What to talk about with a girl on the phone? “Talk to me” - a service for telephone communication with strangers

Let's talk about how to properly conduct your first conversation with a girl on the phone. We will not consider what topics are best to talk to her about, you will learn this from the next article. We will only look at the basic rules of the first call, following which you can get the girl’s consent to the first date with you.

So, after you have met a young lady and managed to persuade her to give her phone number, the question arises - how to talk to her in order to leave information about yourself good impression and make an appointment? How and where to start such a conversation? Because of such questions, many guys panic and begin to make numerous mistakes with unfavorable outcomes for themselves.

You still know very little about your new acquaintance, because of this you can get into an unpleasant situation and make a completely different impression than you dream of. Don't forget that the main goal of the first call to a girl is to make a good impression on her and arrange a first date with her.

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Inner positive attitude and calmness

Are you nervous before calling a girl you don't know? Be sure to calm down and try to relax. The girl is far away and doesn’t see you, but the intonation of your voice will tell her a lot. A trembling voice and confused speech are indicators of your stiffness and timidity, and girls prefer decisive and self-confident guys. (But don’t be arrogant, feel the difference!) There are a lot of relaxation exercises, find them on the Internet and choose the one that suits you. By the way, the big advantage is that she only hears you, but does not see you, so you can be dressed however you like and take any comfortable pose.

Advice: take advantage of the fact that she can’t see you and during the conversation, keep a piece of paper in front of your eyes with a rough plan for the conversation with her. Think it over in advance and take notes. This also gives you confidence that everything will go smoothly, without awkward pauses, and you won’t lose your thoughts during the conversation.

Your voice and manner of speaking (intonation)

Not too loud, but not very quiet either. Of course, no non-standard vocabulary (forget about it, it’s better forever!)
Try to keep your voice soft and even (don’t start talking quickly and then switch to a leisurely pace of conversation).

Girls don't like squeaky voices, but most of them love baritone voices. You can work on this and achieve the desired result.
Advice: to ensure your conversation flows at the right pace and with the right intonations, imagine a girl sitting in front of you. This will immediately give your voice the desired shade and add notes of flirtation that are pleasant to her.

Basic Rules

Psychologists recommend having your first conversation with a girl on the phone a day after you meet.
If you call earlier, she may think that you are stalking her. If it’s later, she might just forget about you.
It’s best to call late in the evening, when she will probably be free from school or work (by waking her up at 5 am with your joyful voice, you risk not only never hearing her again, but also never seeing her!) Don’t forget to free yourself from work for a few minutes 20 so that no one and nothing distracts you from the conversation.

Be sure to introduce yourself! It happens that a girl does not recognize you. It's OK! Ask in a joking manner how often does she leave her number to strangers? If after this she still doesn’t know who you are, briefly remind her of how and where you met her.
After her “Ahh, it’s you!” The one who...!” be sure to ask if she has the opportunity to talk to you? It is possible that at this moment she is baking pancakes, or doing yoga poses. After all, he sits on the toilet! And her “I can’t talk right now” does not mean at all that she DOESN’T WANT to communicate with you. It just doesn't really have that capability. So ask when is the best time to call back and wait for a time that is convenient for her.

As you can see, you didn’t learn any special secrets, simple things in general, but by violating them you risk forever losing a girl who, perhaps, will give you happiness and joy.
Follow the rules and you will definitely succeed! Good luck to you!

Now smile:

-First I took off her skirt...

Then he slowly pulled off her blouse..Then took off her bra, which fell at my feet..And then passionately tore off her panties...

-Oh, Monya! Is it possible without pathos? Well, I once asked you to take the dry laundry off the line in the yard!…

Even in this age of messages and media, 87% of teenagers still continue to talk to their significant other on the phone. Making some effort to have a good conversation over the phone can show her that you really care about her. Do you call the girl you're with? serious relationship, or the one you just met, use our tips to make her crazy about you.

Steps

Part 1

Find out her schedule. Set a time to chat via text or call when you think your girlfriend will be free. Don't put her in an awkward position or force her to choose between you and her friends or family. Call after theater club, soccer practice, her outing, or family dinner.

