Question for a psychologist:
Good afternoon I would like to talk about my relationship with my husband.
About a year ago, I found out that my husband was meeting some guys at the apartment when I was on vacation and there they drank, dressed like women and just talked. When I found out there was a very strong scandal, they wanted to get a divorce, I can’t understand how normal it is for a man to dress like that.
After that, we even went to a sexologist, he told us that if it doesn’t go beyond the boundaries of the house, then there’s nothing wrong with it, every family has the right to choose how to dress during sex and what to do, but at that time he dressed in bed and nothing more, although I didn’t like it either, I took it for granted.
But then he was replaced and He offered to go with him to a themed club, where everyone dresses like that and just see what and how, and after that draw some conclusions. I couldn’t agree for a long time, but then I thought that suddenly he would go there and realize that he was different. But alas, after that it seemed as if he had been replaced. On his days off at home alone, he began to put on makeup, get dressed, take pictures and post them on his VK page.
I bought myself quite often, no matter if I had money or not, skirts, panties, dresses, stockings, shoes and much more. When I had a day off, he asked me to help him pick something up and photograph it, and I agreed, gritting my teeth. Then he began to constantly sit on VK and communicate with people like him until late at night, he began to go to clubs in this form - alone, even when I was against it and the child and I were at home. This was no problem for him.
How we lived this year, there were a lot of quarrels. But 1.5 months ago I went on vacation, he was on study leave, he called me or wrote a message, I don’t remember anymore, they said they invited me to the club, do you mind if I go, I said that I’m against it and what we have in general It was an agreement - not to walk separately. He said okay, I understand. As a result, I called him in the evening, he didn’t pick up, I called in the morning - he didn’t pick up again, then the subscriber.
Then, closer to lunch, he called me and said that I was at the institute and the phone was dead, but from his voice I realized that something was wrong. Then they told me that he was in the club, I told him, he confessed.
In the end, it turned out that 2 of these friends came to our apartment and they then went to the club. Naturally, we were there until the morning.
I just told him that I don’t like all this and that a normal man doesn’t walk around Moscow looking like this, but that’s exactly what he likes: that people like his photos, that they look at him in the club, they can even touch him a little, and he’s pleased with that , he said himself. He said that it relieves stress, it makes him feel better, and so on. He cannot remove it, because... He will suffer without this, but I can’t watch it all.
Instead of going somewhere with me, he sits on VK and wanders around who knows where. He got angry and started collecting documents for divorce, we have been together for 15 years, 7 of them married, our son is 4 years old.
I don’t know what to do, we fight all day long, tears flow constantly.
Then he came home from work, we were supposed to have a meeting serious conversation about this whole topic. So he took a shower and changed into a girl and lies with me, but I don’t like it and it’s disgusting.
Why is this happening, he hasn’t done this before, not only I know this, but he also said it. Although, when we argue, he starts saying that it’s my fault, that I didn’t devote enough time to him, and so on.
I wanted to get a divorce, but at the same time I love him very much.
Help, tell me why this is happening and what should I do?????
Psychologist Yulia Gennadievna Tetenova answers the question.
Hello, Evgeniya!
You ask “why is this happening?” (I understand that this “why” refers to your husband “dressing up as a girl”) and what should you do about it? There is no clear answer to the first question. Yes, and there is no need to understand this. If this is important for your husband, then he himself will turn to a specialist with a question and look for answers.
But, obviously, he is completely in vain in a fit of anger to blame you for what is happening, blaming you for the fact that you devoted little time to him, etc. Many couples do not have harmony in their relationships, but this does not make men need to change clothes. You must understand this and not blame yourself for what is happening.
Now let's try to figure out your second question: “what should you do?”
In your letter, you repeated more than once that you cannot accept what is happening, that you do not like all this, it is unpleasant and even disgusting, but at the same time you write that you love your husband.
You need to sort out your feelings. If you love your husband, are you ready to accept him for who he is? Are you ready to come to terms with his “second” life, his frequent absence, and the fact that he has friends from “that” life? Or does this all go against your idea of men, of what a woman should be like? family life? Answer these questions honestly. Be mindful of your feelings when making a decision.
