour this mud down the cook’s collar!

Home: Laughter, kisses, cheerful chatter. / Sighs, coughs, petty quibbles.

Before bed: Tea, a pleasant, smooth feeling. / A glass, blues, a feeling of vague anxiety.

Tomorrow: In rainbow colors. / Something dim, I can’t make it out.

So, let's start correcting our mood. Strictly speaking, there is nothing extremely complicated in this work. It’s just that on “dark” days you need to take extra care of yourself and not lose the image of a calm, strong, self-confident person. Your whole appearance should indicate that everything is going well with you. Push yourself, but without much pressure.

The mood curves of both optimists and pessimists have a constant distance between the top and bottom points. Your task is to reduce from cycle to cycle the distance between the bottom point and the background line of the graph and, accordingly, increase it between the top point and the background line. Show your will, don’t let your mood line slide down. The rise should not be carried out from the lowest point of the chart, but much earlier - from a point artificially created by you. Thus, from cycle to cycle the bottom point of your chart should go higher and higher.

And a few more words. Maintaining an optimistic attitude is especially important precisely when you don't feel like it most, as well as on days of intense training. Remember, melancholy and laziness are not your thing. Your guidelines are health, youth, optimism.

So, dear readers, we hope that you have become sufficiently familiar with the principles of self-healing practice sam jong do (a school that teaches a person to resist any negative manifestations of external forces). You also gained an understanding of the importance of the image of youth and health in the process of self-healing of body and spirit, you understood what it consists of and how it is formed. Plus, you should have well understood the essence of the exercises aimed at cultivating the spirit. Emotion training, meditative constructions, meditation on the act of forgiveness, mood correction - all these are means that serve a single purpose: to awaken the dormant forces of your soul and mobilize them to the practical solution of the primary and urgent task - to return your prematurely fading (and perhaps even already and decrepit) organism. A person can live up to 120 years or more without aging; there are many examples of this in the history of mankind. (Here it is appropriate to recall our contemporary, the famous American scientist Paul Bragg, familiar to knowledgeable readers from the book “The Miracle of Fasting,” who at the age of 95 remained a lively, energetic and active person until a tragic incident cut short his life.)

Now you and I must get down to work, each stage of which will be accompanied by a specific return, namely real changes in your physical condition with subsequent healing and rejuvenation of the whole body, for which you are given a time-tested tool, which is Norbekov’s self-healing system, the use of which leads to to stunning results if a person actively, diligently and relentlessly follows all her instructions and believes in success.

Why don't most people live the way they would like? Because they lack the spirit. You can call it differently: inner core, character, spirit. The essence is the same.

Spirit is essential for a successful life. And in general for life, because this is really not a hundred meters, but a marathon. What is needed here is not a heroic impulse, but endurance and perseverance. Including in the face of danger, death. Good example fortitude- tunnel from prison. Composure before execution. Almost everyone has something that seems unbearable - a wife, a country, a job. And the spirit is what helps you walk even when there are red spots in front of your eyes. Reach the end and win. Because you won't achieve anything by being in your comfort zone. This is a household matter - you can lie on the sofa all your life for your pleasure. The main thing is to understand what will lead to what, to what finish.

How strengthen the spirit? Spirit is a derivative of willpower, its manifestation and expression. What is willpower? This is the ability to overcome oneself, the ability to concentrate on one subject, to gather in a strong-willed bundle. How to train willpower? Read carefully - the main thing here is to understand the principle, and the specific method can be anything: physical or mental.

For example, the world famous actor Will Smith said that as a child, his father instructed him and his brother to dismantle a brick wall and move the bricks to another place. It took them 2 years. After this, the father said: “Now you won’t be able to say that you can’t do anything.” That is, it takes constant effort over quite a long time. Although, a year will be enough.

You can engage in internal development - for example, meditate for 1 year every day for 1 hour. Even just looking at a black dot on a white wall just develops the ability to concentrate and be collected. It sounds easy, but for a modern person it is very difficult, since he is sorely short of time. Plus, some thoughts arise like: “Why do you need all this? How can? There is still no result.” Well, we need to take into account distracting factors such as relatives. A modern person may only have enough time at school, and even that is not a fact. And already at university, many begin to earn extra money. So this is also a test.

