When a child appears in a family, it is a great joy and happiness! Parents do their best to give their child knowledge so that he can be a successful person in the world around him.
The task of mom and dad is not only to feed, change clothes or walk with the child, but to mold him into a self-confident baby.
Many parents wonder how to properly raise a child, according to what rules and methods. Read literature on the Internet, magazines and newspapers. Every mother wants her baby to be educated, literate and independent. There are no clear norms and rules. There are only general norms and recommendations that every family has the right to follow or not follow. Many raise children based on the experience of the older generation, while others choose modern experience and trust literature.
How to raise children in different countries?
In different countries, education occurs according to its own traditions, laws and norms.
In Italy they love children very much. There they are taken care of until old age. Parents can call their son or daughter a child even after 20 years. In this country, kindergartens are not recognized; they say that only a family can raise a child as an individual. Although in Italy, parents can go to extremes, forbidding their children to play computer games with dragons and monsters, and some even do not allow them to communicate with peers or watch TV for a long time.
In Japan, the rule is that a child under 5 years old is a “king.” You can allow him everything, but within reason. It is not difficult for parents to raise children, since collectivism is inherent in Japan. Children grow up sociable and friendly.
In England, parents raise their children in strictness. They do not allow them to be capricious, play around or disobey. Instill in them good manners early age. Such children always think sensibly and judiciously. This is how parents prepare them for real life.
In France, for a woman, career comes first, and then family. They climb the career ladder for a long time and gain a certain level in society. Family comes second. When a baby is born, they hire a nanny, rent it out to kindergarten, while they themselves continue to pursue a career.
For India, the main thing is kindness. Children are taught kindness to the world around them. They see everything in a good tone.
The Germans have always raised their children in strictness. Study and work come first. Before starting a family, they think for a long time and decide where they will live, how to find a well-paid job, etc. Parents carefully choose a kindergarten, but before the child goes there, they take him to courses on communicating with peers. Decency, pedantry and elegance characterize the Germans.
American families always have several children. Parents spend a lot of time with their children.
They go on picnics and walk in the park. Mom and dad try to take the kids with them everywhere, teaching them to the outside world.
Italians are quite temperamental and expressive. To a greater extent, because the little Italian is never restrained by his parents and grows up with a sense of permissiveness and freedom.
The Italian education system is different from ours. Authoritarianism, imperiousness and conservatism have not yet completely disappeared from our families, as well as from the country. In Italian, tolerance and equality are at the forefront.
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Raising children in a family
How good this is, judge for yourself by assessing the main distinctive features of Italian parents.
- Italian mothers calmly react to children's crying
They simply ignore him. No matter how old the child is, if the mother believes that with tears he is trying to attract unhealthy attention to himself, to beg for something or to direct others, then he does not react to crying in any way. Meanwhile, the child learns not to be a hypocrite.
© DepositPhotos - Italians rarely comment on children
They dote on children. And therefore they do not allow themselves to pull them back, scold them, as happens with us, for prevention, or criticize them. Italian children have fewer complexes than ours.
© DepositPhotos - Italian parents don't force you to study
In Italy it is compulsory to complete nine grades. Then it’s up to your wishes and abilities. The situation is completely different from ours: the child knows nothing, does not understand anything, but the parents force him to wipe his pants at the university and pay bribes to cover all the tails. In addition, Italy has a very developed middle class And private business. Its owners strive to pass on their business to their children, often right after school.
Future lawyers, doctors, engineers go to study at will, but then they become professionally oriented in their field.
© DepositPhotos - There are no early childhood groups in Italy
There are nurseries where you can send your child as early as three months. But if a mother goes on maternity leave and sits with the child herself, then she has to deal with his development on her own. She will not find a place where she can send the baby for an hour or two for education. Italians are for easy childhood, with games and communication.
© DepositPhotos - Grandmothers do the upbringing
In Italy there is a cult of family. Every Sunday, an Italian family gathers at one of the grandmothers for lunch. Elders are respected there, they take their example, very often in this country and the child is raised by the grandmother.
© DepositPhotos - Italian children are very tolerant
There are many church gardens in Italy where children are taught kindness through participation in charity events. For Italian children, collecting money, clothes, food for someone is a common thing.
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As we see, family life and raising children Italians are based on the principles of love, democracy and cultivation family values. We could take some of their experience for ourselves. If you agree, share the article on social networks.