Also, Evgenia, you write that lately there have been frequent scandals in your family due to the fact that your husband dresses in women’s clothing, but you have not written anything about what your relationship was like before this situation arose. Your husband reproaches you for not paying enough attention to him, if this really happened, have you talked with your husband about whether it is possible to change his behavior if your relationship improves if you devote more time to him? What does he think about his need to change clothes? What does he want in family life in general? How does he see your future relationship? What role is assigned to you?
Talk to your husband, ask him all these questions. And, based on his answers, draw conclusions. Can you live the life he proposes to you? Will you feel satisfied?
But, Evgenia, you must understand that your family life depends not only on you. Your husband is now also reevaluating his life, drawing conclusions and making decisions for himself. In any case, you need to be prepared for the fact that the desire to live new life will outweigh, and he himself will decide on divorce.
If you, together, decide to continue to live together further (or at least live like this for now), you should not aggravate the situation with quarrels and scandals. Try to have a constructive conversation, during which you both can calmly and honestly talk about your feelings, grievances, needs, desires. And life will put everything in its place!
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"What do you want, sir?
- Are you crazy?! What am I to you, sir?
Quote from the movie "Hello, I'm your aunt!"
Male actors often play women in theater and cinema - for them this is an interesting creative challenge. If you know, British actor Eddie Redmayne is nominated for an Oscar this year for his performance as an artist who has undergone gender reassignment surgery (T. Hooper’s film “The Danish Girl”). Today I would like to recall several other famous films - comedies, whose heroes were forced to dress in women's clothes and play the role of a lady. I looked on the Internet - this topic has been raised more than once, but no one writes about the process of creating an image, but I want to dwell on this.
It would probably be most correct to start not with the cinema, but with the play by the English playwright Brandon Thomas “Charley’s Aunt” (in our country it is also translated as “Charley’s Aunt”, English. Charley's Aunt), written back in 1892. The play was extremely popular not only in England, but also abroad; here in Russia, the comedy was first staged by the Korsh Theater in 1894. With the advent of cinema, the play has been filmed more than once since 1915. Our popular version is the TV movie "Hello, I'm your aunt!" But we’ll talk about Donna Rosa (Donna Lucia in the play) later.
Still from the film "Maniacs" 1936
The most famous comedian of all time Charlie Chaplin dressed as a woman three times in his films (Business Day 1914, Masquerade Mask 1914 and Woman 1915). As critics write, such a transformation gave the talented actor the opportunity to reveal his mime abilities as widely as possible.
Still from the film "Masquerade Mask" (Charlie Chaplin in the center) and Chaplin in life.
Watch the film - Chaplin is very convincing in the role of a young lady, if you don’t know that a man is playing, you won’t guess (and, by the way, he was touched by the corset under the dress, a trifle, but nice)
But of these three films, "Woman"- perhaps the most famous. Including the scandal that erupted around him.
This sweet, harmless picture was banned by censors in England and Sweden. Critics attacked her with the words: “vulgar!”, “rude!”, “insulting!”, “an actor in underwear?!”, “a man in a dress?!” Well, etc. England woke up earlier; in Sweden they allowed to show the film only in 1931, 16 years later.
Julian Eltinge as a woman and in life.
There is a version that Chaplin was prompted to this cinematic “gender change” by the then popularity of the actor Julian Eltinge (Julian Eltinge). In fact, male actors playing women on stage have been known for a long time (let’s just remember the times of Shakespeare). Here's Julian Eltinge
He became famous for his performance of female roles on stage and in films. Moreover, he did not hide the fact that he was a man, and at the end of the performance he took off his wig. They say that this made a strong impression on the audience, because in the role of ladies he looked more than convincing. And in life he emphasized his masculinity in every possible way: he appeared in public only in men's dress, in every possible way rejected rumors of his unconventional sexuality (which does not prevent historians from suspecting him of this to this day), he was even seen in fights with stage workers who made jokes about this.
Here's a paradox: Julian playing women is normal, but Chaplin is vulgar...
More photos of Eltinge.
It is curious that Chaplin's favorite half-brother Sydney in 1925, he also dressed up in a lady’s dress to play the same Aunt Charlie that I wrote about above.
