Love spell for a man to confess his love. Treasured words: how to make a man confess his love

Why are men so callous? After all, it seems there is nothing easier than saying: “I love you.” But to hear this, sometimes you have to gain remarkable patience.

How to force a man to confess his love when all the symptoms of falling in love are obvious? The main rule: he should not feel pressure. You can only create the right atmosphere for him to relax and say those three words that you have been waiting for so long.

Don't force, but push

The more obligations a man has, the more he wants to get rid of them. To the stronger sex and life is not easy: a lot of hopes are placed on them, they are expected to have initiative, ambition, and the ability to stand up for their beliefs, themselves and the girl. In short, their obligations are through the roof.

Therefore, if you want him to confess his love, thereby taking on an additional burden, make your relationship very valuable to him. And this means that he should be at ease with you, at the same time, he should be afraid of losing you. By correctly building a line of behavior, you will hear the words you need without the need to hint at it.

Hint this when watching the movie.

Men don't really like romantic comedies because they all end the same way - main character proposes to the heroine, they get married, and everyone is happy. If your lover agreed to watch this kind of movie, he is either not afraid of a serious relationship, or wants to achieve something from you. In the first case you will be able to hint at what you expect from him, for example, by squeezing his hand at the most touching moment. In the second case, he will most likely try to get something from you after watching it, most likely it will be sex. You will not hear a declaration of love from him.

Romantic dinner

Before dropping hints, ask him for a romantic dinner. Tell him that you really miss romance, the feeling that you are special to him. When you sit in a cozy cafe or restaurant, or maybe outdoors or at home, tell him that he means a lot to you. If you don’t hear something like that in response, it means it’s too early.

If you are sure that a guy has feelings for you, but persistently does not talk about it, he simply does not have enough confidence in your own devotion for this. After all men are very vulnerable, they are afraid of being a laughing stock in the eyes of their loved one. That's why your frankness and reverent attitude towards him can make him open his heart. Just wait a little and show with all your appearance that you really appreciate everything he does for you.

“If a guy doesn’t call, it doesn’t mean he lost your number, got sick and is working up the courage - he just doesn’t

wants to do this,” said the heroine of one popular melodrama. But even if he calls, kisses or spends the night with you, this may also mean absolutely nothing. And not because “they are all like this” and “there is no love in the world.” It’s just that this love is different for everyone. Just like confessions, kisses and sex.

Love does not love

My friend Sergei usually confesses his love to girls on the second or third date. Girls, like dates, change regularly - every few months. Why does he say “I love you” and not “I like you”? "Why not? It's nice to hear and nice to say. I’m not lying, it’s just that the word “love” as such is not something decisive for me,” explains the young man, “for example, I love, I love playing the guitar, I love skiing, Dasha, Sveta, Veronica. More strawberries, but a little less skiing. And love is not at all a synonym for “you are the best” or “I dream of being next to you.” If the feeling is strong and real, I prefer actions rather than words.”

Another friend, Zhenya, believes that the word “love” can only be pronounced under the influence of deep and vivid emotions. And he says it - sincerely, feelingly, burying his face in the hair of the girl of his dreams, whispering the much-desired words in a voice hoarse from excitement. I love him - I “love” the present, I love him more than anyone else in the world, but with the prefix “at the moment.” And in a week, a day, or even - I promise nothing. And if a girl, after her confession, plans the style of her wedding hat and thinks about whether to invite her friend Sveta to the ceremony, then Zhenya has nothing to do with it - he simply fell under the influence of the moment. It’s another matter if you meet a girl with whom this moment will last forever - then you can have a hat and Svetka as a witness, let her also be happy and eat salads.

There are also indifferently calculating “I love” master keys - to achieve what is needed; and semi-“love” in the form of an inaudible “I love you too”, when it seems that you need to respond to a confession, but there is nothing to answer with; and guilty “I love you, don’t be angry”; and demanding “I love you, which means...”. It’s hard to even imagine that this simple combination of three words can have so many shades, and even harder to believe that its shade will exactly match your own, and you will understand and appreciate it as it is worth it. Alas, a clear and clear gradation of “you love” or “in love” and reasoning on the topic “I adore - is this more or less than I love?” remained in the days of the first passions of high school.