Can strengthen the spirit training. Martial arts and martial arts are especially suitable - always with sparring or full contact fights. At the beginning, everyone has a certain jitters before sparring - will I embarrass myself, will I be scared? The anxiety can be so strong that you will want to quit everything. And here you just have to take it and go, no matter what. The ability to force yourself not to miss training is also an important part of martial art. Because this is precisely what develops the will. Set a goal for yourself to retire for at least 1 year and do it. Or better yet, 2 or 3 years.

But, again, the method can be any. A psychologist I know strengthens the spirit at the expense of push-ups - partly because he can’t stand them. You can train your willpower by jogging in the morning when you want to sleep. You can also douse it with ice water. In general, everything that is difficult and unpleasant, that forces you to overcome yourself. Asceticism won’t hurt here either, but more on that another time. But you can also study music, foreign languages ​​- anything!

Keep in mind that rationality is needed everywhere - if you are overtired, then overcoming yourself will not lead to anything good. You will only become even more tired, and sooner or later you will quit your studies, which will lead to a decrease in self-esteem. Healthy sleep and normal food are simply necessary.

But when you gain some experience, and quantity turns into quality, you will understand this from the looks of others. The Spirit will change your posture, your voice and your look. Those around you will make way, and the girls, on the contrary, will cling to you. The spirit is your real backbone.

People with strong character are often said to have willpower or fortitude. This trait allows a person to achieve his goals, regardless of any obstacles in life. Strength of spirit helps a person to withstand difficult situations. Therefore, the question of how to develop willpower is quite logical. But before doing anything, you should directly understand the definition of the very psychological concept of will.

From a psychological point of view

Will is one of the most difficult concepts to understand in psychology. But, despite this, in order to know how to develop willpower, it is necessary to clarify for yourself what willpower is. This concept is formulated differently in different sources, so you need to understand it intuitively. The psychology of will is related to the fact that human behavior and all activities are based not only on emotions and feelings. When making decisions, will is required. This means fortitude is a prerequisite for success.

According to its structure, human volitional behavior can be divided into the following stages:

• Decision-making;
• Implementation of plans.

In psychology, there are several types of will:

• Inviting or initiating. It is conscious decision making that helps you move towards your goals.
• Stabilizing. These are the efforts that a person needs to maintain his active activity.
• Brake. These are actions aimed at limiting the most powerful desires that prevent the achievement of a goal.

Psychologists say that the essential components of fortitude and willpower are:

• Desires, which are the motivation that discards everything secondary. They initially indicate to a person where to strive in order to achieve his goals.
• Belief in your own strength. It is this that allows you to move in the right direction to make your dream come true.
• Courage responsible for making important decisions. It gives impetus to the desire to realize your own desires.
• Decisiveness, allowing you to make a choice in a timely manner without hesitation.
• Patience, which allows you to remain faithful to your goals and not give up, no matter what.
• Discipline. It forces a person to make decisions in accordance with the rules and norms of society.

Development

Strength of spirit guarantees a person’s determination and organizes his life. Therefore, the question of how to develop willpower is not idle. Without such a character trait it is impossible to become a successful person. Strength of spirit makes a person free and independent. He becomes an active member of society, and the ability for self-regulation makes him resistant to negative external circumstances. When faced with obstacles on the way to a goal, a person is able to make the right decision about whether to choose a different way to achieve what he wants or increase efforts to overcome the obstacles that have arisen.

The question of how to develop willpower often arises in people during difficult periods of life. But it does not apply to complex dilemmas. This is due to the fact that every person has the desire to become strong by nature itself. As a result, when wondering how to cultivate willpower in yourself, you should not immediately resort to the first exercises and trainings you come across. Initially, formulate for yourself what fortitude is in your understanding. Then evaluate how this character trait can affect your life.

If after this the desire to learn how to train willpower or how to strengthen willpower does not disappear, then in order to tune in to effective work on yourself, follow these steps:

• State your goals briefly and precisely in writing. Analyze each goal and predict how much faster you will be able to achieve your goal if the willpower training is successful and you learn to overcome yourself.
• Write down those traits of your own character that the development of will will allow you to modify. It doesn’t matter how many shortcomings you plan to get rid of, the main thing is to take them all into account. If you know how to develop mental strength, you will be able to successfully overcome them in the shortest possible time.