Charlie in Tramp makeup and Sydney as Donna Lucia. On the right is the photo of Sydney Chaplin in life.
This film is considered one of the most successful adaptations of the play.
Still from the film "Aunt Charlie" (1925)
Maybe this is not God knows what event in the world of cinema, but I can’t help but write about it: another famous American actor (and my favorite) tried on a female guise in the film "Love Madness" He was handsome William Powell. It's funny that women most often turn out to be unattractive even from very attractive men (Chaplin and Redmayne are exceptions) and are always visually older than their physical years. At least that's how it turned out with Powell.
William Powell in the film "Madness in Love" and in life.
Powell, who all his adult life wore a mustache, and even had to sacrifice it for this role.
Powell in the dressing room.
Compared with Tony Curtis And Jack Lemmon, who played musicians in the film "Only girls in jazz", Powell wasn't that hurt. This is who had to endure all the hardships of acting as beautiful ladies! Here it was not the mustache that was shaved off, but all the hair on the body that came within the camera’s field of view. And Tony and Jack were forced to wear real heels.
Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon in Some Like It Hot and in their natural looks for the film's promotional photo.
At first they wanted to dress the actors in authentic women's dresses of actresses Debbie Reynolds and Loretta Young. As Curtis said, “their waists were the size of my biceps. I went to Billy Wilder and said, "Billy, would Orry-Kelly make us our dresses?" To which he replied: “Okay, let him do it.” I knew this was a rare case because Orry-Kelly doesn't men's suits, so it was very nice...
Actor Tony Curtis and costume designer Orry-Kelly at a fitting.
...The dresses flowed beautifully down from the waist, but underneath there was a very stiff, dense fabric, and the upper part was made of soft materials..."
Actor Tony Curtis and costume designer (now the photo shows a costume designer! I hope you have already understood the difference in these two professions: “costumer”, i.e. looking after the costume, and “costume designer”, i.e. coming up with the costume)
Once again, actor Tony Curtis and costume designer Orry-Kelly at the fitting.
Curtis continues to recall: "...We wore garter belts, bras, shoes, beautiful cloche hats and those high collars that Olivia de Havilland wore in her early films."
Costume design for the ladies for the film Some Like It Hot by Orry-Kelly.
Actors in makeup and costume.
“The makeup took about 30 minutes.
Makeup artist Emile LaVigne makes Tony Curtis look beautiful...
AND Jack Lemmon
After that we put on costumes and wigs.
Tony Curtis and hair stylist.
An hour and 15 minutes later we were ready.”
Jack Lemmon in character.
American drag queen actor helped actors get into female roles Barbette, former tightrope walker and aerial acrobat. Since childhood, he dreamed of working in a circus, so when one of the duo’s sisters Alpharetta Sisters offered to replace him deceased sister, happily agreed. But a condition was set: you need to perform in women's dress, they say, it is more pleasant for the viewer to admire the fluttering young ladies than the men. Later, Barbet began to work solo, but also in a woman’s dress, however, at the end of the show, he, like Eltinge, tore off his wig.
Barbet on stage and in life.
Barbet performed at the Moulin Rouge and Folies Bergere, he was admired by all of Paris, he was friends with Diaghilev, Josephine Baker and Anton Dolin. Jean Cocteau admired Barbet immensely and even cast him in his film “The Blood of a Poet.” Cocteau "woo" Barbette to the famous photographer Man Ray, who made a whole series of interesting photographs.
Barbet in Man Ray's photo.
But the age of tightrope walkers and aerial acrobats was short, Barbet began to be overcome by illness and he returned to America, where he directed circuses, staged interesting programs, and acted as a consultant on circus issues in cinema and theater. And it was he who was invited to teach Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon how to move correctly when they portrayed ladies. Why did a drag queen work on acting, and not some woman? It's simple, the director didn't want Tony and Jack to play seriously women, he wanted them to portray men who pretend to be women.
However, for the sake of experimentation, Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon walked around the studio in female guise. After they were kicked out of the men's room, they decided that they had succeeded in the images - a scene from our film "Gentlemen of Fortune" immediately comes to mind.
