A trembling time, full of secrets, excitement and expectations. How to properly prepare yourself for a magical sacrament?
The first wedding night in Islam is a special time. A girl who has just left her parents' home meets a man for the first time. She is modest and innocent. That is why the husband should be especially gentle and careful with her. The Prophet said that women are like flowers: they are beautiful, but their petals are delicate and fragile. A man should treat his wife on the first night like a delicate, vulnerable flower. What does Islam say about the sacrament? The first wedding night should begin with prayer. Beautifully dressed, anointed newlyweds, left alone, can treat each other to juice and sweets, and then separately perform two rak'ahs of prayer, asking Allah to fill their lives with happiness, love and abundance. Namaz, which has a powerful psychological effect, will help the newlyweds calm down and tune in to the right mood. The wedding night (Islam does not prohibit intimate relationships at this time, but does not insist on them) should take place in an atmosphere of tenderness. Naturally, if the night falls during a woman’s physiological days, then intimacy should be postponed to another time.
Patience and delicacy
A husband should not undress his wife: this can greatly embarrass an innocent girl. It is better to take off your clothes behind a screen, and you can get rid of your underwear in bed, under the covers. The first wedding night in Islam should take place in the dark: this way the newlywed will be less embarrassed and will not be frightened by the sight of a man whom she sees naked for the first time. A man should not rush, he should not act rudely. Tactlessness can lead to the fact that the bride will forever have an aversion to the sacrament of marriage. The first wedding night in Islam is an opportunity for the spouse to show the affection, tenderness and tolerance characteristic of a real man. In order to receive much later, a man must give more on the first night. When the newlyweds go to bed, the husband should lay his hand on his wife’s forehead and ask Allah to bless the marriage and its sacrament, to send many children and give the spouses mutual love and understanding. After this, the young can begin mutual caresses and love games. If a man is skillful and delicate, then the girl will gradually begin to relax, she will stop being embarrassed, and will begin to shower her husband with tenderness and affection. There is no need to rush into defloration: a rough act can cause vaginismus in a girl. This disease, which is expressed in painful spasms female organs, can forever ruin the intimate side of a couple’s life.
Advice to relatives
In some families, it is customary to wait for the end of the wedding night at the door of the newlyweds, in order to be sure that the young woman is a virgin. Such an attitude can cause deep emotional wounds to young people, especially the bride. This cannot be done. Islam prescribes not to peek or spy on others. Waiting at the door and then displaying the sheets is nothing more than a violation of the injunctions of the Koran, leading to haram. The first wedding night in Islam should forever remain a sacrament, the details of which are known only to two.
I would like to remind you that the first wedding night is a very serious event. You shouldn’t take this lightly - they say, it will pass as it passes. Start careful preparation long before the wedding: choose underwear and bed linen, think about the condition of your skin, how to create an environment in such a way that, first of all, you are confident! Discuss the first wedding night with your partner, dream, make plans - this brings you closer and eliminates embarrassment in the future.
The first wedding night should take place in especially cozy, calm and comfortable conditions. This is necessary so that a woman can feel calm, confident, and be able to easily focus on her partner’s actions. Among the special conditions we can list - complete privacy not only in the room, but also in the apartment (hotel) with shower and toilet, preferably separate. There must be a wide, comfortable bed, preferably not too easily soiled (colored, with a patterned design).
The lucky ones are those newlyweds who, after the wedding, can go to their own apartment, where no one will disturb them. It will be worse for those who plan to live with their parents. In this case, for the first wedding night, the bride and groom will either have to rent a hotel room or move the entire family to other relatives for a day or two.
But no matter where you have to spend your first wedding night, some attributes will certainly come in handy:
1. Bed linen
Pink or bright scarlet silk is a very chic option. But silk is a very slippery material, so this case choose bedding from other material that is pleasant to the body. Cotton or linen bedding works well. Sheets and pillows can be lightly scented using essential oils or your favorite perfume.
2. Romantic music
If you are a lover of pop culture or, conversely, a connoisseur of rock music, it is better to save your preferences for another occasion. And on your wedding night, classical instrumental music will help you create a pleasant atmosphere. Do not play music loudly, because it is just a background and should not distract you from each other.