The degree of seriousness of an adult relationship should probably be assessed based on completely different criteria - actions, attitude, reliability and degree of trust. And if all this corresponds to expectations and dreams, then the desired recognition will certainly sound beautiful and turn out to be exactly what you always wanted.

Just a kiss?

Their lips connected, their hands intertwined... The first kiss is a stage as important as recognition, and even less revealing or meaningful. “A kiss is a kind of chemical test for further compatibility,” says Oleg, “I kiss the girl to understand whether she is “mine” or not. And the test answer is not always positive. It happens that during a kiss you simply don’t feel anything and wait for it to end. For me, this is a sign that there is unlikely to be anything more than friendship between us. Probably the girls then think that I am a scoundrel, incapable of long term relationship, what can you do? But the spark when lips touch, igniting a fire inside, can change even the easiest relationship. After the last such kiss, I have been dating a girl for three years, now we are thinking about marriage.”

“I generally don’t like kisses, hugs and other “calf tenderness.” Perhaps psychologists would find an explanation for this in the form of some childhood trauma, but the fact remains a fact. In general, I kiss a girl if I feel that she is really looking forward to it, but a kiss as such does not mean anything at all. A tribute to the traditions of courtship,” Denis explains his point of view.

“A kiss is a matter of mood. Sometimes it can even be a logical continuation or completion of a conversation, and in the process turn into a stormy foreplay,” says Stas.

But for the most part, the first kiss (both the first in life in general and the first with a specific girl) is not at all a guarantee of subsequent ones, both kisses and relationships. American scientists have generally come to the conclusion that while kissing men usually think about upcoming sex (and are quite willing to skip this foreplay), while women are planning future relationships and are not ready to do without kissing. Fortunately, it is almost always possible to find a compromise, otherwise humanity would have died out long ago.

Sex as it is

As one of the greats wrote, nothing brings two people closer or further apart than sex. Often, casual but enchanting sex at a party or corporate event can develop into... serious relationship, and, on the contrary, a long romance will fade away immediately after spending a night together. And the point is not that men “only need this”, and women need love and romance. Just intimate relationships have many different facets and nuances, so subtle that sometimes it is difficult for the participant himself to explain what was wrong or, on the contrary, what really “hooked” him.

“Sex always reveals true relationships - you can pretend, compromise with yourself, but not in bed. And what you feel towards a woman during and, most importantly, after, is your real attitude. Several times, the first night with a girl became my last precisely because it helped me better understand my feelings,” recalls Ilya.

“Sex for me is a way of mutual pleasure. I don’t promise anything to anyone, I’m just trying to please a woman at the moment and get it myself. In this case, there may not be a relationship - this is not an obstacle to good sex,” Alexey explains his point of view.

“When you are attracted to a woman, your brain just turns off. And only then can you understand what it was - a momentary darkness or a serious feeling. So I don’t think that sex necessarily involves a continuation in the form of a meeting and a call. Of course, it’s better when this happens, but it happens in different ways,” says Dmitry.

In general, sex is a delicate matter, especially the first in a relationship. Just like the relationship between a man and a woman, which is full of public and unspoken rules, and even more exceptions. And I want to believe that your relationship will be just such a happy exception.

Just thinking about the guy you're in love with makes your heart race and your palms sweat. When you like someone - it doesn't matter whether you've known each other for years or have only talked a couple of times - you instinctively want to know how that person feels about you. Once you yourself become clear about how you feel about this person, it is quite natural to want to know how he feels in return. In order not to guess for too long, there are many ways to provoke a guy to confess his feelings. Once you know this is your person, take the right approach.

Steps

Make sure the guy is open and ready

First of all, make sure that he is not in a relationship with someone else. You shouldn’t cross someone’s path by trying to snatch a confession from a guy who’s already taken. In addition, you should not get your hopes up about a guy who spends a lot of time with another girl and may be pursuing her. In fact, it doesn’t take much effort to figure out the situation. All you need is to chat a little among his friends, look at his profile in social networks or even just ask him a question directly. Here are examples of such questions:

• If you're brave enough, ask during one of the conversations if he's seeing anyone. Ask the question casually: “Do you have a girlfriend?” or “Have you already noticed someone?” Such questions will not reveal your feelings in any way.
• If you can’t ask him directly due to natural shyness or rare meetings, try to find out about it from his friends. Mention him casually in a conversation, and then ask: “By the way, do you know if he’s dating anyone?”
• If you don't have anyone to ask about this, check their status on social networks.

