In some countries of the world, a child is allowed almost everything, but in others, children have the most responsibilities that must be fulfilled strictly. The material will tell you about the most unusual responsibilities of young children of different cultures.
1. China: strict daily routine
The main thing in raising children in China, starting from 3 years old, is humility and obedience. From kindergarten, every child must strictly follow everything said to an adult (often by any adult). Children's days are scheduled hourly by their parents, and this schedule, as a rule, does not change for years. Household responsibilities are assigned by parents when the child turns 4-5 years old. Attending several sections outside of school is strictly required. Chinese parents themselves choose toys for their child and their leisure activities; they rarely praise them and severely punish them for trying to contradict them.
2. Thailand: older children raise younger ones instead of parents
In Thailand, older children look after the younger ones, and children of different ages are constantly together - whether playing games or doing simple work. Children may be offered activities such as peeling vegetables or sorting fruit. Moreover, older children become moderators of sorts, and younger children become interns. Therefore, Thai children become independent early. Children are given the freedom to regulate their behavior within a community of children different ages- from 3 to 16.
Interesting fact. Thais never run to the first call or cry of a child. The parent glances at the crying or calling child, assesses the situation, and if he finds it not threatening to health, continues to ignore the call/crying so that the child learns to solve his problems himself.
3. England: duty to control emotions
In England, from the age of 2-3, a child is required to attend teachers of good manners and the art of restraining emotions. These may be special courses in kindergarten. When a child gets older, some democratic parents may suggest that he self-educate in the art of good manners: video lessons on the Internet, books on etiquette. The child must learn table manners and social behavior. English parents express love for their child often and constantly, but with restraint. This is also due to the fact that, as a rule, modern Englishmen have their first child at the age of 35-40 years.
4. France: independent shopping
Children in France are characterized by early maturation and independence. By law, children can be at home alone, go to school and do shopping on their own. At an early age (1-2 years) children are sent to kindergarten, and they themselves go to work. From a very young age, a child is constantly asked to help his parents with something: add cream to the coffee, bring a plate of bread, turn off the light, etc.
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To discover new approaches to parenting for ourselves and our readers, we decided to contact parents living in countries whose culture is not often made public. Our interlocutors happily shared their observations and told us what parenthood looks like in their countries. Many features are not written about in books or in films, but they deserve attention because they are part of world culture, responsible for shaping the future society.
Today we are sharing the most interesting moments from the stories of our respondents especially for website.
Holland
Children in Holland are allowed to live their childhood the way they themselves wish: to walk through puddles, run barefoot, roll in the sand and, if they so choose, noisily express their dissatisfaction in in public places, without fear of harsh looks from the outside. Everything is possible. Children live carefree and explore the world at their own pace. Don’t rush with mom to 48 circles and sections early development at less than 3 years old. The Dutchman will say: “Everything has its time.”
But, despite the apparent complete freedom from the outside, children are not allowed to cross the boundaries set by their parents. And at the same time, “no” for the Dutch is a clear limitation without the opportunity to shift towards “yes”.
What Dutch parents pay attention to from birth is teaching their baby to swim, developing coordination (on average, by the age of 4, everyone here is already riding a two-wheeled bicycle) and strengthening the immune system - a minimum of medications, a maximum fresh air and hardening of the child’s body.
Ghana
In Ghana, very few mothers can afford to stay at home with the baby after giving birth; more often the child either stays with the grandmother, or goes to the nursery, or accompanies the mother to work tied behind her back.
Here the whole family is ready to work hard so that the son or daughter can get an education, so that later the grown-up children, in turn, work and support the whole family. Teenagers are sometimes sent to be kept by wealthier relatives, where they serve in exchange for the opportunity to live and study, for example in the capital.
Ghanaian children are not to be envied. Many of them are deprived of the joy of childhood and dream of growing up quickly so that they can finally be among the “privileged caste” of adults. And this is not surprising for the following reasons.
- Corporal punishment is still practiced in many schools.
- The simplest things, such as candy or ice cream, become something special and desirable.
- Cleaning, washing dishes and other simple tasks in many families are entirely the responsibility of children. Locals even joke: “We finally have a child and we don’t have to wash dishes for the rest of our days.”