Tony Curtis with his daughter Kelly on the set of Some Like It Hot. 1959
They say that when Orry-Kelly took measurements from all three stars, he half-jokingly told Marilyn Monroe: “Tony Curtis will have a better ass than you,” to which Monroe opened her blouse and said: “But he doesn’t have breasts like that!” » (About " Women's tricks. "Naked Dresses" I wrote in the film "Some Like It Hot" I wrote)
And, of course, I can’t help but remember another popular film - "Tootsie" which brought a lot of suffering to the leading actor.
Even more than 30 years after the release of this wonderful comedy (which the actor, due to the torment that befell him, does not consider it a comedy), Dustin Hoffman, speaking on one of the television shows, shed a tear, remembering how upset he was when I realized what an ugly lady he makes. “Now I know how important it is for a woman to be confident in her attractiveness. I came home from the audition and cried." But it told him how to play. “When I saw myself on the screen, I realized how uninteresting a woman I am - if I had met myself at a party, I would never have talked to myself."
Dustin Hoffman as Dorothy Michael. The costumes were tailored to hide the Adam's apple.
Tootsie costume designer Ruth Morley.
“I thought that if I was going to be a woman, I had to be beautiful.” His epiphany came when a makeup artist told him that he couldn't make an actor look more attractive than he was.
With director Sydney Pollack.
A blond wig was considered vulgar, so I had to wear a chestnut one. The skin was tightened with adhesive tape. “We shaved our legs, our arms, our backs and our fingers,” Dustin recalled. But the stubble appeared after three to four hours and I had to start the whole procedure all over again. As a result, the actor did not suffer in vain; he received an Oscar nomination for this role, and this comedy is still loved by the people.
On the set of the film "Tootsie".
Well, I'll end my story with a movie "Hello I'm your aunt!".
Let me repeat that it was based on the play Charlie's Aunt (or Charley's Aunt) by Brandon Thomas. The film had a very modest budget, so it was filmed in television format, in the small Ostankino pavilion. The apparent sense of space was created due to the cameramanship of director Georgy Rerberg. Director Viktor Titov decided to shoot the film in the style of silent cinema, which, firstly, allowed the actors to improvise brilliantly, and secondly, allowed for conventions in costumes and makeup.
“...The most important thing in the work was the memory of the experience of Charlie Chaplin, who once made a short film “Woman”. I also wanted to experience: what is it like? What do these creatures feel and experience in skirts, stockings and other toilet details? Woman suit I settled in diligently, practically without taking off even during lunch breaks. The fact is that these breaks were short, and there were queues at the buffet. If you completely change your clothes: take off your stockings, cape, skirt, etc., you may end up hungry. I never allowed myself this! That's why I took off... only the wig. We looked at the woman with a bald head, to put it mildly, in surprise.
Having played roles in various comedy films, I was firmly convinced that making comedies is not at all as fun as it seems from the outside. For the entire film "Hello, I'm your aunt!" We only really laughed during the filming of the cake fight scene.
The film's budget was small. Costumes - only one copy. There was no time to wash and wait for them to dry. We were warned that there would only be one take per scene. Filmed with two cameras. And so I throw the cake at Dzhigarkhanyan, I see his face covered in cream... and I can’t help myself, I’m crying with laughter. I understand that it’s impossible, but there’s no way I can resist...
It must be said that at that time no one expected that this particular picture would be such a success that, to put it calmly, it would be included in the fate of our country. But now the third generation has grown up, which knows me precisely by “Hello, I’m your aunt!”
Costume designer for the film "Hello, I'm your aunt!" Natalya Kataeva on the set of a program about the film.
The costumes for the film were designed by artist Natalya Kataeva, and I must say, they turned out wonderful!
One can feel the stylization of the early silent film era - 1915.
The dress of the millionaire Dona Rosa and the costume of her pupil are very elegant. The rest of the costumes clearly reflect the characters' personalities.
Kalyagin’s dress, as Natalya Kataeva recalled, is deliberately ridiculous. “I dressed Donna Rosa, departing from the fashion of those years. Her dress is voluminous, the outfit is made of silk, and decorated with... fringe from curtains.
