Guys and already grown men do not start serious relationships by simply saying hello, introducing themselves and making an offer..
To date a girl, you first need to win her heart, and only then propose to meet in some original or beautiful way so that she definitely does not refuse. How to start dating a girl and what is the best way to make an offer?
You must be confident in yourself
Without this, it is strictly not recommended to meet a girl. Do you have difficulties communicating with the opposite sex? Then it's better work on yourself, and only then start a relationship. Start communicating with saleswomen in the supermarket, little by little, with a hairdresser, with a waitress in a bar, with girls passing by on the street, asking what time it is or how to get there and there.. Over time you you will become more confident.
Don't expect her to fit
The girl you like won't come up and start a conversation, even if she notices that you're interested in her. You're a guy, which means you should come up and start a conversation, especially since you’ve already gotten good at this. Ask about her hobbies and studies. She will probably ask you the same things you ask her.
Don't take rejection personally
If a girl doesn’t want to communicate, don’t insist and don’t be offended - that’s her right. You never know, maybe she has urgent matters to attend to. You will do well if you don't take rejection personally.
Call
They gave you a phone number - great. Don’t delay calling, call the next day, maybe earlier, but not later, otherwise you’ll miss the chance. Do not think that the relationship has already begun, it is too early to talk about it. Even though she agreed to meet, this is not a date as such.
Calmly
Don’t be nervous, be confident and use all your charm, just watch the reaction - don’t overdo it with charm. Don't insist on nothing so as not to look intrusive. Tell the girl at least a couple of compliments when we meet, for example, her hairstyle, her makeup, her dress.
Select a location
Restaurant - a good place for maybe a first date. Trite? But it works, which means it doesn’t matter whether it’s a banal option or not. You can find a restaurant where you can cook your own food - this way you won’t have to constantly sit on a chair, and you won’t have to wait long for food.
After lunch, stop by a cafe
After lunch at a restaurant, invite a girl to a cafe for a cup of aromatic coffee or tea. Then you can take a walk - a change of place will be beneficial. Having walked around, walk the girl home, thank her for a great time. Hug her, tightly and tenderly, but don’t kiss her yet. She will see that you are not afraid of close contact and are not shy. Say goodbye and say you'll be glad to see her again.. Follow the girl with your eyes to the door of her entrance and, making sure that she has entered safely, go home. If she also liked this date, and you behaved gallantly and confidently, you can consider this the beginning of your
Marcus Tullius Cicero
Some people want to know how to start a relationship with the opposite sex, what steps need to be taken for this, what actions to take. In this article, I will briefly explain to you, based on my experience in solving similar problems, what you need to do to meet the person you are interested in and build the relationship you need with him. To start a relationship, the first thing you need to do is decide why you are doing it. That is, you must clearly understand your desires and needs in order to find the right person. If you need a partner solely to satisfy your physiological needs, then in this case you can start a temporary relationship with someone who needs the same from you. In this case, you don’t need a serious relationship. But if you have a clear and clear long-term goal - creating a family, having children, achieving some goals together, and so on and so forth, then you need to select the right person for such a relationship. Let's see how this can be done.
Usually people talk about feelings when they accidentally meet someone and their relationship develops on its own. They say you can’t command your heart, and if you fall in love with a person, you don’t even think about what he is like, you just want to be with him. Well, of course, I understand all this perfectly well - feelings are feelings, if they play out, then it’s difficult to take control of them. But I also know reasonable approaches to building relationships, when a partner is chosen consciously, and only then feelings arise for him. So, contrary to popular belief, you can command your heart, or rather, invite it to fall in love with the right person. You just need to understand what more people corresponds to your life goals and values, the easier it will be for you to love him, and for him, accordingly, to love you. Because when people understand each other, when they have common values, goals, desires, worldviews, their sympathy for each other grows and over time turns into love. So, by the way, some women fall in love with a man - they completely adapt to him and become for a man the woman of his dreams. This work is delicate, but effective. I helped several women charm the men they loved, and everything worked out great with them. So I know what I'm talking about when I suggest that you take a conscious approach to creating a serious relationship. There is no need to rely on chance - create your own destiny.