My 2-year-old son, who is growing up in an atmosphere of relative freedom, evokes a variety of emotions among local residents: some look at him with condemnation, others, on the contrary, looking at him, begin to regret that they are preventing their children from developing, driving them into boundaries, which society dictates.
But there are also things that I really like about Ghanaian children - their respect for adults, hard work, independence and great motivation to study - the only chance for many to succeed in life.
Italy
Italians are very attentive to safety issues; they support and supervise the child at every step. But at the same time they are completely calm about food. Chips for an afternoon snack don’t bother them at all; even pediatricians recommend popcorn as a snack, and for stomach pain, give half a glass of cola on an empty stomach.
Children's problems are equal to those of adults. The phrases “Don’t interrupt, you see, adults are talking!” you won't hear from Italian parents. They speak to children in simple language, reason and solve their problems as with an adult. School teachers treat children with respect; there are no forced schoolchildren on duty here, there are only children who kindly help clean up the mess.
Adults, acquaintances or not, constantly compliment children on any occasion. Therefore, they are very confident in themselves and know that they will always find support in their environment.
Aggression in society is at a very low level. Fights among schoolchildren are very rare. The concept of “fight back” does not exist in principle. But teenagers, when they see the baby, will definitely say “Ciao!” to him, ask him what his name is and how old he is. There is no shame in a 15-year-old boy playing on the street with a passing child.
Syria
Syrian families are looking forward to heirs, boys who will take care of all their relatives in the future. Therefore, if a girl is born, local families try to continue the family until a male baby appears.
Before school, as a rule, children are with their mother; during school time they usually study according to the program (not everyone can afford tutors for schoolchildren and clubs for children). In their free time from school, boys work, helping their father at work and doing small errands (the value of such work is instilled in them from the cradle), and girls stay with their mothers, helping around the house.
Most children grow up and continue the work of their parents. Of course, there are those who go to study abroad, for medical or military specialties (before the war, most Syrians studied in the USSR and the Russian Federation), but this is quite expensive, so it is not very common.
But in general, as my Syrian husband says, in Russia children are elevated to a cult, they are untouchable and everything around them is subordinate to them. In Syria, the situation is exactly the opposite: children live according to their parents’ schedule, no one adapts to them and does not particularly bother with their daily routine.
Egypt
She told us about the attitude of Egyptians towards children Ryan, a professional journalist whose family lives in Cairo.
Children in Egypt are a universal object of adoration, regardless of age and gender. Wherever you go with your child, you will be welcome everywhere. If a child starts to get hysterical, the Egyptians will smile, try to help calm the baby and will never reproach you, regardless of whether you are in a restaurant, in a park or on public transport.
Some expats perceive such displays of love as a violation of personal boundaries, but most mothers here feel free and confident wherever they go with their children. True, sometimes they relax too much and do not stop the child, even when he goes too far.
If you ask me what Egyptian mothers are like, I will say that they are relaxed. They are not afraid of children's tantrums, do not run to the hospital at any sneeze, do not study kilometers of literature, relying on their own instinct. By the way, here with early age They feed the children chips and drink Coca-Cola, which scares me a little.
But despite this, I am impressed by the ability of Egyptian mothers to let go of the situation, their calmness and self-confidence. And this is exactly what I want to learn.
South Africa
South African children often have very good immunity, since, barely learning to walk, they run barefoot everywhere (from the grass outside the house to the cold tiled floor shopping center) and in any weather.
Children here are perceived as ordinary members of society; they are not overprotected or put the interests of the child above all else. Relatives play a very important role in raising children and can unceremoniously interfere in family affairs. Nobody demands the impossible from children: they spend their days playing and studying.
By the way, about education: here, expenses related to children's education make up, perhaps, the largest part of all family expenses. State schools and kindergartens are paid, private schools are also paid, only even more expensive. And not all poor families understand the importance of education; their children strive to start “earning” money as early as possible. They can often be found begging on the roads during school hours.
Malaysia and Norway
She told us about these countries Daria, whose family once traded the hot Malaysian climate for the Norwegian snows.
Kindergartens in Malaysia are public, free, and private. Private kindergartens are divided into private local and international.
My children went to a local private kindergarten.