• Text her a few hours before you want to talk to her: Do you have time to chat today? or Can I call you at 7? Adapt easily and determine a mutually convenient time.
• Don't take it personally if she doesn't have time to talk to you. She just might be busy. Suggest an alternative time: How about tomorrow evening? or Good luck with your session! Shall we talk on the weekend?

1. Call from a quiet, secluded location. Girls will be more open and honest with you if they know that no one will hear your conversation. Don't call if you're having fun with other people, and don't put her on speakerphone without her permission.

   Give her your full attention. She gives you her time and you should do the same. Most young people feel that too many things distract them from the conversation. Let her know that talking to her is the most important thing in the world. Don't text, chat online, watch TV, or talk to other people when you're with your girlfriend.

   Part 2

   Making small talk

   1. Greet her cheerfully. Emotions tend to be transferred to others. If you are friendly and want to communicate, she will most likely reciprocate your feelings. When she picks up the phone, greet her in a way that opens up the conversation and shows that you're willing to listen. Choose phrases depending on how close you are:

      • Hello! How is my girl doing?
      • Hello Beautiful! How was your day?
      • I've been looking forward all day to hear your voice! What were you doing?
   2. • If you've been dating for a while, you can say: I'm just calling to say I love you!
      • If you're just starting out in a relationship, leave her a more casual message: I just wanted to know how you were doing! I miss you!
      • Let her know best time in order for her to call you back so that she doesn’t take you by surprise: I'll be home at 7 after football practice. Maybe we can talk then?

   3. A casual conversation is good for warming up. Humans are social animals and are hardwired to desire conversations with others. Casual conversation creates a sense of connectedness as people can learn a lot about each other. Even superficial conversation can mean a lot in a new relationship. Choose light topics that will make her feel relaxed:

      • Tell us how your day was.
      • Ask her about her favorite sports team.
      • Talk about events at school.
      • Discuss a TV show or movie you've both seen.

   Part 3

   Let's keep the conversation going

   1. Let the conversation flow naturally. If there is a spark between you, the casual conversation will develop into a deeper conversation. Let the conversation move from sweet banter to more personal topics. Let each other open up and get to know each other better:

      • I'm learning to play the guitar too! Why did you choose the guitar out of all the instruments in the world?
      • Do you get your license in three months? Where would you go if you had a car?
      • The holidays are in two weeks! Where are you going on vacation?

   2. Be emotionally open. She will be as honest and open as you are. Most people don't express their true feelings because they are afraid of rejection, not because they are not interested. If you tell her how much she means to you, she won't be afraid to do the same.

      • When I see you, my world lights up!
      • You are the most beautiful girl in the city!
      • I think you understand me better than anyone else.

   3. Ask open-ended questions. Structural questions are great because your girlfriend will be able to tell you a lot, give you backstory, and express her feelings. You should not stall the conversation with questions to which she will answer in monosyllables.

   4. Be a good listener. Conversation is a two-way process, so listening is as important as speaking. Don't interrupt your girlfriend or talk along with her. Pay attention to what she says and wait until she finishes to ask questions. Encourage her to share more with you.

      • And what happened then?
      • How did you feel after that?
      • Why do you like milkshakes at this particular place?

   5. Avoid topics that stall the conversation. You should be honest with your girlfriend, but you don't want to offend her or embarrass her. Gauge her enthusiasm throughout the conversation. If a girl likes the topic, develop it further. If she becomes quiet and unsure, she says I don't know, Maybe or Maybe, take the conversation in a more interesting direction.

      • Find out what topics to avoid as you get closer to your girlfriend. You should make your conversations positive. Bringing up bad memories (her parents' divorce, ex-boyfriend, her late grandmother), you are no closer to intimacy with her. Let her know that she can tell you anything, but don't cause unpleasant emotions on purpose.
      • Putting too much pressure on a girl can scare her away. Try not to sound too obsessed or needy. Don't comment on her body in a way that goes too far, she won't appreciate it.
      Adviсe
      • Don't go out of your way to impress her. Don't sound arrogant or insecure.
      • Don't talk about other girls to make her jealous. She will understand everything.
      • Speak confidently, calmly, and flirt a little.
      • Make sure you have enough minutes on your phone before calling. You don't want the connection to be interrupted at the most important point in your conversation, or for her to think that you hung up on her.
      • Make sure your conversation doesn't become boring. This is not calling your grandma.
      • Don't lose your temper and don't start arguments over the phone. She won't like the drama.
      • Respect her family and culture.