Courage is also very important in this matter. Where to meet the right person how to do it is all the details. These issues can always be resolved. The main thing is to find the courage in yourself and decide to do this. After all, how many people cannot get to know each other only because they are afraid to approach a person, afraid to talk to him, and even on the Internet they are afraid to start communicating. But think about what there is to be afraid of, this is just an acquaintance - many are interested in it. People are made for dating. Act more boldly - both women and men love the brave. To build relationships, especially serious relationship, you need to step over all the fears you have. You need to communicate with people, because without communication there will be no acquaintance, and without acquaintance there will be no relationship.
Young people often have difficulties building relationships. Lacking the necessary self-confidence, they cannot make sufficient efforts in this direction, as a result of which they suffer from loneliness. But I will repeat that to build relationships you need courage, and for it to appear, you need to act without thinking. Young guys in particular don't need to be afraid of anything. It is important for them to simply meet girls until they achieve success in this matter. The number of attempts does not matter, the final result is important. It happens that young guys turn to me for help and ask: how to start a relationship with a girl - where is the best place to meet her, how to approach her, what to say to her, and so on and so forth. Some of them manage to invent very complex theories for such a simple matter as dating. But they don’t really need any theories. When we discuss this issue with them, we talk not about how to meet a girl, but about why they haven’t done it yet. And it turns out that they have all sorts of fears and the main one is the fear of rejection. A girl can refuse and for a guy this is a very painful blow. Because of this, his self-esteem decreases. But, friends, you should approach refusals philosophically - all people are different, not all of them are suitable for each other, they all have their own tastes, preferences, desires, dreams. Therefore, if you are rejected, this does not mean at all that there is something wrong with you - it’s just that the same girl has her own ideas about what kind of guy she needs. You yourself know what kind of princes they like to draw in their imagination, due to the lack of sufficient life experience. This goes away over the years. So you shouldn’t be afraid of rejections - they are part of the dating process. Then, after you get to know the person, you will also need to build a relationship with him competently, finding out how well you suit each other. So this is serious and painstaking work, in which success may not be achieved immediately. Therefore, you should not be afraid and avoid possible failures.
The same goes for the question of how to start a relationship with a man. Some women find it very difficult to solve this problem. But in fact, all that is required of them is simply to be quite active in this matter and not be afraid of failure. Often a woman needs to initiate an acquaintance. This is the only way she can attract a man’s attention and captivate him with her. However, many women adhere to the outdated attitude that a man should make the first step towards a woman, that he should be the initiator of acquaintance, should take the initiative. Forget about it - a man doesn’t owe anything, he does as he wants, as is more convenient for him. If he wants it, the first one will do, if he doesn’t want it, he won’t do it. And why should you hope for this - you don’t the only woman on the ground - come up yourself, or at least interest the man in you, get into his field of vision, bother his eyes. There are plenty of ways to do this. Many women, including with my help, have arranged their personal lives in exactly this way. So don’t wait for anything, be bold and grab your own happiness. You need relationships - you build them. And you will definitely build them.
Another important point in this matter is taking responsibility for your choice. You can get to know a person, you can begin to develop a relationship with him, but at one point you may want to make claims against him for not meeting your expectations and not becoming what you want him to be. You can’t imagine how many relationships collapse because people cannot and do not want to accept another person for who he is. They choose their partner themselves, seeing perfectly well what kind of person he is, and then condemn him for not changing. Serious relationships cannot be built with such an approach to people. You can't blame a person for not wanting to change. Either do right choice, or then blame yourself for starting to build a relationship with a person who was initially unsuitable for you. But you don’t need to blame him for anything - this will only worsen your relationship. When you start a relationship with a person, you must understand that at that moment you are making a choice. You choose a person, character, thinking, psyche, whose behavior has been formed over the years. Some people are happy to change, but cannot, because it is very difficult for them. And if you criticize them for simply being themselves, then you will begin to shake the foundation of your relationship. And if this is not yet a developed relationship, then it will collapse very quickly.
Well, the last thing I want to advise you is to be extremely attentive to the desires and needs of the person with whom you want to start a relationship. In this matter, as in trading, if you can offer a person what he needs, he will become interested in you. It doesn’t matter whether we are talking about a man or a woman, everyone has their own needs and desires, which in the case of a serious relationship should largely coincide with yours. If, let’s say, you are a woman and want to start a serious relationship with a man, but he only needs intimacy, then, as my experience shows, in very rare cases a man will meet a woman halfway. Much more often, men make a bunch of promises to get what they want, and then simply disappear. Therefore, it is extremely important, on the one hand, to be interesting for another person, offering him what he needs, for which you first need to find out what exactly he needs, and on the other hand, it is important to compare the desires and needs of this person with your own desires and needs. Here, in general, everything depends on the value system that people adhere to. If it is the same for them, then their desires, needs, and goals will largely coincide. And therefore, their relationship will be reliable and long-lasting.