3. Drinks
Don't forget to take a couple of bottles of champagne with you from the banquet, or better yet, bring them to your apartment in advance. You can take wine instead of champagne, but it’s better to avoid stronger drinks, otherwise all the romance will quickly disappear.
4. Something to eat
You’ll somehow manage without borscht and grandma’s cutlets on your wedding night. But light sandwiches, fruits, sweets and even a couple of salads will be very useful to you. The night is long, maybe my appetite will still wake up. And most likely, he will wake up quite quickly, since excitement, guests and toastmasters rarely give young people the opportunity to eat normally during the day.
5. Candles
What kind of romantic setting without candles? Subdued light, flickering shadows...
6. Flowers and balls
The groom can take on the decoration of your bedroom, or entrust it to friends. Everything will come in handy here - air balloons, romantic inscriptions and painted hearts on the mirror, posters, serpentine. Don't forget to put flowers in vases. Although you don’t have to do this in advance - you will be given a lot of flowers at the wedding, just don’t forget to take them with you from the banquet.
7. The magic of smells
Smells can control our subconscious and influence erotic desire. You can use aroma sticks and aroma lamps with jasmine, rose or lavender oils to complement the atmosphere of your wedding night.
8. Sexy lingerie
Seductive underwear, stockings, a garter, a lace negligee - all this needs to be armed before wedding night. If under Wedding Dress you, as brides often do, will put on lingerie flesh-colored, then for the evening you can prepare a second, more elegant set.
If you are planning to spend your wedding night in a hotel, then everything is much simpler in terms of organization and more luxurious in scope. You don't have to worry about drinks and food, bed linen and other little things. Another advantage may be the presence of a swimming pool or jacuzzi in the hotel.
It is very important that this night becomes a truly magical and unforgettable night of love. Be attentive and gentle to each other, try to make it full of tenderness and romance.
An Englishwoman married a Frenchman. On the wedding night, the husband comes to his young wife naked. She wraps herself in a blanket and says:
- And it’s customary for us on the first wedding night to go into the wife’s room in a tailcoat.
- And it’s customary for us to wear tailcoats only to premieres!
Allochka, did you get married?! So what can you say about the first wedding night?
- Ta! I changed my last name on social networks all night...
The guy decided to get married, he was very modest, he comes to the boys and asks:
- Friends, I’m getting married, what should I do on my wedding night, how should I behave?
- Don’t worry, do everything she does! And everything will be great!
The first wedding night has arrived, the wife does not see the initiative from her husband, she took everything upon herself, undressed and he followed, he also lay down in bed, they were lying together, she spread her legs, trying to attract him, and he did the same, they were silent. . . .
- Honey, what's next?
- Let's wait, maybe someone will fuck us. .
Nowadays, the first wedding night now looks like this: a girl sits at the computer all night and changes her last name in her profiles...
The wedding night.
The husband strokes his wife's stomach and says:
“This is my field, here I will plant potatoes,” and fell asleep.
On the second night he strokes my back and says:
“Here I’ll plant cabbage,” and fell asleep.
On the third night his wife says to him:
- Hey, farmer, if you don’t plant carrots tonight, I’ll rent out the field!
What is the first wedding night compared to the first extramarital night!
The most common phrase on the first wedding night:
- Only 500 rubles?! They are also called friends!
Newlyweds before the wedding. The bride blushes and asks the groom:
- Darling, you know, I’m still a girl, I don’t know what and how, I’m afraid, please be kind to me on my wedding night.
The groom proudly assures her:
- Don’t worry, I’ll do everything right, don’t be afraid! Well, at first it will hurt a little, and then I will try and make you feel good!
And so the wedding night, the groom puffs, sweats and tries on it, while the bride calmly watches his efforts. Then he asks:
- When will it hurt?
Groom, through clenched teeth:
- But now I’ll cum and you’ll get a fucking slap!!!
The wedding night.
“Darling,” the newlywed confesses, “I want to be honest: you are not my first...
- I also want to be honest: I don’t believe you!
If on the wedding night the young wife turned out to be not a virgin, then
According to the law of the mountains, it is this that is hung on the fence instead of a sheet.
What should a newly married, modern young married couple do on their wedding night so as not to stain the sheets?
- Wash your feet.
So, how was your wedding night?