If you believe the Ostankino website (where I got this photo from), then the costumes are from the movie “Hello, I’m your aunt!” are available for rent to everyone(((
I made the gloves myself and the boa too: I bought feathers, dyed them in color and collected them into a scarf.” “We thought for a long time about a woman’s dress for Alexander Kalyagin,” actress Galina Orlova, who played Betty, Jackie Chesney’s lover, complements this story in another interview, “and in the end they sewed it from a curtain. One got the feeling that his hero, having run into the house, a quick fix I built myself an outfit from curtains.” As you can see, it wasn’t only Scarlett O’Hara who came up with this idea!)
Here you go. Of course, you can remind me of a lot of films in which actors played women, but, you see, those films that I wrote about above have already stood the test of time, audience love, and have become classics of comedy! Although, I don’t deny, my list is a little subjective ;-)
Today gender roles are very blurred. More and more men remain “at home” or go on parental leave, and women are with great pleasure building a career and earning more than their spouses. Photographer Jon Uriarte decided to explore this factor, and at the same time create a collection where men would be depicted against the background home environment in the clothes of their friends. The idea turned out to be so successful that within a few weeks young people began calling the photographer with an offer to take part in a unique photo experiment.
The collection itself is regarded in two ways. On the one hand, men women's clothing look ridiculous, which once again emphasizes the unnaturalness of the modern distribution of roles in some families. On the other hand, the huge number of photographs makes us think about a radical restructuring in society. After all, if so many young people are ready to give up their careers in order to run a home, it means that the world has indeed become different.
In response to this trend, some argue that the government should carry out special work on restructuring the psyche of men so that they return to their old roles. And others assure that we need to get used to this phenomenon and take male housewives for granted, and not as a misunderstanding. The only ones who perceive the blurring of gender roles in society with a bang are. Indeed, in this situation, they see their fathers much more often than the children of previous generations.
There are a great many stereotypes associated with clothing, and we get to know them in childhood. “Boys - blue, girls - pink,” - everyone knows about this imposed attitude, which still exists. Further more. Men are forced to deal with stereotypes about appearance just like women. Our society is still focused on the fact that guys should demonstrate strength, including appearance, and skirts, ruffles, lace and other elements that do not fit into this dogma are generally condemned. Even though unisex clothing has been around for decades, most people are leery of the idea that men and women dress the same. We asked five men from different professions to try on gender-neutral or women's clothing and tell us how they made them feel and what they thought about them. modern fashion.
Blouse Kenzo, 54,200 rub., KM20
Vitaly
28 years old, chief programmer
I don’t really follow fashion and in life I prefer to wear very simple, practical clothes - “geek” shirts, T-shirts with images of metal bands, rough boots. I don’t think anything in my wardrobe can change dramatically. Personally, I don’t know of a single store that sells bright clothes for men, where, for example, you could buy some cool gypsy shirt. In the men's departments everything is very monotonous. I had no desire to wear women's clothing, but when I was offered to participate in the experiment, I liked the idea.
During the shooting itself, I didn’t feel much discomfort - it seems to me that those around me were more embarrassed than me. The Vetements dress even had pockets! But it was unusual to see myself in the mirror: it felt like I was wearing a Halloween costume. I imagine it would be awkward to wear this on the street, but being surrounded by people who find it cool is really fun. I have a shirt that my friend and I share, but it's more unisex.
Dress Vetements, 114,600 rub., KM20; Boots Alberto Guardiani, 39,960 rub., GUM; Chains Maria Stern 18,000 rub. and 15,000 rubles, TSUM
Clothes that are overly feminine on a guy will attract a lot of attention in Everyday life, but I don't need it. Boys and girls starting to wear the same clothes may have an impact on society, but it's hard to predict how much. I personally don’t care much about this, I try not to judge people in general, and especially not by their appearance or clothes. I live in Israel, and not much has changed in terms of street fashion there: everyone wears the same jeans they bought when they were 18. If you compare people on the streets of big cities, where I spend most of my time, there is no doubt that Muscovites wear brighter and more eye-catching things, while in Tel Aviv people look more relaxed.