The entire education system is based on rote learning, and 3-year-old children have a huge amount of textbooks and homework to do. In the kindergarten, children study mathematics, drawing, English and Malay at their desks every day. Chinese if desired. Children from Muslim families are required to attend religion classes.
Kindergarten in Norway it is completely different.
There are no desk classes here. Children are free in their choice: there is a Lego area with many different parts, and construction sets - magnetic, Velcro, etc. Paper and pencils, Stuffed Toys, kitchen with dishes - everything is freely available, and the child himself decides what to do.
There is a separate room for studying the environment, it has everything you need: microscopes, magnifying glasses, tweezers and flasks. Also a separate room for role playing games: hospital, shop. A special room for crafts, where glue, yarn, colored paper, sparkles and the favorite of all 5-year-olds - thermomosaic.
Walks in any weather twice a day. In summer, all activities are outside, including even lunch. Once a week, a trip to the forest with a thermos of hot cocoa and delicious sandwiches.
The kindergartens are not free, but the price is fixed for the number of days attended. Open from 6:45 to 17:00.
From 4 to 7 years old, almost all children in our village go to the so-called “Montessori” - a type of kindergarten at a church, where, of course, no one follows the Montessori method, just children sing, draw, dance and once every six months they organize reporting concerts for the whole village.
Children begin to wear a uniform when they enter kindergarten, and its color changes depending on age and educational institution. At the same time, hairstyles are part of the uniform for girls: they go to kindergarten with 2 ponytails, and to school with 2 braids tied with red ribbons.
Sri Lanka ranks 2nd in Asia in terms of educated population. From the very birth of a child, parents begin to save money for his education, although universities and colleges are free for citizens. But in order to get into a university, you need to pass a serious final exam, so from the age of 12, children are prepared for admission.
Girls are raised a little more closed than boys. They are taught that there is no need to compete with a man, everyone has their own place and purpose in life, and there is a grain of truth in this.
I take what seems reasonable to me in Sri Lankan and Russian culture, make a fiery mix and serve it with fresh fruit on my kids' dinner table. And I believe that everything is happening correctly.
The world is so huge, but in every corner there are parents who know exactly how to raise a child happy, and are ready to do everything possible for this. Tell us, which approach to education is closer to you? What countries would you be interested in reading about next?
Parents all over the world love their children equally. At the same time, views on raising the younger generation are very dependent on the traditions and customs of the country in which the family lives. And what may seem unacceptable to representatives of one country is considered the norm in another corner of our planet. Let's see how educational systems are similar and different in different countries peace.
European education systems
Despite the fact that European countries have united into the European Union, they have not lost their authenticity, which has developed over many years. The main values characteristic of the European education system are freedom, independence, and individuality. How these qualities are brought up in a child depends on the specific country.
In Scandinavian countries, love for children is expressed through the provision of complete freedom. The child is not limited in the choice of activities, hobbies, toys; the daily routine is not strictly followed. The main task of education, according to the Scandinavians, is to develop creativity child. At the same time, adults very carefully monitor the safety of the baby in everything.
In schools and kindergartens, children are taught to be able to explain their point of view and defend it. Most of the training takes place in game form. The use of any violent actions as pedagogical measures is excluded, and in Sweden it is prohibited by law. Parents also cannot raise their voices at their child, or, moreover, raise their hand to him (this is strictly monitored social services). Children have the right to complain against their parents, and this will lead to severe consequences, including deprivation of parental rights.
In Sweden, children are raised in such a way that they are well aware of their rights from an early age. Considered a full-fledged legal entity, a child can sue his parents if they resort to harsh parenting methods.
In Norway, due to its climatic conditions, parents pay great attention children's health. Children should eat only healthy foods (including homemade milk, fish, meat), and also spend a lot of time outside. Even classes in kindergartens are more aimed at physical development, rather than mental. Parents allow their kids to poke around in the ground, play in the water, and encourage other types of exploratory activities, wanting to strengthen the child’s immunity.
From an early age, French children are taught to be independent. In this country, the opportunity to realize oneself as an individual is highly valued, so establishing close contact with a child is not as important as his independence. In France, children begin to develop independence from a very early age. From 3 months, children are usually placed in a separate crib. Children preschool age They sign up for all kinds of clubs and sections so that parents can take care of themselves and their work. Grandparents do not take an active part in raising their grandchildren, since French old people, like young people, are free from obligations and live for their own pleasure. The style of raising children in France is democratic and gentle. At the same time, education is based not on punishment, but on encouraging good behavior.