- So-so. Simply outraged. The bride turned out to be completely inexperienced!
I found out on my wedding night that my wife was a virgin. The only confusing thing is that this is her second marriage!
Newlyweds...
The wedding night…
The husband takes the bride, fills a full bathtub and drowns her... And no sex!!! And so for four nights...
A frightened wife calls her mother...
- Mom, what is it!!! My husband and I can’t have sex for the fourth night... Everything is taking a full bath and drowning me...
Mother of the daughter-in-law...
- Just be patient, daughter, he’s a tire mechanic, he’s probably looking for a hole!!!
Blonde to a friend:
- When on our wedding night my husband demanded a min@t, I, like Stirlitz, found myself on the verge of failure: I almost declared that I don’t even give min@t to my boss.
A man comes to work after his wedding. Colleagues:
- So how was your wedding night?
- I do not remember! I lost consciousness after she peeled off my eyelashes...
Fashion models got married: a guy and a girl.
The wedding night. They lie in bed for 10, 20...., 40 minutes.
Then the guy can’t stand it and says:
- I don’t even understand whether someone will fuck us today or not?
The wedding night.
The groom takes out his instrument, and he Green colour. The bride laughed: “Why is it green?”
The groom hits the bride in the face: “Where did you see that other one?”
The seventy-year-old count married a young fashion model. The wedding night. Young in bed. The old man takes his hand out from under the blanket and shows his wife three fingers. The model exclaims in anticipation:
- What only three times?!
- No, choose which one!
The first wedding night, the husband mentally prepares his wife:
- Darling, now it will hurt a little, but then it will be pleasant...
An hour later, the newlywed asks:
- When will it hurt?
- But now I’ll cum and hit you in the face!
The wedding night. The groom leads the bride into the bedroom.
- You know, dear, it’s good that you didn’t give in
I have until the wedding. I must confess, otherwise I would
I guess I didn't marry you.
- I didn’t know?! How many men have screwed me over like this?
until I realized what was going on.
An old man married a young girl. The first wedding night has arrived. They are sitting on the bed. Husband asks:
- What needs to be done, you know?
Wife:
- Nope...
- And your mother didn’t explain?
- Nope...
- And your friends didn’t share?
- Nope...
- And you didn’t see it on TV?
- Nope...
- Oh, I forgot!
An elderly teacher married a young student and on their wedding night he asked:
- Lenochka, did you have boys?
- No.
- Lenochka, didn’t your mother tell you anything?
- No.
- What about your girlfriends?
- No.
-Have you read anything in books?
- No.
- That’s the problem, and I forgot everything,
First wedding night...As soon as the newlyweds went to bed, the doorbell rang persistently.
The groom, swearing, goes into the hallway and opens the door.
Two men with a coffin on their shoulders enter the apartment without saying a word, walk around the marital bed and head out. Groom:
- Didn't understand!! What the hell?
- Sorry, bro! You can't turn around in the entrance!!
I imagine a modern wedding night like this: a woman sits and frantically changes her last name in profiles.
One day, an 80-year-old grandfather decided to take a 75-year-old grandmother as his wife. And took.
The wedding night. Two "young" people in bed. The grandfather takes the woman by the hand and falls asleep.
This is repeated throughout the honeymoon.
After the aforementioned month, the grandfather again tries to grab hold of the grandmother’s hand, and she pulls it out with the words:
- I don’t want to today. My head hurts.
My wife asked me to help her change the bed linen.
We refuel. Wife:
- Do you recognize this underwear?
“No,” I answer, “should I?”
- This is the linen we slept on on our wedding night!
- Yes? I do not remember...
I’m twisting the duvet cover in all directions, trying to figure out how to stuff the blanket into it, screaming in my heart:
- Damn, where is the hole?!
Wife, calmly:
- That's it... You're asking the same questions...
The old lord married a young wife. On his wedding night, nothing works out for him. And he asks the butler to hold the candlestick. Still nothing works. Then he asks the butler to take his place, and he holds the candlestick. The butler succeeds, the young wife is in ecstasy.
The old lord says to the butler:
- This is what it means to hold a candlestick correctly, Barrymore...
Naturally, we slept together on the first night. This always happens in serious relationships.
Darling, do you remember our first night?
- Do you think I can forget this horror?