This approach will allow you to better understand what willpower represents in your particular case and how to develop and strengthen it.

Types of training

If you are interested in how to strengthen your fortitude, you must first of all understand that for a long time you will need to make certain efforts every day, without doing yourself any favors. You can train willpower with special exercises, which are as follows:

• In keeping a diary. It is necessary to record your plans and monitor their implementation. Planning will ensure greater efficiency in the life process and will help cultivate commitment. You should not note your own achievements in a diary.
• In developing the habit of acting purposefully. To do this, strive to observe all your actions, as if from the outside. The development of willpower involves an objective assessment of one’s own actions. You cannot exaggerate your achievements and flatter yourself. Any failure should become an incentive to successfully take the next step.
• In getting rid of the desire to fight and destroy. A trained will makes a person transform and build. To do this, learn to treat your own mistakes strictly, but always wisely. This will allow you to develop the strong-willed side of your character associated with the desire to become better.
• In the correct formulation of tasks, taking into account the fact that you need to move from simple to complex. Strengthening character cannot be associated with the desire to embrace the immensity.

In addition, among character-strengthening methods, you can focus on the fact that you need to strive to make real promises to yourself. Moreover, they must be fulfilled. This will teach you to keep your word given to other people.

It is also important to train yourself to never quit something you start. It must be brought to its logical conclusion, even in cases where enthusiasm has disappeared or an understanding of the meaninglessness of the activity has come. In this situation, you need to take a little rest and wait until your “second wind” opens. The habit of giving up what you start has a detrimental effect on a person and quickly stops his further development.

Understanding the question of what willpower is, you need to realize that this character trait is incompatible with laziness. Not wanting to do anything is a serious hindrance. Laziness can destroy a person’s will and force him to give up his most cherished desires. Therefore, the strengthening of character developed during training is always associated with the fight against laziness. To do this, it is recommended to praise yourself for any overcoming. You need to force yourself to enjoy even the smallest positive result in your activity. When doing difficult or unpleasant work, never regret it. Discard even the thought that your hobby or communication with friends would be much more enjoyable for you.

An effective way is self-hypnosis. It is only very important to use specific incentives for this. For example, during the auto-training process, prepare yourself for the fact that you are quite capable of achieving your goals. Remember that thanks to a strong character, each of us can become the manager of our own strengths, which are given to us by nature. In other words, this will allow a person to become the master of his own destiny.

Any person finds himself in a situation where he gives up and it seems that there is no way out of the current situation. The feeling of despair, confusion and hopelessness in these moments consumes and does not allow you to straighten your back and analyze the problem in order to find a way out of it.

There are three types of people: the first are strong in spirit and recover from the blows of fate in a matter of moments; the second is true, but they clearly look for a way out and find it. But there is a third type - such people are unsettled by ambiguous situations. They withdraw into themselves for a long time, stop living fully, consider themselves worthless and failures, and often get sick, drink, or become depressed.

What to do in such a situation? How to get out of it correctly without losing your human appearance? How to learn not to lose heart?

Raising morale in accessible ways

In order not to give in to panic, not to despair and not to fall into a state of blues, you can use effective methods to raise morale.

And your strength. Even just by believing, you can withstand and overcome a lot. Understand that you are not a “cog” in the system, but an individual. And even if you don’t succeed the first time, you will definitely succeed the second or third time.
Firmly assess your strengths and capabilities. You have a basic level of skill, and you should understand that there are people more experienced and knowledgeable than you. A balanced, objective assessment of your knowledge will help you avoid possible disappointments and will encourage you to increase your level of professionalism and skill.
Analyze the situation with a sober head. Analyzing the situation in a calm environment will help you evaluate bad experiences and make constructive decisions for the future. In addition, when you evaluate, this is already, and not melancholy and distrust of yourself.