Approach to raising children in Germany
In Germany, children are raised in strictness and order. The child is forbidden to go to bed late, play on the computer for a long time and watch TV; the life of children is subject to rules. Independence is also the goal of education, but it is expressed not in freedom of choice, but in responsibility for one’s actions. It is customary for German parents to take an active life position, and they are convinced that the child should not interfere with this. Moms with infants visit cafes, parks, meet friends. Children often hire a nanny with a medical education. From the age of 3, a child is usually sent to kindergarten. There, children are taught in a playful way not reading and counting, but the rules of behavior in society and discipline.
Family ties in Spain are very strong. In families, it is customary to praise children, pamper them, and allow everything. Parents are calm about their child’s whims and tantrums, even if they happen in public places. Spanish parents spend almost all their free time with their children; fathers participate in upbringing on an equal basis with mothers. Despite the seemingly permissive parenting style that is common in Spain, parental responsibilities are strictly enshrined in law. Child abuse, psychological pressure or intimidation leads to deprivation of parental rights.
Features of raising children in England
The English approach to education is characterized by seriousness and thoroughness. Residents of England often become parents already mature age and strive to raise their children true ladies and gentlemen. The peculiarity of raising children in England lies mainly in the fact that emotions towards the child are not shown openly and ostentatiously. A child’s ability to manage his emotions, and sometimes extinguish them, is considered an indicator of “good manners.”
British children are like little adults. From an early age, they are instilled with impeccable manners and taught to be reserved.
Asian education systems
Raising children in Asia is significantly different from the European concept. Religion and cultural traditions have a great influence on the relationship between children and parents.
How children are raised in Japan
Children under 5 years old in Japan are allowed everything. This age is considered the time when a child needs freedom. But when it comes to children's compliance with the rules of etiquette, parents feel entitled to resort to harsh punishments. Physical punishment not practiced in this country. If the child has violated the rules of decency, the parents will explain everything to him in words. In Japan, children are taught to be polite and respect their elders. In addition, it is important for Japanese parents that their children feel part of society and the state from an early age.
Raising children in China is aimed at raising geniuses. Already in infancy children are sent to nurseries, where their daily routine is scheduled minute by minute. Mothers not only enroll their children in various sections and clubs, but also study the latest techniques early development. Chinese children constantly need to be busy with something useful that contributes to their intellectual development. It is interesting that in China there is no division of responsibilities based on gender: for example, girls, along with boys, are taught to hammer nails and tighten nuts, and boys help with housework.
Respect for elders is instilled in Chinese children from an early age. Chinese culture requires from the younger generation such qualities as discipline, tremendous hard work, and a sense of collectivism.
In India, parents teach their children to help with housework from an early age. Mothers are mainly involved in upbringing; it is they who teach children to honor their elders, take care of nature, and be hardworking. Indian parents are very patient, they rarely yell at their children and are understanding of children's whims. Most Indians are very friendly and welcoming - these qualities have been ingrained in them since childhood.
American education system
The peculiarities of raising children in the United States are largely determined by democratic values. In America, the issue of legal regulation of parent-child relationships is hotly debated, and children themselves often go to court with complaints about infringement of their rights. At the same time, most American families are strong, and relationships within families are friendly. In America, it is customary to celebrate holidays with family, spend evenings together, and travel. Children are taken with them everywhere or use the services of a nanny. Many women work as housewives, so they do not need to send their children to kindergarten. Mothers themselves take care of their babies, but they do not strive to teach the child to read and write as early as possible (this is done in primary school). If a child does not obey, time-outs are often used as punishment. It consists of leaving the baby alone for a few minutes so that he can calm down. How older child, the longer the timeout duration.
The approach to raising children depends significantly on where the family comes from and what country the family lives in. This is influenced by many factors, such as the traditions and customs of the country, religion, socio-demographic situation, climate, etc. Knowledge about what systems of raising children exist in different countries of the world allows us to better understand our own ideas about upbringing. Each parent builds their own unique relationship with their child. But it is important to remember that education is not only about reward and punishment, this process is multifaceted and occurs throughout life. In addition, education is not always purposeful; children learn a lot simply by observing the behavior of adults and peers.