The newlyweds say:
- The wedding night was - WOW!
The whole apartment was shaking.
- And who was the first to say: “Enough, I can’t take it anymore!”?
- Neighbour...
The end of the year. The man is going to submit a declaration to the tax service. He thinks: “If I dress in dirty clothes, they’ll think that I work from morning to evening, a lot of money. If I dress in a suit, I’ll definitely have money.”
I went to ask my wife, and she told him:
- Let me tell you a better story. When I married you, I asked my mother what kind of night pajamas I should wear on my wedding night: plain or silk. And my mother answered me: “No matter what you wear, daughter, you’re still a *****.”
The end of the year. The man is going to submit a declaration to the tax service.
He thinks: “If I dress in dirty clothes, they will think that I work from morning to evening, a lot of money. If I dress in a suit, I’ll definitely have money.” I went to ask my wife, and she told him:
- Let me tell you a better story. When I married you, I asked my mother what kind of pajamas to wear on our wedding night: plain or silk. And my mother answered me: “No matter what you wear, daughter, they’ll still fuck you.”
The newlyweds say:
- It was the wedding night - you'll rock! The whole apartment was shaking!
- And who was the first to say: “Enough, I can’t take it anymore!”?
- Neighbor behind the wall...
Do you want to spend tonight in bed with a few babes? Then eat crackers at night.
Russian Railways is offering me discounts on reserved seats on New Year's Eve. AND
so far this better offer on New Year's Eve.
Clients and staff of the resort hotel are on edge after the news that a couple is arriving there for their honeymoon - a 95-year-old groom and a 22-year-old bride.
When they arrived, the old man was such a pitiful sight that everyone began to fear that his wedding night would kill him. However, the next morning the bride slowly left the room and, frantically clutching the railing, went down to the first floor. The receptionist, seeing her in this form, asked what happened.
The lady replied:
- He said that he had been saving for 75 years. I thought he was talking about money...
Once upon a time there lived two twin brothers.
One was still a virgin, and the other was walking
right and left. And so they decided to get married on the same day.
During the wedding, the brother-reveler decided to joke about
his virgin brother challenged him to a competition - who would be first?
On the wedding night, if he throws more sticks, he wins.
He agreed. And so the experienced brother throws the first stick.
Places a stick on the wall, then throws a second one and places another one
line, throws the third stick with difficulty, puts a mark on the wall
and falls asleep exhausted. In the morning his brother wakes him up and asks
How much do you say you have? He points with difficulty to the wall.
He sees three dashes there (III) and sighs:
- One hundred eleven. You won. You have four more.
Remember, as a child, when you stayed overnight, on the second night you felt like a stranger and wanted to go to mommy? So, married is the same garbage.
On their wedding night, the newly-made husband asks his wife:
- Darling, tell me frankly, am I the first man to sleep with you?
- Well, if you are going to sleep, then yes! - So Littel?!!
He - for a minute - twisted his right ear.
She (looking under the blanket): Wow! But it's very thin.
Him: Wait a minute - I twisted my left ear.
She: Wow!!!
And away they went.
The night has passed. The next morning the aliens flew away. Vasya and Manya are sitting and sharing their impressions.
Manya: Such a night, such a night. I will never forget her.
Vasya: And instead of sex, this one was twisting my ears all night.
The first intimate relationship confuses the boy and girl, but the partner is still more worried. Though modern girls drive cars, wear trousers, Turgenev girls in best performance are still dating.
The first rapprochement with a man is a mental and physical test for every girl. Although she knows that she will have to endure this, she does not treat him with enthusiasm. The groom will have to handle them especially carefully, tactfully and patiently. Not only the current relationship of young people, but also their entire future married life depends on the first wedding night.
What is important for the groom to know about physiological feature girls
- As a rule, girls tolerate defloration easily, with little bleeding. Only in very rare cases does heavy bleeding occur, and the girl suffers from severe pain. Then you will have to see a doctor.
- There is no need to panic if there is no blood and the girl does not cry out in pain. Even doctors say that sometimes less than a drop of blood can come out; the final rupture of the hymen occurs during the birth of the first child.
- The traditional intercourse position is usually better for first lovemaking. The girl lies on her back; you can place a soft pillow under her butt.