The problem of calling a girl arises whenever you have taken a number from a pretty girl and now you are holding the phone in your hand, preparing to talk on the phone and want to ask her out on a date. It’s good if you’ve already communicated with her using (don’t forget to watch the video from my speech at the Pickup Conference 2013, where I talked about this). If you haven’t communicated, then be sure to do so. And only then proceed to communicating with the girl on the phone.

In this article I want to look at the 5 most obvious mistakes that we have all made in phone call girl.

Main mistake

The first mistake that lets a girl know that you are not confident in yourself is that you are clearly nervous. That's right - when talking on the phone with a girl, we always get very nervous. We don’t have time to think, as for example in correspondence via SMS or VKontakte, and we need to confidently say phrases that a girl should fall for. The excitement is doubled if you have never communicated with this girl in person before, so calling girls you met on VKontakte is considered the most difficult.

Nervousness comes from the understanding that how you interact with a girl on the phone will ultimately determine whether she wants to date you or not. By the way you talk, a girl understands how interesting a young man you are, how smart and witty you are, or vice versa, what a loser you are and want sex.

I advise you to use three tricks to calm down:

• Before you call, talk to your other friend, whom you don’t value as much. This will allow you to relax.
• Be in a place that is comfortable for you - an apartment, a personal office, a smoking room, your car.
• It's best to walk. When you walk, emotional acceleration increases, and communication with a girl on the phone will be more lively and interesting.

Other common mistakes

The second common mistake lies in your speech - your quiet voice. Imagine, you speak quietly, and the girl on the other end of the line constantly asks you questions or, even worse, pretends that she heard everything. If you speak loudly, the girl will understand that you are a confident guy. This is exactly what girls like. If you feel like your voice is not loud enough, I recommend working on it. And it would be nice to enroll in public speaking courses.

Third important point- this is the speed of your speech. Often, when you want to make an impression, you may speak faster than usual. At the same time, some words will be chewed, and the girl will consider you a strange guy who seems to be worried. Pay attention, all successful and influential people - presidents, directors, bosses, stars - speak more slowly, with more pauses between sentences, than low-ranking people. To correct this shortcoming in yourself, before starting a conversation on the phone with a girl, I advise you to take a book with poems by V. Mayakovsky and record your readings on a voice recorder.

The next common mistake is forgetting what you wanted to say. Scientists have found that this happens when we focus too much on the current thought, losing the essence of the conversation. It's difficult, but you can learn it. If you have a plan for talking to a girl on the phone, and you have an idea of ​​what you want to achieve with this call, then there will be no problems. Just think ahead before you speak. For example, you can prepare in advance a rough plan for calling a girl - indicate in it such points as:

• greetings
• find out her mood
• joke
• tell me what you do
• invite you there then and there

Please note that already at the moment of the call you should know exactly the place and time when you want to meet the girl. It's good if it happens a good place for a date. Therefore, do not leave this moment for later, or, even worse, for the girl’s responsibility.

And the fifth The error is in the question frame. It is very important to speak affirmatively on the phone, without begging or interrogative forms! This is what most men sin when talking to a girl on the phone!

Read the following sentences out loud, as if you were saying them to a girl.

Shall we go for a walk tomorrow evening and drink a cup of aromatic coffee?

Notice that at the end of the sentence you changed your intonation to show your interlocutor that it was a question. Now let’s ask this question in the affirmative:

Let's go for a walk tomorrow evening and drink a cup of aromatic coffee.

The intonation changed to dominant. This time it's an affirmative sentence. Since you are a man, you should always make affirmative statements. When you talk like that, you'll look charismatic young man with leadership qualities.