So a serious relationship requires a serious approach. But temporary relationships, without, as they say, any obligations, you don’t have to plan at all; casual acquaintances are also suitable for them. But don’t make any claims against your partner later if it turns out that you wanted more, but he didn’t live up to your expectations. Do not hope for a miracle, wanting to turn an ugly duckling into a beautiful swan. Miracles happen, but very rarely. I wouldn't have to deal with so many relationship problems if casual dating often grew over time into something serious and reliable. So regardless of your feelings, try not to lose your sanity when getting into relationships with people. Love must be reasonable, then it will be strong and long.
It's all about the aftertaste. In everything. It all depends on how you feel afterwards.
After communication, after a quarrel, after coffee, after a look, after an action.
This “after” is largely decisive...
Relationship with your loved one? Amazing. But how to do this so that it doesn’t come back to haunt you in the future? What are the pitfalls here?
Relationships are interactions with one person or group of people, which have their own specifics, goals, circumstances, tasks and place in society. Relationships can have an emotional connotation - sympathy or antipathy for another person, varying degrees of awareness and experience of these connections.
Relationships between a man and a woman have existed since time immemorial. People meet, fall in love, break up, get married, get divorced, meet new partners and everything repeats in a circle.
There are two types of relationships: frivolous and serious.
Frivolous relationships are characterized by a lack of prospects, lack of understanding of a couple of goals in life and the need for further development.
Serious relationship. It's much deeper here. Each person has his own definition of a serious relationship, and this concept differs quite seriously between men and women. If we take a superficial perception, then for a man a serious relationship means supporting a family, raising children in marriage and supporting his other half. And for a woman this is: to protect her husband, give birth to his children, support him and provide comfort in the house. This is a classic distribution of roles. And this is a very simplified version of a relationship.
Relationships are a choice and responsibility of both people. This is a choice - to be or not to be, and if to be, then how.
Relationships and sex
Relationships are one thing, sex is another. Sex can be called a service provided in a relationship.
For comparison. There is a house, quite spacious, two-story. It has a bath and sauna. And also, a kilometer away, there is a sauna that you can rent for money and take a steam bath.
Here, home is relationships. Large or smaller, warm, cordial or calm - it depends on the owners of the house, the people themselves. What a relationship, what a home. But the house has a sauna, the house simply provides this service, you can always come and take a steam bath. This is your right, the house will be happy about it. But you need a house to live in. And the sauna is only a small, pleasant part of it.
Unlike the sauna a kilometer away. You simply pay for the pleasure, or negotiate some kind of exchange with its owner in exchange for using it. And then you leave and don’t remember about it, you don’t care about the state of the sauna afterwards. Unlike your house, it is yours, you live there.
This kind of sauna is just sex with someone, let you give each other something, let you spend some time, but you are not going to live with this person. You just came to use it a little.
They live in a house. And the house has a sauna, which is always happy to give you pleasure. This can briefly describe the place of sex in life and in relationships.
Underwater rocks
Let's consider the what and how of relationships, breaking them down into their component parts. Neglecting any of them leads to very specific problems. But, if you agree to have these problems in your relationship, it is your choice. You just need to know what's going on here.
Truth or lie
Loneliness together is a voluntary hell.
Meet without a “second bottom”. A bottom is when you say you want one thing, but what you really want is another.
If you are interested in a relationship with a person, say so. Don't try to pretend that you are interested in him as a friend. It's a lie. And the other person always feels it, even if he pretends not to. And if you immediately build your relationship on little lies, this is already a serious problem for the future. And not everyone will agree to build a relationship with someone who lies to them from the very beginning.
You want a relationship and find out if he is good for it. So don't hide it and say it straight.
And if they calmly and openly lie to your face, showing off, for example, then don’t expect that there will be fewer lies later.
Playing on multiple fronts
Meet, concentrate, invest in a relationship with only one person at a time. Don’t date two people at the same time, how cool we are, it didn’t seem fashionable.
Completely end a relationship with one person before starting a relationship with another. Give away or throw away all things that are associated with your previous relationship. Clear your life of the past.