1. Clarify his position regarding relationships with girls. If it turns out that he is alone, it is worth asking how he generally relates to girls. This way you can understand whether he is potentially ready for a relationship as much as you are. Be subtle and try to ask these questions in private. Examples of relationship questions:

   • “When was the last time you dated a girl?”
   • “Would you like to date any of the girls?”
   • “Do you go on dates often?”

2. Be light and cheerful around him. When you communicate, try to bring a pleasant and cheerful note into the conversation to see if he likes to joke in your presence. You can even try giving him a friendly pat on the shoulder during a conversation to see his reaction. If he laughs and makes some kind of reciprocal gesture, this is a good sign. Humor is a great way to open your heart, as it shows your interest and will make the guy feel more comfortable.

   Observe the chemistry between you. If you find that in each other's presence you constantly laugh and find a lot in common, then there is a good chance that you mutually like each other. Constant laughter and smiles - main indicator that something is happening between two people. Guys in love also very often call their crush by name. Here are a couple more signs that reveal his true feelings:

   Bring him to confession

   1. Develop trusting relationships. Make him feel special because of your interest in his personality. Be interested in his hobbies and dreams for the future. React openly and positively to everything he shares so that he feels comfortable sharing it with you. Don't be afraid to appear vulnerable by sharing something about yourself, as this will make him feel like you have special trust in him.

      • Talk about your biggest fears or share a story about how you found yourself in an awkward situation.
      • If you demonstrate your trust, it will be easier for him to open up to you.

   2. Listen to him and avoid value judgments. Let him show himself as he is. Let him know that you are not going to judge him and appreciate everything that makes him so unique. Your goal is to build trust and create a safe environment in which to talk about anything. Guys are reluctant to share their inner experiences. What holds him back the most is the fear of rejection from you. Let him know that you won't criticize him or dismiss his feelings.

      • In order to open up emotionally, a guy must feel free from judgment.

   3. Don't put pressure on him. Guys don't like to feel like they're trapped. And flattery and fawning will most likely push him away from you altogether. Even if he has feelings for you, he will not rush into confessing if you are too clingy.

      • Be patient. By rushing, you can scare him away and make him close down even more.
      • Don't bombard him with text messages. You shouldn’t turn into the person whose messages he reads first in the morning and last in the evening. Make sure that communication is mutual and not one-way.
      • At least from time to time, he should be the initiator of your meetings. If you invited him somewhere, and he refused, wait until next time for an invitation from him.

   4. Don't chase him. If you pursue a guy in the hope that he will confess his feelings to you, you will only achieve that he wants to run away from you. In addition, he may like your desire to achieve him - he doesn’t need to achieve you! Pause and give him the opportunity to realize that he doesn't want to lose you. This will make him more inclined to confess his feelings to you.

      • Do not come to his home or work without an invitation.
      • If you cross paths at a party, don't follow him around all evening. Hang out with other friends and show that you're having a good time on your own.
      • There is only one carer in a couple, and it should not be you.

   5. Be sincere and humble. If you put on an air of confidence and boastfulness while hiding your true feelings, a guy will feel awkward around you because he will secretly feel that you are faking it. Be confident, but don't act arrogant or boastful - it's off-putting.

   6. Flirt a little with his friend. If you focus your attention on one of his friends, he may be afraid that he has lost your interest and will rush to explain his feelings to you. You don't need to take your flirting too far, just have a fun conversation with one of his friends to create a little jealousy and that will be enough. Here's what you can talk about with his friends:

      • “What do you like to do in your free time?”
      • "Where do you work?" or “What kind of job do you want in the future?”
      • “What are your favorite movies?”

   7. Don't let him guess your feelings too early. Perhaps what keeps him from confessing is the belief that you are already his, and there is no point in doing anything more. Once you realize that you want him to confess his feelings, play hard to get a little: don't always agree to a meeting and don't answer all his calls. This will encourage him to speed up the recognition of his true feelings.

      • Give him the opportunity to miss you or think about what you are doing. Let him call or text first.
      • If he asks what you do on the weekend, answer honestly, but always positively. You could say, “Spending time with friends or watching movies,” or “I plan to spend some time with my family this week, but I haven’t decided what I’ll do yet.”
      • Whatever you say, never give the impression that you will be bored and sitting at home, not knowing what to do with yourself.