During the time of conducting live seduction trainings, I developed one thing: good exercise to train an affirmative frame. When you communicate with others, not necessarily on the phone, convince them to do something, using a change from questioning to affirmative intonation. For example, you can convince her or him to try something new from the menu if you find yourself alone in a cafe.

Instead of the phrase:

Do you want to try raff coffee?

Say affirmatively:

Try raf coffee with cream. Very tasty!

By default, neither you nor I have a great voice, but if you learn to avoid these mistakes, then I guarantee that girls will be much more willing to communicate with you, and you will be less likely to. Be sure to do these exercises until you are happy with the results. Ask a friend for help, motivate him to do the exercises too. Let him advise you on what to improve, because there is always room to grow.

In the video at the top of this page, I invite you to watch me having a conversation on the phone with a girl I don't know. One of the students gave this girl’s phone number. You can also take phone numbers from your friends available girls and call them according to this scheme!

The simplest plan

Here is a plan for calling an unknown girl:

1. Greetings
2. Are you asking if she knows you?
3. Tell us why you called (for example, you found it in the phone book and don’t remember it)
4. Together you look for options where you could meet (of course, unsuccessfully, because you don’t know each other. But you have the opportunity to promote yourself well by telling the right things about yourself).
5. You say that, for sure, she doesn’t give out her number to just anyone, and you, too, won’t take a number from that girl you didn’t like. After that, close it for the meeting!
6. Agree on where and when you can meet
7. Parting

Scheme of communication with unknown girl She’s cheerful on the phone and, most importantly, very productive. But there are a number of differences if you want to return.

This question arises before a girl, as a rule, when it comes to an unfamiliar guy or a young man with whom she has not had close contact before. This is quite natural, since with an old friend or loved one there is always something to talk about. As for new acquaintances, a lot of questions arise: “what to say when he picks up the phone?”, “how to gather your courage?”, “what to do if he notices excitement?”, “how not to put yourself in a vulnerable position if he will he be harsh or not want to talk at all?”

There are several techniques that will avoid awkwardness and make the beginning of communication relaxed. Subsequently, they most likely will no longer be useful, after the dialogue enters its usual course and becomes natural for both. However, in in this case proverb " the right start– half the battle” could not have come at a more opportune time. So, practical advice.

Relieve internal tension

In order to hide your own excitement and avoid awkwardness, you need to calm down. However, this is easier said than done. In order for the conversation to sound natural, while creating the illusion of a spontaneous call, you should use the “in between times” technique. In other words, simultaneously with the call you can make any simple steps. For example, putting books on a shelf, wiping dust from a table, pouring tea into a cup. If the excitement is too strong even for such simple manipulations, you can simply walk around the room, as if warming up after a long stay in a stationary position.

First of all, this will help to distract you, in addition, the guy will get the feeling that you are busy with something, and the idea of ​​​​calling him arose suddenly and did not cost you any effort. To feel even more confident when using the “in between” technique, it is advisable to test it by calling a friend, relatives, etc. Thanks to this, you can find out which activity is more suitable for you as a background to the conversation. In addition, its implementation will become mechanical and will not distract from the main goal.

First conversation on the phone

An open, relaxed, confidential conversation with a guy you barely know at the first conversation is very rare. This is normal, so don't expect this right away. In most cases, it takes time to transition to this format of communication. However, it should be remembered that “the one who walks can master the road.” Therefore, you can use the “do a favor” tactic for the first telephone conversation.

That is, the purpose of the call is formally some kind of unobtrusive request. It is advisable to ask for advice or tips in solving any issue. In other words, ask the guy to provide a service that will cost him nothing, but will be of great help to you. For example, you want to buy a phone and don’t know which one to choose, you don’t understand it well, you don’t know who to consult. Or are you going to a birthday party? cousin same age and don’t know what’s best to give. A friend arrives from another city, and you decide where it’s best to go with her. Do you want to use the services of an online store to buy this and that, can he suggest a trusted site, etc. You can mention in passing that you consulted with several people on this issue, and then decided to ask his opinion, since it seems to you that that he is more competent in this regard.