Conclusion
In modern psychological and pedagogical literature you can come across many methods of raising children. The most widespread and effective is the M. Montessori method. You can be sure that when you come to the Constellation children's center, your child will get to see a professional teacher who, without lectures or threats, will instill in him independence, self-confidence and respect for others. We are waiting for you in our children's center development!
The world is home to a huge number of peoples, different in nationality, mentality, religion, and way of life. These characteristics influence how parents around the world raise their children. Education systems different nations are very different from each other. The love of parents is strong, regardless of where they live, but upbringing is different.
There are different points of view about the right and wrong upbringing of the younger generation. Different countries have distinctive features in raising a child. In some countries, children are overprotected, but in others they grow up completely independently. They may be attached to one of the parents, others are raised by society or the state.
European education systems
In modern Europe, the basis of education is considered to be independence, individuality, and complete freedom of choice. Parents raise their children to become successful individuals. Special attention is given to creativity. The choice is made by the child himself. Whether he will sing or dance, draw or sculpt, design - he decides for himself.
People are taught to be independent from early childhood. If the baby falls, they do not run to him to help, but give him the opportunity to get up on his own.
European mothers go back to work literally a month after the birth of their baby. They entrust the upbringing of their child to a nanny who teaches him to crawl, walk, talk and other wisdom. Parents provide comfortable conditions for the full development of personality.
Approach to children in Norway
There are several peculiarities of upbringing in Norway. One of them is walking. Children walk in any weather. Snow, rain, and wind will not be an obstacle to walking. School breaks take place outside. Sport comes first. In spring and summer – swimming, in winter – skiing, hiking all year round. From the age of 9, children go on three-day hikes with a teacher. Once a week, schoolchildren are taken for a walk in the forest and mountains. In winter - skiing.
Independence is instilled from an early age. From the early grades, students go to school on their own. Parents only control. No one accompanies them, takes them by car or meets them from school. In addition to a backpack, they carry a bag of lunch with them; there are no hot lunches in schools. Children are quite independent.
Pedagogical foundations in Sweden
From birth, parents speak to their baby as equals. They do not raise their voices for disobedience. Children can do whatever they want as long as they don’t harm their health. Parents carefully choose toys, clothes, and children's cosmetics. They prefer to buy only quality items.
The Swedes prepare kids for adult life from kindergarten. They teach the children how to cook light meals, sew, knit, and work with cardboard and wood.
How children are raised in France
In France, children become independent very early. Moms are busy with their careers, and kids have to learn everything in kindergarten. Parents are also in no hurry to devote time to playing with the baby. Despite how busy they are, families in France are very strong. Children remain to live with their parents until they are thirty.
Pedagogical system in Germany
The younger generation in Germany is under reliable state protection. Parents cannot raise their voices at them, much less raise their hands. IN otherwise they will be held accountable before the law. Already at preschool age, a child knows his rights and feels permissiveness.
Educational methods in England
English upbringing is quite strict. Parents have many demands on their baby. For adults, it is important to form traditional English habits in teenagers, the ability to behave in society, and to restrain their emotions.
Despite their strictness, the British often praise their children, thus developing self-confidence. The child will not be severely punished for his offense. They will have an educational conversation with him without showing their negative emotions. In English schools, teachers find an approach to every student. Any student's hobby is welcome.
What is typical for Spain?
The Spanish people are very emotional and temperamental. They approach raising the younger generation with ease. Parents do not consider it necessary to punish them for their offenses, but, on the contrary, indulge their whims in every possible way. Adults are sure that such loyal upbringing will make the child happy.
Raising kids in Asian countries
In Asian countries, it is customary to send babies to nurseries early; mothers and fathers want them to begin contact with the team earlier. Parents devote a lot of time to education. Children are raised with strictness, requiring them to do well in school and be obedient. Their task is to grow successful person and, first of all, a caring son or daughter.