How to prepare for your wedding night
The young man should make sure that nothing confuses the girl.
- There should be no relatives or neighbors behind the thin partition.
- You can rent a separate hotel room. There the room will be cleaned romantic style, they will lay out the outline of a heart on a bed of pink petals, and provide beautiful wine glasses with a bottle of champagne.
- You can spend your first wedding night at the dacha. The main thing is that the feelings of the newlyweds are sincere, and that the groom is sensitive and patient.
- It's the guy's responsibility to create comfortable conditions For a girl. It is recommended to turn off phones and TV, and dim the lights. The marriage bed should neither wobble nor creak. It's nice to make love to quiet romantic music and a pleasant aroma from lit candles.
- You should not attack the body of your beloved girl. It’s only movie characters who quickly tear off their clothes, trying to quickly show what their mother gave birth in. You should not rush a girl if she is shy. Girls, as a rule, do not like pushy, rude guys.
- A young man is supposed to undress his beloved himself, gently kissing her beautiful body with each piece removed. This is a necessary prelude to the first wedding night.
- It is not recommended to start your wedding night by counting the money given by guests. It is better to preserve the festive, exciting romantic mood from the celebration that has just passed.
- The groom doesn't have to get drunk at his wedding. It is unpleasant to communicate with a drunk person, even with a loved one.
- Don't forget and give luxurious bouquet flowers for the bride, in addition to the one she threw to her bridesmaids at the wedding.
At first, girls do not experience pleasant emotions from sex. Women will only then begin to enjoy intimacy; this largely depends on the young husband’s caring attitude towards his wife.
No one speaks out loud about the secret of the wedding night; even parents explain it to the newlyweds in patter and hints. For some reason, they believe that life itself will teach and, for example, a young man does not need to know about the subtleties of the bride’s psychological experiences. However, the groom himself often finds himself in a state of complete psychological confusion. So, nature itself helps the newlyweds thoroughly and unmistakably.
Until recently, chastity, maiden and youthful purity, preserved until the time of social maturity, caused irony and ridicule among some young people, and were awarded the epithet “philistinism.” This is again a consequence of the trends of foreign concepts of “free love”. Their exponents are not only tired, but frankly speaking, tired of lack of ideas, monotonous emptiness, unnatural disregard for feelings, demonstrative contempt for chastity, honesty and dignity. Even in the bourgeois world, interest in this unnatural phenomenon is noticeably lost.
Given the unhealthy trends, we must take a firm stand on virginity. Of course, girls who have lost their virginity should not feel neglected. However, virginity may become increasingly important and should be given attention.
The anatomical structure of a woman’s organs has its own characteristics. The hymen may be thin and this will immediately lead to minor bleeding after the first intimacy. The one-and-a-half hymen can stretch and may not tear. The young man needs to know this, who may in this case doubt the innocence of his bride. He must also take into account the fact that in an earlier period, childhood or adolescence, the vaginal hymen may be accidentally injured or torn by something. In general, I think young men should not despair when their chosen ones do not appear intact. The main thing in the unity of a married couple is complete trust, sincerity and love. It is these qualities, already on the first wedding night and in the future, that help to discover in a loved one the moral values and feelings necessary for a happy life.
Finally, a virgin may turn out to be frivolous, promiscuous, and unfaithful. On the contrary, a woman who has had sexual experience is able to reveal unshakable devotion to her beloved.
A young, inexperienced man, who often relies on the advice of his comrades, must first take into account the woman’s personal feelings and not traumatize them. It is necessary to take into account some advice from medical specialists. It is good when, on their wedding night, the newlyweds are not ashamed to seek qualified medical instruction. Thanks to this, you can avoid not only significant physical, but also psychological injuries.
You shouldn’t expect mutual satisfaction, joy, or orgasm on your wedding night. This can be prevented not only by pain when the hymen is torn, but also by many other external circumstances of the first “sexual encounter”. In the moments that followed intimate life Harmony in relationships will begin to be established.
Awkwardness, mistakes - a natural phenomenon for the first wedding night
Restraint and hope for complete spiritual and physical unity always lead to desired results. As for the desired orgasm for newlyweds during sexual intercourse, in women it is often late, occurs later, sometimes only after the first birth. Therefore, you should not immediately call your wife cold. When necessary, an experienced gynecologist or sexologist will always suggest both a position and a technique in which sexual intercourse will become complete and will give rise to an incomparable feeling of closeness between lovers.