   8. Playfully ask him if he likes you. Nothing bad will happen if you ask him directly. If he's too shy to admit that he likes you, be honest that you like him. This can also help him take a step towards revealing his secret feelings. If you've been friends for a long time and suddenly you notice that he smiles at you and constantly flirts, ask him a question directly. For example:

      • Sit down with him and say: “I like you, and I’m wondering if you like me?” or “I really enjoy spending time with you and I kind of want you to enjoy it too. Do you like me?"
      • If he doesn't know what to say, giggle and say, "Well, you like me, right?" He will simply fall victim to your charm.
      • If he says yes, you have achieved your heart's desire. If he says no, at least you'll know now and won't waste your time with him. If he pauses and doesn't respond, don't worry: he might just be having a hard time articulating his thoughts.
      • If you give him subtle hints that you like him and are open to him, he may be more willing to admit that he likes you.
      • Give him the opportunity to be himself around you.
      • If he enjoys teasing you playfully, this is a sign that he likes you.
      • Try not to flirt too much with other guys. Yes, this can provoke jealousy in him, but it can also make him lose hope and forever remain silent about his feelings.
      • Smile at him, and if he smiles back and shakes his head, it means he has you in his sights!
      • It's a good sign that someone likes you if they constantly strive to communicate with you, to the point of ignoring everyone else.
      • Enjoy life whether he is around or not. Enjoy activities that have nothing to do with it. This is an indicator of your emotional stability, and it is this position that makes you want to be around.
      • Don't change for anyone and don't expect them to change.
      • If his friends tease him in front of you, this may also be a sign that he likes you.

      Warnings

      • Don't stalk him online or constantly check his phone. If it's meant to happen, it will happen. Getting too close will only make you want to move away.
      • Don't push him away from his friends or you risk irritating him. Give him space to maintain other significant relationships in his life.
      • Be prepared for him to say no and take it in stride. If he refuses, it just means that you are not suitable for each other.

It doesn’t matter so much whether months or years of dating connect you with the man you love. In order for feelings not to cool down, it is necessary to feed them and at least occasionally voice them.

Even though representatives of the stronger sex are not as emotional as cute young ladies, sincere girlish emotions will not leave even the coolest macho man indifferent.

So what is it like - best recognition in love to your beloved? How to tell your lover you like him and strong feelings? We have prepared the most pleasant, warm and gentle words that every man will definitely like.

The poem will provide the girl with the opportunity to express all her tender feelings in the most emotional and reverent way, even those that are extremely difficult to convey in everyday words. Poems will help a romantic nature to conquer her chosen one if he is not yet with her, or to rekindle the flame of past passions that is beginning to fade.

Of course, admit it warm feelings better in poems of your own composition. Even if they don’t look like the works of professional poets, the man will like your sincerity. But not every girl is lucky enough to be born with the gift of versification, so on the Internet you can find surprisingly gentle poems for every taste.

Time their reading or sending via SMS to some important event in your life together: first date, wedding anniversary, etc. Well, or just dare to talk about love for no reason!

Just be! Live under this sky
Even if far away, at the other end of the Earth...
Just be good, kind, bright,
Let it not be with me, but with those who love me.
Just know that I'm under this sky
Even if it’s far away, I remember you.
Just know: with your soul, your mind, your heart -
I live, I love, I dream - for you

You have become so important to me...
So strange, but more necessary than many...
And the sparks of your fire
Part of the road was illuminated for me...
The warmth of short strange phrases
Warmed my soul with revelation...
And there’s a wild contrast with the past,
Suddenly it turned into healing...
You have become so... necessary for me...
Although I wasn’t looking for a miracle...
And the pain of the past is bitter smoke
Left in crumpled patterns...
I didn't pray for you...
Will you close yourself? Will you hide? Will you judge?
But I live like in a wonderful dream,
While you exist... As long as you will...

My soul, my light, my air,
I'm only yours, and it's too late to think.
Take me all without a trace -
It's incredibly sweet in your hands.
My sweet, affectionate kitten,
You are my angel. I am your little devil.
No one will caress you like you,
No one warms you like you.
My wind of happiness and hope,
My devoted and most gentle.
You burn with your desire,
You know about me, you know everything...
My insatiable, my desired,
Crazy, the most long-awaited.
And let these lines be banal.
I'm happy with you, period!