Choosing a doll, not a person
How about this: “yes, she understands 30% of what I tell her, but her boobs are ok.” When a woman decides something like this, the situation is even worse. Or “yes, he (s) kind of just came in to have sex once or twice, he always does this, but that’s okay, we’ll build a family.”
When you look at the body, the beautiful cover, and not what the person is like, what he does, etc., you take a doll for yourself. But bodies age, but the person himself remains the same. And you will have to live and constantly endure the shortcomings of a person for a very long time.
Although most likely, after some deterioration in the appearance of your body, you will simply go your separate ways.
Drugs, alcohol
Drugs and alcohol simply ruin any relationship and future. People dependent on them are not successful in life.
Someone might think: “yes, he’s on heroin, but he good guy and you cannot limit someone else’s freedom.” Don't flatter yourself. “He” will make your life hell, over time. And you will definitely not be successful.
Open relationship
An open relationship is a close relationship in which no one owes anyone anything. This convenient phrase hides a reluctance to take on responsibility or obligations towards your significant other.
A family cannot exist without certain obligations on both sides. And after a little reflection, we can confidently say that these types of connections will not last long. They will either collapse or develop into something more serious.
So why waste time?!
Blind approach: We will be fine!
Relationships are a couple's dance. Both partners must catch the rhythm.
You met and decided to be together. Amazing! But it’s better not to hope that everything will be fine for you and that everything will work out on its own. This doesn't usually happen.
It is better, before plunging headlong into the abyss of a relationship, to clarify with each other all the main, main points: what are your rights and responsibilities in relation to each other, what do you expect from each other, how do you see your future together.
Sit together somewhere and imagine different life situations. Discuss how you will resolve them and why. What will you do if you quarrel, if he comes drunk, if she gets pregnant, if your parents come to visit you for a month, if you don’t have enough money in the family or someone loses their job.
It’s easier to agree on the main thing first. Then everything else is just working moments. And they are easily resolved from the point of view of the main principles. And you will have no reason to quarrel.
If you miss any situation, you can always sit down next to each other again and discuss it, sort it out piece by piece. Coming to terms with each other again.
Constant creation
Relationships are truly a daily work in progress. You will need to create them daily if you want them to continue to exist. Give flowers, give attention, help, arrange surprises, take care of each other...
The moment one or both of you stop creating them, they begin to collapse. Don't let this happen.
Distance
Let's imagine that a man and a woman are separated by twenty steps. So, we must take our ten steps and stop. If they didn’t meet you there, don’t do the eleventh - then you’ll have to do the twelfth, thirteenth - and so on for the rest of your life. Everyone must take their 10 steps.
It is important. You shouldn’t start a relationship with a person by sacrificing yourself. So you will end up hating him.
There must be reciprocity.
Everyone must take their 10 steps.
The cherished dream of many girls is to find their one and only. But the problem is that many of them simply don’t know how to search. It also happens that there is a guy in mind, but you don’t have the courage to approach and talk to him. Not just about love, nothing at all. These girls just don't know how to start a relationship with a guy, but this is a fixable problem.
Don't demand that he show his feelings
In a relationship both halves should be comfortable. There is no need to demand from a guy that he proves his love with words. Guys value, first of all, not words, but actions, so he will express his feelings, if any, not in words, but in deeds.
Know your worth
If a guy allows himself to treat you inappropriately, even if only rarely, don't allow it.. He must learn how to treat you and how not to treat you. Otherwise, you won’t be able to convince him later.
Show your interest
For a guy to be interested in you, you need show that you are interested in him. Pay more attention to his interests, ask about his hobbies, in general, show the guy that you are interested in both his life and himself. Do not allow awkward pauses in the conversation, try to maintain it. And for this you need to be knowledgeable and well-read, so that you can communicate on various topics without problems. If you remain silent, the guy will definitely think that you are bored with him.
Appearance
Your appearance must be at a height otherwise you might just scare away the guy you want to attract.. You should dress nicely, but not too flashy, do not combine many colors in your outfit, choose comfortable clothes. Well, do makeup when you need it, only lightly, in order to highlight facial features that especially deserve attention. This also applies to the condition of hair and skin - they need to be looked after.
And one more piece of advice - take a closer look at the guy. Maybe he's not the one you need at all., you just convinced yourself that he is ideal, as soon as you saw his dazzling smile. If, upon closer examination, you realize that you were not mistaken, then start building a romantic relationship, but not before.