Turtleneck Nina Donis, 49,800 rub., KM20
Victor
61 years old, Head of the company "communicator"
My casual wardrobe is determined by the environment in which I need to be on that day: sometimes I have to be in a suit and tie, or in a suit and always without a tie, or in a jacket and jeans. There is an English expression “I wear many hats” (“I wear different hats,” that is, I do different things) - it reflects my lifestyle. The only thing is that I don’t like recognizable brands, and lately I prefer monochrome things, without prints. I can't change gears dark colors: bright shades- it is mine.
The Nina Donis clothes that were on the shoot are very beautiful, I could wear them to a fashion party. I would love to have all this in my wardrobe, especially the sweatshirt with stones. Dresses - in general interesting story. For example, I myself have two jalabiyas ( traditional Muslim dress. - Approx. edit): one is made of camel hair, the other is made of cotton. This is an amazingly comfortable thing in the summer.
I think I follow fashion, but I don't put any effort into it. I have a couple of designer friends whose shows I go to, but it’s more out of friendship. I don't really delve into the industry. Quite often there are situations when I put on something and they say to me: “Oh, this is fashionable!” - and I understand that I spotted it somewhere. It’s just such a cloud - if you watch the world around you, then you notice this too.
The man has certainly changed a lot lately, and characteristic feature these changes became this. When I first went to a cosmetics store in Rome or Vienna 30 years ago, the men's department there was almost ten times smaller than the women's department. Now they are the same. That is, it has become customary to take care of yourself and choose clothes.
Men's fashion doesn't seem boring to me, although I remember when my wife and I went into the store, she said: “What beautiful men's things you have,” and I answered: “And how beautiful yours are.” From within there is always a feeling that something is missing, that everything is boring. But from the outside it may seem, on the contrary, that men's fashion It allows itself more, it has more variations.
Dress Nina Donis, 37,200 rub., KM20; Rings Maria Stern, 8,000 rub. and 10,000 rubles, TSUM
If we look globally, the main trend now is the abolition of “dos” and “nots”. Anything is possible: any colors, any combinations, any styles - that’s the first thing. And secondly, clothing is becoming less and less formal. Today at different situations, from going to the opera to a bank board meeting, you can see people dressed in a way that they would not have come to their office on a casual Friday 15 years ago.
I think that in fashion, as in everything - in art, music, literature - there is no main current. There are rather several coexisting trends, and you yourself choose what suits you, your subculture, your behavior. Or as it happens in my case: you go to one place with one person, to another with another.
Coat Lemaire, RUB 86,800, KM20; hoodie - model's property
Andrey
25 years old, photo editor
Sweater Hood by Air, 35,000 rub., SV Moscow; shorts are the property of the model; sneakers Nike, RUB 8,930, Brandshop
I don't follow what's happening on the runways, but I think designers are still pushing the boundaries of what's acceptable. A few years ago, many on my feed were sharing J.W. Anderson's avant-garde collection (some were delighted, others lamented) of strange dresses for men. Today, the same designer heads a conservative fashion house, slowly changing it from the inside and contributing to the “legalization” of a new male image. It seems to me that this case is the rule rather than the exception.
Coat Acne Studios, 98,800 rub., TSUM
Glory
26 years old, model
The situation when a girl takes a shirt from her boyfriend has long become commonplace. It also affected women's fashion, and subsequently on the assortment democratic brands. Nowadays there is no such strong division between male and female as before: everything is mixed. Brands benefit from making clothes that are suitable for both genders.
Paying attention to the latest collaborations of expensive brands with the mass market, you will notice that, for example, they have the same prints for guys and girls. Girls buy men's, boys buy women's, and no one gets tired of it. For example, a sweatshirt is an absolutely universal and gender-neutral item. Every season it seems to get longer and longer. I wouldn't be surprised that in 20 years all these dresses for guys will be the norm.
Tunic Craig Green, RUB 30,800, KM20; trousers Craig Green, 38,400 rub., KM20; sneakers Puma, RUB 10,990, Brandshop
One day I was shopping with a friend and we went into the women's department. I liked one of them Women's sweater Pink colour. I was going to take it, but suddenly it came into my head: “I’ll go to the cashier to punch it, and what will people think.” But then, after a couple of days, I still went and bought it. My example is rather an exception - usually guys don’t look at women’s clothes. Internal barriers take their toll. But when I go to a store of a global brand, for example Acne, I look at both men’s and women’s clothes - it’s interesting. You feel like you’re at an exhibition: you don’t want to miss anything. For every day I prefer black things. Combining a dark top with dark bottoms is simple and convenient. In the things that I was wearing during the shooting, I would go to a club, to a birthday party or to meet with friends, but hardly to work.