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In anticipation Orthodox Christmas- a holiday on which the birth of the infant Christ is glorified, I want to talk about how Italian families treat their children. Perhaps this will help many girls understand how to win the heart of an Italian.
From the hilly landscapes of Tuscany to the cobblestone streets of Rome, Italian parents are known for their love of beautiful things, as well as their attitude towards children and large families. Italian parenting methods are very similar to Russian ones, but have some differences. Therefore, the Italian point of view on raising children, which I will call the “Italian way,” should not cause rejection in Russian women. And the way Italian gentlemen take care of their family evokes envy and sentimental feelings among most Russian women.
So, in Italy, where I have lived for the past 10 years and where my two children were born, parents are neither the rigid disciplinarians, as they are in Northern Europe, nor the carefree observers, as in Japan. And while there is something inherently absurd about the fact that 80 percent of men between the ages of 18 and 30 live with their parents, the “Italian style” still has what I consider to be a superior quality of parenting.
Walk into any restaurant in Milan or Rome, from ordinary to super expensive, at 10 pm and you will find children eating and talking while sitting at a table with adults. Sometimes they misbehave and adults rein them in by raising their voices and making warning gestures. At about 11 pm, some of them will doze off with their faces in the spaghetti or lying on their parents' laps, while the adults at this time will drink wine and snack as if nothing had happened.
Children are a positive and integral part of Italian society, and restaurants are just one of the places where you can see this touching attitude towards them. Because family is extremely important to Italians, they do not have the strict generational divisions that you see in America. If you go to a restaurant for lunch, you will meet people of different generations at the same table: children, teenagers, adults and grandparents. This is natural for Russians, but looks strange for Americans and Europeans, and this “Italian style” is meant to be shared at all stages of life with our family and community.
I believe that by visiting public places with friends and family, my children learn proper table manners, eating what is served to them, including anchovies and asparagus, engaging in adult conversation, and respecting others sharing the same space with them.
Children are not just brought into the restaurant, they are enthusiastically welcomed. It's unusual to see waiters lifting the little ones on their shoulders to better review, or how they bring a small pizza cutter for the kids to play with at the table
Italian children have a place in adult culture, and this culture plays a certain role in the socialization of the child. They are kept away from adults who may find them noisy or annoying. At the same time, parents do not imagine their children as higher beings worthy of worship. Other than a booster seat for little ones, they rarely require special treatment. People smile at children on the bus, they talk to them at the fruit market, but when they don't eat vegetables in a restaurant, no one, not even their parents, pays attention.
This all reflects a certain ease with which members of an Italian family seem to live, living with each other and with different generations under the same roof. In this, the “Italian style” of education differs from the “Russian” one, where parents are forced to adapt to their children, rather than teaching them to “fit into” the existing system of society and family. In Italian families, this problem exists to a lesser extent.
For girls who want to marry an Italian, I remind you that Italians love fresh food. Forget processed chicken and microwave meals: Italians love to cook and love to eat. Food is seen as an integral part of life, worthy of spending time on. And they feed the children fresh food. They focus on fresh foods to avoid the extra salt, fat and sugar found in most processed foods.
Meal time is family time. Eating together is a priority in Italy: during this time, no one is distracted - no snacking on their feet or collapsing in front of the TV. Lunch can last two hours or more and during this time there can be much lively discussion around the table. Italians worry that their children are not eating enough and keep baby scales at home to make sure their flowers of life are gaining weight.
Italian mothers are obsessed with the cold and believe that a gust of wind made you sick. Don't sleep with wet hair, do not go outside when it rains and do not drink cold milk. And children must wear a T-shirt...
Italian mothers are known for their warm care, so warm that it can be detrimental to the independence and freedom of children. Children are not allowed to walk around the city alone; they are accompanied by their parents or older brother. Parents want to know what their children are doing and thinking - around the clock. Children are encouraged to live at home until they are married or even longer.
"Gentle" discipline. Parenting styles vary from region to region in Italy, but in most cases parents take a laid-back approach to discipline. Italian parents never spank their child. Instead, they teach primarily by example.
For example, wine is served with every meal and children are allowed to try it from an early age. Children can drink legally in bars at age 16, but rarely get into trouble with alcohol. One of the reasons is that for Italians, drinking is not something forbidden. Italian men, for the most part, although they drink a lot, are not alcoholics. Instead, they enjoy life and the practice of moderation. Harsh discipline can backfire and cause rebellion, so teach instead. Treat your children with respect and ask them for the same in return.