Lessons learned. Develop an attitude towards various kinds of situations in which failure is perceived as a bitter experience. Take something important and valuable from failure that will prevent you from stepping on the same “rake” in the future. This knowledge will lead to success in your next attempt.
Don't refuse support. By withdrawing into yourself, you make the situation worse. The support of friends, family, and colleagues will make it easier to bear all the hardships. And by discussing the situation out loud, you will better understand and accept the main problems.
Searching for positive notes in any, even the most depressing situation. The main thing is that all loved ones are healthy and alive, and everything else is a stage and the next step, which is also surmountable. And even if it didn’t work out today, it will definitely work out later.
Honor generally accepted moral and government laws. This circumstance will not make it possible to come to any irreparable situations.
Take a break. Any intractable task is just a part of life, which sooner or later will come to its logical conclusion. Do something you like - it will distract you from heavy thoughts and prevent you from bending under the weight of life's difficulties.
Negativity, feelings of shame and guilt will complicate the task. They block the view to see the situation with a sober look and prevent you from making a correct and thoughtful decision. In addition, it is the accumulated negativity that most often becomes the cause of alcohol or drug addiction.

Be responsible for your actions. By taking responsibility for your actions, you take your life into your own hands. on other people - this is not a way out of the situation, but only burying it in the deep subconscious, which will come up someday anyway.
Smile. Even if you feel bad, try to smile as often as possible: at a flower, at the sun, at a child passing by. Then you yourself will not notice how the heaviness will recede, leaving room in your soul for positive, bright feelings. And under such circumstances, any situation will no longer seem so sad and insoluble.

In the first case, a person does not strive, but runs away with all his might from situations that could lead to changes in life, but the fear of being driven into a corner again will prevent him from taking a step towards his dream. In the second case, previous failures, on the contrary, will help to cope with new, possibly more serious, tests.

The beauty of human life is that everyone has a choice: be strong or go with the flow. Good luck.

Strength of spirit is the most valuable quality of human character. Without willpower, a person becomes lethargic and apathetic. Firmness and inflexibility can help you win over physical desires. The weaker the willpower, the more difficult it is for a person to resist bad habits and weaknesses.

Overcoming difficulties is the first step towards victory

If you notice any shortcomings in yourself, it is best to start fighting them immediately. Without willpower, a person loses direction in life and tends to choose the wrong path in life. Willpower guides a person and becomes his guiding thread. Without strength of character and fortitude, you can miss your opportunities.

Signs of a strong will in a person

Having a strong, strong-willed character, it is easy to cope with the burden of accumulated problems. Strength of spirit helps to overcome difficulties even in the most unfavorable situations. Thanks to hidden resources, a person is ready to fall and rise again.

Only courage will help you overcome all obstacles. Believing in yourself is an excellent recommendation for those who want to become invulnerable. Patience will develop in you a strong personality, ready to withstand the blows of fate.

What to do if laziness gets in the way

We often have a great desire to do something, but are stopped by the fear of possible failure. Laziness is born where there is no specific motivation. Indifference and apathy prevent you from taking any concrete steps.

Energy reserves increase if you tend to change areas of activity frequently. For example, your favorite activity can be combined with dancing, painting, and sports training.

Exercises to develop strong-willed qualities

1. Strengthening your fortitude. The point of the exercise is constant physical activity. Morning jogging and swimming are suitable for this. Developing the body greatly trains the spirit. If sport becomes a part of your life, a lot will change.

2. Get rid of laziness. If you don't want to do something, you need to force yourself to take the initiative. If you don’t want to exhaust yourself with workouts in the gym, throw away all the “don’ts” and do it! Getting up early in the morning is also a big deal and you need to learn to develop firmness in yourself.

3. Planning things. Give yourself clear instructions on which things need to be given priority attention and what can be left for later. Planning your affairs will save you from a chaotic life schedule.

10. Search for hidden strength. Train your skills. If you take something, be sure to put it back in the same place. The next day you will know exactly where it is. You allow yourself to feel the volitional tension. Success and well-being depend on this.

Do what you like correctly and clearly move towards your goal. Exercises to develop willpower require serious preparation. Training volitional qualities increases the need to change your usual lifestyle. You need to gather your willpower and force yourself to reconsider some habits. Learn to be demanding of yourself and don't forget to push the buttons and

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