How they teach life in India
For Indians, career and education do not come first. The main thing for them is to create strong family and live in harmony with nature. Adults raise their children according to these principles. Almost from birth, children are instilled with a love for people and the world around them. Growing up little man treats nature and animals with care and love.
Parents also teach children to control emotions by example. Adults never yell at their children, even if they have done something wrong.
In schools, students practice meditation and yoga. In educational institutions, most of the time is spent on education, and only then on knowledge. Indians are very kind and friendly people, despite their difficult financial situation.
The main task of Japanese education
The Japanese raise children according to age. Children under five years old are literally allowed everything. Breaking dishes, drawing on wallpaper, throwing things around. Adults indulge the little one’s every whim and do not raise their voices at him.
Everything changes when the child turns six years old. From this moment on, the word of the parents is law. Children begin to live by the rules, and many prohibitions come into force. Until the age of fourteen, they are taught to be hardworking, obedient, and to follow the law under any circumstances.
At this age, boys are sent to sections and clubs. And girls, according to parents, will not need additional activities in life. Mothers teach their daughters culinary tricks. By the age of fifteen, children become independent and can communicate equally with adults.
Parental pedagogy in China
The upbringing of the younger generation in China is quite tough. The main goal of parents is to instill in them unquestioning obedience to established rules. There must be complete obedience on the part of the child.
- The baby lives according to the schedule set by adults, his day is scheduled hourly.
- Any deviation from the established daily routine is not welcome.
- The opinions of children in this country are not taken into account; parents decide everything.
- Adults choose sections and clubs, as do toys.
- The child almost never hears words of praise.
Relationships between children and parents in Scandinavian countries
With the arrival of the baby, parents simply cannot get enough of looking at their baby. Their love knows no bounds. Mom and dad are loyal to raising their child. They don’t set rules, they don’t teach discipline. They don't live according to a daily routine. The child himself chooses activities to his liking, without the help of parents.
Equality reigns in the family; the opinion of children is taken into account in the same way as the opinion of an adult family member. The child’s disagreement on any issue can influence the parents’ decision in favor of the child.
Raising babies in Israel
Jewish upbringing is different from other countries. In Israel, there are private kindergartens that accept children from three months to three years. This is simply unacceptable for parents from other countries. There are practically no prohibitions for Israeli children. They don't hear "no" from their parents.
When accustoming a baby to a pacifier, mothers are in no hurry to take this thing away from older, three- or four-year-old children. They believe that the baby himself must give up the pacifier, and it does not matter at what age this happens. Also, Jews are in no hurry to wean their babies off diapers. Modern mothers do not see this as a problem.
American technique
One of the tasks of American parents is to instill independence in their children. If the baby starts to cry, the mother does not rush to console him, but gives him time to calm down on his own. Adults admire their little ones and indulge them in many ways, thereby pampering them.
The younger generation is given a lot of freedom and they try not to limit their actions. Even Small child knows his rights, but is often negligent in his duties. Adults rarely punish their children. Physical punishment in America it is not permissible, even for a spanking for educational purposes, parents can be held accountable. As punishment, the child may be deprived of toys or prohibited from watching his favorite TV shows.
Family is the most important thing for Americans. Free time Parents and children spend time outdoors, visit an amusement park, and can organize a Sunday dinner. Any school event, be it a concert or a competition, does not take place without the moral support of mom and dad. The arrival of a baby in the family does not affect the parents’ fun-filled holiday. They always take the baby with them. Be it a party, a restaurant or a movie.
The main goal of education in Russia
Parents and grandparents instill in a preschool child a love for their country. Russian mothers tell their babies folk tales, sing songs, teach sayings. Reading such works is a kind of educational moment. In fairy tales, good always triumphs over evil; patriotism is felt in songs. The main goal of Russians is to instill patriotism and love of sports in the younger generation.
General foundations and rules for the Caucasus
First of all, children are taught from an early age to respect and honor their elders. Examples for them are parents, older brothers, sisters, and relatives. There is always a place for older people public transport, they will be helped to carry heavy bags and, if necessary, transferred across the road.
Japan
Japanese children go through three stages of development: god - slave - equal. After five years of almost absolute permissiveness, it is not easy to pull yourself together and begin to strictly follow the general system of rules and restrictions.
Only at the age of 15 do they begin to treat a child as an equal, wanting to see him as a disciplined and law-abiding citizen.