Italian parents may not have all the pedagogical answers, but they seem to enjoy life and their children. However, Italian parents are the first to criticize their own methods. The global economic crisis has them worried that their culture may encourage children to value pleasure and the abdication of responsibility. They are concerned that their emphasis on family contributes to children's long-term dependence on their parents and their childish behavior.
Children are our everything. For Italians these are not just words. Already when you first meet an Italian family, you can see how they treat the child here - immense adoration on all sides. These feelings come not only from the child’s relatives. Walking around the city, a child will attract maximum attention: passers-by will get to know him and try to cheer him up. And at the same time, unfortunately, few people will turn their attention to you.
Moms and dads in Italy are different from our “domestic” ones. Dad walks with the child on the playgrounds and attractions, while he, like his child, will run on slides, ride on swings and sing children's songs loudly. At this time, mom is either talking with someone, or quietly reading a magazine, sitting on a bench, or is completely absent. In raising children in Italian families, responsibilities are distributed between mom and dad: the mother is at home with the child, takes care of him, is involved in his education and upbringing; Outside the home, the child is left to his father, who will happily spend time with him for a walk.
The demographic situation in Italy leaves much to be desired, as in many European countries. It is very rare to find modern family, the number of children of which will be more than three. Usually a child grows up in a family alone; few families decide on a second child. That's why only child in the family, in the literal sense of the word, it is the center of the universe, receiving the entire flow of parental love.
The Italian child leads from the very cradle active image life. He visits all kinds of establishments with his parents. This is because Italians always take their children with them. And wherever an Italian child appears, he will be treated as the most important guest. In restaurants, beauty salons and even supermarkets there is something to keep a child busy: children's corners, entertainment, animators - everything that the little Italian's soul desires.
Italian children have a lot of toys at home. They are given by parents, relatives, and family friends. As a result, there are so many toys that the child is no longer interested in them, and the next gift no longer evokes such a storm of emotions that adults would like to see. Children are the most sincere creatures, and Italian children, among other things, can express all their sincerity in a strong word. So don’t be surprised if, after delivering a present, you hear: “I already have this, but I’ll play with it a little and then I won’t touch it anymore.”
Perhaps in no Italian city you will not see a child under 15 years old walking unaccompanied by an adult. Italians always keep their children within their visibility range. Every house has its own small Giardino– a clearing with a lawn and trees, fenced with a fence. It’s in this very Giardino that the baby is walking. All conditions are created for him there, most often houses are installed - casetti– with everything you need inside: dishes, a bed, well-kept windows with curtains and even cleaning supplies. Parents take their children to school or use the school bus. All conditions are created so that the child is not alone on the street. Italians' greatest fear is losing a child, and daily news of missing children only intensifies these fears.
You can often notice a situation where a child speaks rudely to his parents and other relatives, raises his voice, demanding his way. And it is not surprising that he almost always gets his way. This is because in Italy it is not customary to deny children anything. An Italian child can participate in a conversation just like an adult. You can often notice a situation where children point out a place for adults, cover their mouths, or can completely drive them away, for example, from the playground.
During lessons at school, students feel free. The lesson itself takes place as a conversation, a free conversation between teacher and student. At the same time, children move freely around the classroom.
No parent would dare yell at their child in public. The entire process of education takes place within the walls of the house. Even if the parents could not restrain themselves and began to scold the child on the street, passers-by will look askance at them, and sometimes they may make a remark.
Such freedom of the child is due to the parents’ conviction that it is this attitude that will help the child grow into a personality, and not into a quiet and notorious gray mass.
As for food, they try to teach an Italian child to proper nutrition, Of course, few people succeed. A child at the table may be capricious, but eat what is offered, for which he may receive a treat at the end of the meal -.
Despite all the permissiveness, Italian children are instilled with a commitment to their parents from the cradle. Most sons live with their parents until they are thirty, until they receive an education and a decent job. After 30 years italian men ready to start a family. It is when Italian children become adults that they do everything to the maximum for their mothers and fathers, in gratitude for what they gave them. Therefore, aging parents, who have already become grandparents, often live in their children’s home. And this is a small part of the child’s gratitude to his parents.