The next honeymoon is just as important.
That's when he and she get to know each other in private and in the most unexpected situations. In one of the Moscow registry offices, just over 400 people registered their marriages within a month, and about 300 young people filed for divorce. What's the matter? Most divorce petitions cited incompatibility of character. In fact, the reason lay in the amazing similarity of characters. 60 percent of those who separated had shortcomings not only in sexual, but also in moral education. Therefore, in the relationship, instead of humanity, tolerance for the habits of the other, conditioned by the previous family educational process, on both sides there was stubbornness, inability to respect and love each other. Apparently, we didn’t have the patience to wait, take a closer look at each other, and get used to it. Premature conclusions about the lack of proper character, mutual, unrestrained irritability, and in fact, the lack of proper upbringing, led to divorce.
In the old days, matchmakers were interested not only in the wealth and material security of the bride and groom. They were also interested in moral reputation, degree of good manners, respect for elders and for society as a whole. The matchmakers were also interested in the health of the newlyweds. They understood and knew that, for example, people who abuse alcohol give birth to weak-minded, sick, and even deformed children.
Love is strengthened by tolerance for the shortcomings of the past upbringing, the desire not to cool feelings, but to warm them up with attention, tenderness, and the desire to do good to the loved one. Years will pass, lovers will discover the necessary moral qualities. Character flaws will disappear, erroneous judgments under the influence of a reasonable partner will definitely experience positive changes. Moral fusion will fully occur only when both work for the sake of the family and the whole society. Family world, fenced off from the external environment, will sooner or later break.
Sociological surveys of young married couples lead to the conclusion that moral self-education improves culture family life. Let's give an example. The young man overslept, is in a hurry to go to work, and has not yet put himself in order. And the wife seeks from her beloved immediate manifestations of affection, hugs, kisses. Hence arise negative emotions, irritability associated with fear of being late for work.
Attention and tenderness in intimate life immediately after lovemaking are of great importance. Nothing offends a woman more than her husband showing even a moment’s indifference to her affection. For various reasons, failures in sexual intercourse can occur. But they should not be a topic of conversation or reproach. This is deeply affecting. Tactful, loving woman by her behavior she will certainly eliminate the cause of her husband’s failure and psychologically prepare him for a feeling of self-confidence. Sexual failures pass without a trace, and harmony in sexual relationships occurs. It is held together by sincerity, loyalty, and devotion.
Preventing Conception
The living conditions of the spouses are multifaceted and varied. There are times when it is temporarily impossible to have a child. Sometimes spouses want to finish their studies first and settle in a new place; they often have to give up a second child until the first-born grows up, and sometimes the birth of a child has to be postponed until one of the spouses recovers. There are many means to prevent conception, which in case of correct application they may not be beneficial for the body at all. But before choosing a contraceptive, be sure to consult your doctor.The fact is that depending on the condition of the woman’s genital organs, the presence of inflammatory processes in them, and the position of the uterus, appropriate contraceptives are prescribed. It is unacceptable to use such means as lubricating the cervix and its cavity with iodine to prevent pregnancy. Such lubricants lead to inflammation of the uterus and general poisoning of the woman’s body with iodine. The simplest method of protection is physiological. Conception can only occur within a few days menstrual cycle. Fertilization occurs only when sperm meets a mature egg.
Remembering that sperm retain the ability to fertilize in a woman’s genitals for more than 2 days, and the egg dies after ovulation on the 3-4th day, it becomes clear that conception is possible later on the 6th day after ovulation. So, if sexual intercourse occurred earlier than 2-3 days before ovulation (sperm viability time) or 6 days after it, then conception will not occur. It is more difficult to accurately determine the onset of ovulation. To do this, you can use a daily recording of body temperature. On the first day of ovulation, a woman’s body temperature usually rises by 0.5-0.8 degrees. This increase in temperature lasts until menstruation. If a woman begins menstruation after a certain number of days and the temperature rise also occurs on a certain day, then the confidence in accurately determining the onset of ovulation is almost beyond doubt. It is more difficult if menstruation occurs at different intervals. Then it is almost impossible to use this method. -
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