Agree, such poems touch the soul to tears, and your man will never be able to resist such incredibly beautiful words.

Agree, not every man will like a poem, and not every girl will be able to read it easily and without anxiety at the right moment. It’s good that in addition to rhyming lines, there is another declaration of love - ordinary prose.

How to confess and present this magnificent surprise is entirely your choice. You can, of course, say it at a meeting, but the most memorable way is to send it, like in the old days, by mail (an electronic version is also allowed).

Here are some examples:

1. “I miss you terribly. When you leave, I feel very lonely and sad. Gentle caresses and touches, yours warm hands- everything I need in this world. Hug me, and in return I will give you all my endless tenderness and love.”
2. “Do you know what I dream about? Fall asleep next to you, holding tightly to yours gentle hands, watch you laugh, frown, make a funny nose when you speak. And I also want to smell your perfume on my clothes. Do you think these are too simple dreams? Perhaps, but for me they are the most important, because I love you!”
3. “Do you remember that September day when we met our eyes? I immediately realized that you are the guy I’ve been waiting for all my life. I don’t have time to express words of gratitude to those higher forces that brought us together. And in this letter I want to admit that my feelings for you are only becoming stronger every day. Love you!"

Such a declaration of love to a husband from his wife touches him to tears, forcing him to look for the same pleasant words to talk about your feelings. Be sure that upon receiving such a letter, the man will want to arrange for you romantic evening and also confess your sincere feelings.

Who said, that beautiful confessions in love must it be in poetry or downloaded from the Internet? It is quite possible to move your loved one to tears with your own words. Moreover, many representatives of the stronger sex are skeptical about pompous phrases and pretentious speeches.

So, a girl does not need to have literary talents at all in order to confess her sympathy and express gratitude to a man for his feelings. Describe the love you feel in your own words and send a message via SMS, email, or in person. To make it easier for you, use the following “blanks”:

• “To the best man on the whole planet...”;
• “I’m happy to be next to you...”;
• “It’s hard to find words to say how much I love you...”;
• “It’s impossible to count the pleasant moments that I spent next to you...”;
• “Your love and tenderness makes me stronger...”;
• “I want to always be next to you, my beloved man...”

Declaration of love via SMS

It is not at all necessary for a girl to say words of gratitude to her man through an email or in a personal meeting. Short confessions in love you can and should send via SMS messages. These can be small romantic poems, funny and biting phrases. The most important thing is to fit the whole range of emotions into a few symbols.

Below are SMS messages about love in verse, but you can turn them into prose or even talk about feelings in your own words. Try adding a couple of gentle phrases, compliments and feel free to send an SMS to your chosen one with a short note: “From a lover and beloved wife.”

Great happiness for me
To see only you nearby!
I will only wait for you,
Always dream about you!
***

There are many different men in the world,
But I don't look at others
You were shown to me from heaven by God,
And I love you already!
***

I'm sad without you,
I often see us in my dreams.
I dream of hugging you again soon,
And talk about your love.
***

If a girl is lucky enough to meet a cheerful and positive guy, then she can confess her sincere feelings to him in a humorous way.

Send him an SMS or email containing funny poems or extraordinary pictures.

Another unusual confession in love - “funny” prose that your chosen one will definitely like. Use the following templates to come up with your own cool and completely original love surprises:

• “My dear man! I adore you so much that I am ready to sit on your mighty neck forever, with my most beautiful legs hanging on the sides”;
• “My love is so strong that you will always have to carry me in your arms, because I am not able to carry the burden of my feelings on my own fragile shoulders”;
• “My beloved! There is something very tender, beautiful and the best in the world in your life. It's me!";
• “You are the most beautiful, sexiest, most talented and kindest... monster. And you are lucky that I live in the world - the beauty from a fairy tale who is in love with you.”

How else to confess your love?