Reading lectures, shouting or corporal punishment - Japanese children are deprived of all these non-pedagogical methods. The worst punishment is the “game of silence” - adults simply stop communicating with the baby for a while. Adults do not try to dominate children, they do not seek to show their power and strength, perhaps this is why throughout their lives the Japanese idolize their parents (especially mothers) and try not to cause them trouble.
In the 1950s of the last century, the revolutionary book “Training Talents” was published in Japan. At the instigation of its author, Masaru Ibuka, the country for the first time began to talk about the need for the early development of children. Based on the fact that in the first three years of life a child’s personality is formed, parents are obliged to create all the conditions for the realization of his abilities.
The feeling of belonging to a team is what is truly important for all Japanese, without exception. Therefore, it is not surprising that parents preach one simple truth: “Alone, it is easy to get lost in the intricacies of life.” However, the disadvantage of the Japanese approach to education is obvious: life according to the principle “like everyone else” and group consciousness do not give personal qualities not a chance.
France
main feature French system education – early socialization and independence of children. Many French women can only dream of many years maternity leave because they are forced to go to work early.
French nurseries are ready to accept babies aged 2-3 months. Despite their care and love, parents know how to say “No.” Adults demand discipline and unquestioning obedience from children. Just one glance is enough for the baby to calm down.
Little Frenchies are always polite, quietly waiting for lunch or primly scurrying around in the sandbox while their mothers chat with friends. Parents do not pay attention to minor pranks, but for major offenses they are punished: they are deprived of entertainment, gifts or sweets.
An excellent study of the French education system is presented in Pamela Druckerman's book, French Children Don't Spit Food. Indeed, European children are very obedient, calm and independent. Problems arise in cases where parents are overly involved in their own personal lives - then alienation cannot be avoided.
Italy
Children in Italy are not just adored. They are literally idolized. And not only their own parents and numerous relatives, but also complete strangers. Saying something to someone else's child or pinching his cheeks is considered normal.
A child can go to kindergarten at the age of three; until that time, he will most likely be under the watchful supervision of his grandmother, grandfather or other relatives. They start “bringing children out into the world” very early - they are taken to concerts, restaurants, and weddings.
Making a remark is unacceptable behavior for a parent. If you constantly pull a child back, he will grow up with a complex, - this is what Italian parents think. Such a strategy sometimes ends in failure: absolute permissiveness leads to the fact that many children have no idea about generally accepted rules of decency.
India
Indians begin to raise their children almost from the moment they are born. The main quality that parents want to see in their children is kindness. By personal example, they teach children to be patient with others and to restrain their emotions in any situation. Adults try to hide their bad mood or fatigue from their children.
The child’s entire life should be permeated with good thoughts: the warning “don’t crush an ant and don’t throw stones at birds” eventually transforms into “don’t offend the weak and respect your elders.” A child deserves the highest praise not when he has become better than another, but when he has become better than himself. At the same time, Indian parents are very conservative; for example, they flatly refuse to accept introduction to school curriculum relevant modern disciplines.
Raising children has always been viewed in India not as the prerogative of the state, but was left to the discretion of parents, who could raise the child in accordance with their beliefs, including religious ones.
America
Americans have qualities that clearly distinguish them from other nationalities: internal freedom and political correctness with strict adherence to the law. The desire to be closer to the child, to delve into problems and be interested in successes - the most important aspects lives of American parents. It is no coincidence that on any children's party or a school football game you can see a large number of dads and moms with video cameras in their hands.
The older generation does not take part in raising their grandchildren, but mothers, whenever possible, prefer caring for the family to work. From an early age, a child is taught tolerance, so adapting, for example, to special children in a group is quite easy. A clear advantage of the American education system is informality and the desire to emphasize practical knowledge.
Whistleblowing, which is viewed negatively in many countries, is called “law-abiding” in America: reporting on those who have broken the law is considered absolutely natural. Corporal punishment is condemned by society, and if a child complains to his parents and presents evidence (bruises or abrasions), then the actions of adults can be regarded as illegal with all the ensuing consequences. As a form of punishment, many parents use the popular “time out” technique, where the child is asked to sit silently and think about his behavior.