Calm and only calm. Especially if you are too subtly mentally organized in relation to “non-traditional” fashionable and other values! I want to tell you about a new trend, which every self-respecting fashionist simply must know about. Whether to follow it or not is another question, but he who is forewarned is forearmed.
Remember the other day I talked about ? This is just one facet of a global process that moves in modern fashion at the speed of an avalanche.
The blurring of gender boundaries is evident in the popularity of the “boyfriend style,” when girls wear men’s jeans, sweatshirts, shirts or boots. So in the exact opposite fashionable phenomenon, which is not yet very common in Russia: when young people borrow things from a woman’s wardrobe - leggings, skirts, dresses and even high-heeled shoes.
By the way, can this trend be called new? Very relative, because fashion tends to repeat itself. Let me remind those who forgot or did not know - historically, skirts and high-heeled shoes were exclusively male attributes. Just look, for example, at the French costumes of the Renaissance or at the national Scottish costume, the obligatory element of which is the kilt:
Well, what about modern men worse? Apparently, over a couple of centuries, they (with the exception of the Scots, who continue to wear a kilt) have pretty much missed things that have become feminine. And this phenomenon has nothing to do with transvestism. Because today women’s clothes are worn not only by transvestites and other unconventionally minded citizens, but also by quite “correctly” oriented men who are simply progressive fashionists.
But in fairness, I note that the pioneers of this fashion movement were, of course, “non-traditional” fashionistas. A few years ago, their first attempts to dress in women's clothes looked like an incredibly daring shocking act. But people moving in fashionable or bohemian circles are forgiven a lot. They were simply perceived as aliens.
One of the most prominent representatives of the movement - American fashion figure Alexander Jenkins, known to everyone as Miss J, is a mentor and judge on the reality show America's Next Top Model. Not every model can boast of a figure and gait like Jay’s, so in female images this man is incredibly harmonious.
Moreover, all his women's clothing is not stage costumes at all or simply a tribute to the chosen image of a fashionable freak. Alexander really dresses like this not only in the show, but also in everyday life:
American designer Marc Jacobs also loves to wear women's clothes. His wardrobe contains many designer items from women's collections. Not only does he wear Scottish kilts, but he can’t resist women’s pencil skirts, dresses and tunics:
And even in our country, which is not the most tolerant of such people, there are those who like to dress in “girlfriend style.” Meet an unusually colorful character of fashionable Moscow - stylist Maxim Poniatovsky.
This 20-year-old fashion hooligan masterfully mixes items from ladies' and men's wardrobe, and in dresses he looks no worse than some experienced people socialites. And one can only learn from him the ability to wear extravagant accessories such as kokoshniks and breathtaking hats. It is no coincidence that his clients include many show business stars.
But I promised to prove to you that women’s clothing is loved not only by outrageous fashionistas, but also by the most ordinary “earthly” men, quite “traditional”. The best one example – fashion blogger Michael Spuckshaw.
Here is Michael with his wife and daughter - so you have no doubt about how conservative family values he adheres to:
As you can see, he is wearing a skirt. And in general, his entire wardrobe consists exclusively of ladies' clothes - simply because they seem more attractive and comfortable to him. This man even wears women's underwear - also, as he says, solely for reasons of comfort. As a man of rather impressive size, he even has something like a woman’s breasts, so this man is not embarrassed to admit that he wears a bra - so that open dresses and sundresses fit better. On my blog Spookshaw wants to show that gender stereotypes does not exist, the main thing is to have the courage to be yourself and not be afraid to create your own style, even one that is different from the generally accepted one:
Well, what do you think of this cutie? I know, I know, some readers reproach me for my tender love to stylish freaks. And they say that in ordinary life their favorite fashion techniques are of little use. I agree with the last argument - after all, an office clerk is unlikely to be able to come to work in a woman’s dress. But men's fashion, feminized in the new season, offers many alternatives to dresses and skirts. Look at these not at all brutal images fashionable men as interpreted by designer Alessandro Michele at the Gucci fashion show.