This technique has several advantages. Firstly, the guy will be pleased to be useful, to help in some way, to show his competence. Secondly, if he is not in the mood or even rude and does not want to carry on the conversation, you can always end it without damaging your pride with a phrase like: “It’s a shame, okay, I’ll ask someone else.” Thirdly, this is an excellent, natural reason for the next call, during which you can thank the young man for valuable advice, tell how your brother reacted to the gift or how satisfied you are with the purchase, offer your help in case of such need, etc.

Avoid slippery slopes

You can often hear such advice as “talk to a guy about football”, “discuss the delights of fishing with a young man”, etc. If a girl understands such issues, moreover, this is part of the interests of a young man - great, that means There are no problems with choosing topics for conversation. However, if she confuses offside with facade, and hat-trick with hit-track, it is better to avoid such topics. In general, it is advisable to take the conversation in a direction that is convenient for you, to talk about topics that you understand in order to maintain self-confidence.
If the conversation nevertheless turns to little-known topics, you can show interest, ask questions, making it clear that this topic is quite new to you, although fascinating. Seize the initiative whenever possible. However, if the question does not interest you at all, it is better to say so directly, because false interest will sooner or later appear and ruin the established trusting relationship.

If there are no common topics

The matter, of course, becomes simpler if the young man’s range of interests is known, there are common hobbies, etc. However, what to do when, at first glance, there is literally nothing to talk about with him? For example, a guy is only interested in video games, but doesn’t read books, doesn’t like movies, and isn’t even interested in music. And you, in turn, know nothing about computer games. This is a rare, difficult case, but you shouldn’t give up even here.

There are actually two options here. Either go deeper into this topic yourself in order to become a worthy interlocutor in it, or take the guy beyond the boundaries of such a topic, which, most likely, will not be easy. In this case, you can try to talk with him on vague topics, discuss some life situations, incidents, inquire about his attitude towards them, find out his life position and views on fundamental issues. Conversations in this format are useful for both interlocutors, as they allow you not only to get an idea of ​​each other’s character and moral level, but also to more clearly form your own views.

Hi all!

I think I can express the opinion of all guys - girls, we are annoyed by your stupid chatter on the phone. Well, imagine the situation: you are beautiful and young, guys are lining up to get your phone number. And I'm no exception. Here is the treasured number in my hand. I call you the next day and what do I hear? I found out about all your relatives and friends, who lives with whom and who got you pregnant. Do I need it? And this is only the first conversation on the phone. And the last one. Because once is enough.

Dear and respected girls, would you like to know our male opinion What should we talk about on the phone to make it interesting for us? Then read the article to the end and maybe something will interest you and you will take note of it.

First telephone conversation with a man

Now the girl does not need to sit and wait for days on end for the young man she likes to call. Nothing stops her from calling first. This is completely acceptable.

• firstly, this girl is not indifferent to me, but I still can’t say the same,
• Secondly, easy conversation It doesn’t work out, everyone feels the tension and the conversation doesn’t go well.

What I would like to advise a girl who calls a guy first:

1. Before calling, relax and try to remember something pleasant, smile and cast aside all fears and dial the number. It all depends on the first phrase. It can be general, like “how are you”, “what are you doing”. Well, of course, there are individuals who regard such phrases as a hint of control over their personal lives, but I’m talking about normal guys now. Usually such phrases are enough to start a simple casual conversation.
2. Don't start asking us riddles. Questions "Guess who's calling?" or “Do you know who gave me your phone number?” drives me crazy. I think I'm not the only one. All you have to do is say hello and say your name. If I liked a girl, then of course I will remember her name and will not ask again who is calling and ask to remember how we met.
3. And now we are already talking. My dears, I don’t want to know in the first minutes of our communication about problems in the family and studies. No, this is not callousness and soullessness. Answer honestly yourself - would you like to solve the problems of your potential boyfriend after seeing him just once? No and no again. The conversation should be light and relaxed, and not cause yawning and a desire to end it as soon as possible.

Specific topics for conversation. Examples of flirting are found.