Are love declarations to your husband in prose and poetry not enough for you? The time has come to act decisively! To add variety to your established relationship, talk about your moods and feelings in a very gentle and romantic way. Use one of the following options:

1. Romantic dinner. Pleasant emotions will come from eating by candlelight, which can be organized at home, in a restaurant, on the roof, on the balcony, or even on the shore of the lake. Create a relaxing environment, cook or order unusual dishes and expect great things to come.
2. A note. Write nice words on bright paper, draw love emoticons and attach the “letter” with a magnet to the refrigerator. Another option - several tender words on the mirror, written in your lipstick.
3. Unusual breakfast. Buy a variety of heart-shaped shapes for making scrambled eggs, cookies and pamper your loved one with a romantic breakfast. Such a charge of positive emotions will remain with him throughout the day.

It doesn’t matter at all what way a girl will like to declare her love to her man. Romantic poems, love prose, funny sms or a family dinner - the main thing is that all this is sincere and disturbing to the soul.

However, in order to please your lover, it is important not to cross the fine line between surprise and annoying. Let your pleasant words and actions become something between the rule and the exception!

Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully completed her studies at SUSU as a specialized psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on issues of raising children. I use the experience gained, among other things, in creating articles of a psychological nature. Of course, I in no way claim to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers deal with any difficulties.

In the old Soviet film "Grandma" there is a constant song (performed by one of the main characters of the film) in which a girl complains about her quiet lover. He seems to be good to everyone, but he never dares to admit his feelings - and in the end, this circumstance forces the girl herself to take such a decisive step.

Of course, even in these times of female emancipation, such a scenario does not suit all representatives of the fair sex. They are seriously afraid (and sometimes not at all groundless) that as soon as a lady takes the initiative, she will have to continue to try on this role of “first violin” in relations with her beloved, and he will finally turn into an absolutely weak-willed henpecked man. However, you want to have a determined man nearby who would be perfectly aware own desires and aspirations and would not give his girlfriend “the reins of power.”

In this regard, ladies sometimes seriously think about how to get a guy to confess his love. Of course, it’s not enough for them to see indirect signs deep feeling - they long to hear cherished words from the one to whom they gave their heart. Sometimes such a thing will not happen - if next to them is a young man who is confident in his own abilities and ability to attract a woman (this is still very rare nowadays). What should those who inherited a timid and indecisive young man do?

Such a task will turn out to be very difficult, since - due to the special structure of their brain, different from women's - men, in principle, not only do not like to talk about feelings, but they are not particularly good at talking about them. In many cases, it is difficult for them to express in words the emotions that consume them from the inside, and in fact, any question about this can drive many of them into a dead end.

First you need to monitor the reaction young man to talk about love in principle, regardless of the situation of the couple. In general, in front of him, the girl should - with half-hints - describe a story very similar to the one that is actually happening to him and her - or, if she is brave enough, still admit her feelings first.

When, in response to such hints or revelations, the betrothed begins to look away, blush (in a word, show embarrassment), it means that one should hardly doubt his reciprocity. On the contrary, you need to act, trying in every possible way to provoke him to frankness.

In a concrete calculation of what to do to make a guy confess his love, one must still proceed from the characteristics of his character (which the loving lady, undoubtedly, has already at least partly managed to “decipher”).

For example, some men may benefit from a little “shake-up” that will allow them to realize: this girl road, and it is important to fight for it. Some girls do their best to make their lover jealous. However, you should be very careful with such methods, because their use often leads to the opposite result. So, if a young man does not declare his love solely because he is not entirely sure of the feelings and fidelity of his chosen one, then her flirting with another and other similar actions will only prove to him how right he was and how flighty she really is.

Other methods will be much more effective. For example, a girl’s attempts to find out from her boyfriend’s friends what he is saying about her “behind the scenes”, and if the answer is satisfactory, she asks him to talk to him about whether it’s time to openly explain things to his beloved.

Most effective method- become truly indispensable for him: bring him positive emotions, provide support, etc. - in a word, be the most important part his life, without which he cannot do.

Men of a certain character, accustomed to proving feelings exclusively by deeds, generally turn out to be extremely stingy with words. Sometimes you can’t expect specific confessions from them at all, but your beloved will be provided with other signs of attention: flowers, candies (or even more serious gifts), giving a hand when getting out of the car, etc.

Comfort the girl in in this case There may be a realization that although her betrothed is “silent”, she always feels real support in him. True, in reality, the “other halves” of such gentlemen hardly need consolation and sympathy - they got a real man, and not a talker whose words would not always go in harmony with his actions.