The models are dressed in the most delicate silk blouses with bows and jabots, colorful suits, and even lace turtlenecks:
Whether we like it or not, men's fashion is becoming feminized, becoming softer, more feminine and sexy. Do you like it? Are you ready to share a wardrobe with your man?Illustrations: sweetstyle.ru, eccentricbliss.com, tweets.seraph.me, barrycyrus.wordpress.com,vitalk.vn, i-gency.ru, vk.com, stylebistro.com, wonderlandmagazine.com, theimprint.theimpression.com,
- hisblackdress.com, angeliafashion.com
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Comments: 29
Rita
20.05.2015 / 08:39
It's just a bomb, a fireworks display of emotions from horror to tenderness. Of this entire selection, Miss Jay is more pleasant, but only because I already managed to watch him at the TMPA show. The rest are just... I wouldn’t want to meet them live, and especially I would never share my skirt with a man, I want more brutality, where is it
20.05.2015 / 11:06
Name
Michael Spuckshaw has nice bows that are quite suitable for fat girls, although, it seems to me, he is disingenuous about the convenience of women’s clothing, otherwise why do so many girls and women prefer jeans with sneakers
20.05.2015 / 11:59
Jasmin
I really enjoy wearing some of the so-called feminine stuff. For example, panties with lace, tights and leggings, tunics and skirts. At home I always wear a tunic and leggings. Much has already been written about this, but I will repeat here - most items of clothing by women have been taken away from men.
08.01.2016 / 11:41
Vlad
The psyche and sexuality of a man is very unstable. First, tights, panties, then a nightie, it’s more convenient. Then depilation, creams, a little cosmetics, manicure, pedicure (after all, he wears tights, you need to keep your heels in order). Let's try to put a dress or a skirt on him, let him wear it at home. And just like that, they lost a man. And then you say how he wants to be a woman? So you yourself brought it to this point, showed him how interesting a woman’s life is. This is what happened to me. The wife overplayed her hand. It started with women's panties, then tights, stockings. naturally full depilation (hairy legs in tights are just terrible), pedicure, manicure (first without varnish). then nighties, at home in a robe, slippers with heels. Then my wardrobe was supplemented with bras, then dresses, skirts, etc. Sometimes they began to walk like two girls, this excited her greatly. In sex, I almost stopped being a man and only performed female role. My breasts and butt began to enlarge (I later found out that she mixed hormones in me). but in the end, a year ago she found herself a real macho man and left me, saying that she was no longer interested in being with a woman. Now I'm like an abandoned toy. WITH female breasts second size, feminine figure, an inactive member (from hormones she received complete impotence). Nice result!
23.10.2016 / 19:57
Olga
I'm a 55 year old transvestite man, I've been wearing everything feminine for a very long time, and I'll never wear anything masculine again, I was only happy to be a woman and wear everything only feminine, and let them say what they want about this, it doesn't matter to me, I'm comfortable, comfortable in sex, I love everything, I'm looking for women of this couples of any age up to 75 years of age, any sex orientation (I suck, lick, fuck and give fuck, I perform male and female roles, but in any case I should only be in everything feminine) and much more, this is all along the way I live Voronezh tel (89518673680) I’m really looking forward to it, don’t be shy Olga
22.02.2017 / 14:00
Eugene
Of course, the topic of men wearing women's clothing is very broad. Everyone has their own reasons. But for the most part it is a sexual fetish. And probably the most common fetish is this tights. Making women's legs so attractive and sexy. Yes, I myself belong to this category. I’ll just add that putting on and wearing women’s nylon tights is very exciting!
08.03.2017 / 23:18
Vasya
But since childhood I had a craving for women's clothing. I love women, family, children, business. And I wear women’s clothes when I’m alone. Good for relieving stress. In general, this is a strange feeling, a feeling of a woman’s soul... it helps me build relationships with women, as in the famous film “What Women Want.” Interestingly, in the middle of the last century, women won the right to wear trousers. In this century, men are winning the right to wear skirts😉