You can give a thousand and one pieces of advice on how to interest a guy over the phone, but if he doesn’t share your joy in communicating, then you shouldn’t continue the conversation, much less make an appointment. Just politely say goodbye, and burn the phone number, throw it away, or, in case of emergency, eat it. And remember - don’t call him ever again!

Now I will describe the situation exactly the opposite. I liked the girl, or maybe I talked to her for many months on the Internet and so I dialed her phone number. The first thing I would like is for the girl to answer my call and not ask for half an hour who I am and why I’m calling.

The topic of the conversation can help guide you through the process. But I would advise girls not to start a conversation about something they don’t understand. And what’s worse is when they also start arguing about unfamiliar things. It's at least funny.

What should a girl do, what should she be interested in during the first conversation?

You know, there are a lot of topics that you can talk about on the phone. And these are not boring conclusions and philosophical speeches. Everything is much simpler. Here is an approximate list of topics that I would be happy to talk about:

• cinema and music;
• hobbies and sports;
• books and literature;
• travel attractions and museums;
• equipment and cars.

But I repeat once again, do not start a conversation on any topic if you do not understand it. This applies not only to communication between a guy and a girl.

And again he calls

So, the first telephone conversation was successful. Perhaps there was already a first date, but at the same time telephone conversations no one canceled. It's too early for the girls to relax.

So that we men do not lose interest in you, we need to constantly flirt with us, even on the phone. However, there are several nuances that I would advise you to pay attention to. After all, communication with a guy shouldn’t end on the first date?

Examples interesting questions are .

Radiate kindness

Important points that a man feels during a conversation:

• If you're not in the mood, don't call the guy. This is transmitted even over a distance.
• But if you like the person, then your mood should improve on its own during the conversation.
• Be polite and friendly.
• Speak with a smile. We capture this mood, how can I say it, with the fibers of our masculine, but so sensitive soul.

But don't overdo it. Let’s say my favorite snail has died, and a girl says sympathetic words with a smile. It seems that they are mocking my grief and I cannot believe in the sincerity of the words.

Watch your intonation

The agonizing wait for a call from the man you like is finally rewarded. His name appears on the phone’s display and you take the device with trembling hands. No need to worry so much. This creates unnecessary tension between interlocutors.

Psychologists advise that in order to cope with anxiety you need to lower the timbre of your voice and everything will be fine.

Let the man get a word in

Girls, you won’t believe it, but we also have something to say. That's why:

• take pauses in the conversation, do not rattle incessantly,
• but it also happens otherwise - the pause drags on, then take the initiative and bring up an interesting topic.

Call me by name

It's so nice when a girl mentions my name in conversation. He calls me affectionately - Yura, Yuri, Yurochka. This is for example. But so that the name does not lose its attractiveness, she does not use it every other word.

Telephone etiquette

Girls, remember, the same person starts and ends a telephone conversation. But there are times when something or someone interferes with communication or there are some things to do. In this case, apologize and ask the guy to call you back.

Under no circumstances talk to someone at the same time or solve your problems. It just makes guys angry, even infuriating.

If a man is forced to interrupt the conversation and asks permission to call back, there is no need to think about the topic when it is convenient for you. Just agree and indicate a time when it will be convenient for you to hear the young man.

Speech control:

• Girls, learn to speak correctly.
• Do not use slang or swear words. Never! Remember, never.
• Also follow your train of thought. There is no need to jump around like a flea on topics. Even a child prodigy cannot follow the course of such a thought. And the question arises: is it necessary to do this? Listening to such a girl is simply not interesting and boring.

And what I would like to say in conclusion. Telephone conversations good for communication, but not suitable for sorting out relationships. If the relationship and the guy were even a little important to you, do not break up with him over the phone. Show some respect to this poor guy.

Yes, he's a bastard. And he must personally see what “treasure” he is losing. So I would advise doing beautiful styling and makeup, put on best dress and come to the meeting. Let the guy's jaw drop from such beauty and he will regret what he did more than once.

But this is such a small digression. Communicate and meet, my dears, and may everything be fine with you.