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How to meet a girl on VK? How to start a conversation with a girl on the Internet: choose your unique style

How to meet a girl on VK? How to start a conversation with a girl on the Internet: choose your unique style

08.08.2019

What are you doing this evening after our date?
Do you think I like you more than you like me?
Hello, can I talk to you? And then all sorts of girls pester you, trying to get acquainted...
Hello, can you tell me how to cook dumplings?
You have a very happy nose!
Can you tell me the recipe for birch jam?
Hello! Today is an amazing day, can I cheer you up?
Hello! Are you also on VK? And I. Do you play the flute? Me neither. See how similar we are!
Do you meet nice young people? Here I am!
At your place beautiful eyes, what color are they?
I bet you can't guess what your name is?
You probably won't give me a chance to get to know you... But send me a smile if I'm wrong!
I'm clearly not the first person who wants to meet you. But I'm the best! Do you want me to prove it?
Hello! I sell happiness! Do you want me to give it to you for free?
Can you tell me where it is better to spend my salary?
I'm tired of waiting for you to make the first move. Hello!
You have amazing eyes, I just can’t tear myself away from them.
I look at you and understand that we definitely need to meet!
Tell me, how many people have you sent off today? I'm four. What cheeky girls!
I was staring at your photos and forgot to meet you. Hello!
Do you believe in love at forty-eighth sight? I’ve been looking at your photos for so long that I’m falling in love!
How did you know that I was online?
Let's change? You give me two hundred grams of sadness, and I give you a kilogram of my joy?
Can we already talk or will we just like each other?
Do you remember me? You dreamed about me!
Hello, I'm reading now interesting story. The guy met the girl and they lived happily ever after! By the way, do you know how he met her? He said: “Hi, I was just reading an interesting story!”
You know, before I met you, I was sure that I was gay!
How about flirting?
Hello! I want to interview you. Tell me, what is it like to be the most beautiful girl?
Can you help me learn how to talk to girls?
Hello, I'm conducting a census and I'd like to start with you!
Hello, please change mine free time to communicate with you?
You are very mistaken if you think that I want to get to know you. I want to ask you out on a date!
So two damn attractive people met. Hello!
No, well, if you remain silent all the time, no one will get to know you. I'll help, hi!
You know, I didn't have a very pleasant day. I was upset, but then I saw your avatar.
Can you forgive yourself if you don't answer me?
Have young people ever crawled at your feet? What about your hands?!
And if I were such a beautiful girl like you, I would get to know myself!
Who are you dating? Come with me!
Hello! I'm writing a book about what girls want. Won't you tell me?
A stunning girl like you should have beautiful font!
Hello! I got lost in life and barely found you, will you lead me out of the dim world of loneliness?
Can I flirt with you?
You know, there are things that are easy to imagine together - black and white, day and night, butter and porridge, you and me...
Do you want to talk to the person who really liked you?
What questions do you think guys get slapped for?
You have a boyfriend? Or maybe you need something better?
Perhaps you are in love with your city?
I love dogs very much. Can you tell me which breed is better to get?
What are you, a professional stylist?
You are beautiful! Can we switch to “you”?
You spend a lot of time online, maybe we should go unwind?
You're so beautiful! Or do you know a professional photographer?
Imagine, I wrote you a huge text, and then they turned off the lights. So just hello!
Wow, I love this band too! What song is your favorite?
You have a very cute face!
You have such beautiful eyes! Especially the left one!
Gorgeous legs! And the right one is doubly gorgeous!
I like your mouth ☺
You know, your breasts are so cute! And there are even two of them!
Nice dress! Just know, the handbag doesn't fit very well.
Have you heard the phrase that whoever you mess with is how you get rich? So, I like you, and I decided that I would get some from you!
It was difficult, but I was able to write to you! Will you reward me with an answer?
Have you ever ridden an escalator? Do you want me to give you a ride?
I think I have amnesia, otherwise I would have already written to you!
Do you happen to have a red thread? We could start a friendship with her.
Your beauty struck me so much that I forgot what I wanted to tell you.
Have you ever been offered marriage? I'm a surgeon, I have a lot of them!
Sorry, can I adjust your plans for the evening?
Was it you who just clicked “like” on my photo? No? It's a pity…
I wonder if your inner world Does it match your photo?
It must be bad to be your friend, because you outshine everyone with your beauty!
I miss two things in life - you and hair.
When I see you, I understand how good it is that I am single!
You know, your hair matches the color of my pillow perfectly.
It must have hurt to fall from heaven?
Girl, doesn’t your mother need a son-in-law?
I'll bet you ten thousand that I'll ask you out on a date and you'll refuse?
Marry me!
Urgently, call an ambulance, I was shot by an arrow of love...
Give me your sadness? I need it for experiments.
Hello! Could you call me to wake me up tomorrow? I'm afraid to oversleep.
Did you come from a fairy tale?
Do you know what love at first sight is? If not, I'll write again!
Are you Alice, my contact?
Girl, you're probably tired of the question about your son-in-law?
I bought Borjomi and salami, come eat!
And here I am collecting a harem. The only thing missing is you.
When will you take your first step? I'm tired of waiting and making it myself! Let's get acquainted!
I definitely saw you somewhere, can you remind me where?
You are beautiful on the Internet, show yourself in real life?
Hello! Stunning places in your photos. Where is it?
You wrote that you love “….” group. Don't you have their songs on cassettes?
Have you ever really seen interesting girl?
You have a very familiar face! You weren't at the club yesterday?
You know the saying “listen to a woman and do the opposite”? So, I don’t want you to answer me!
I have a great vacancy! Man/Girl to go to the cinema with me. Would you like to try?
Hello. It's such a good day today. I want to cheer someone up. Maybe for you?
Today I saw you in a dream, but you only managed to say your first and last name. And now I found you!
You have such beautiful eyes. I've been looking only at them for a long time, but I don't dare to write.

Today, more and more dating girls are moving from real life in Internet. More specifically, in VK. However, when it comes to communication, many guys do not understand at all how to communicate with a girl correctly and what you can talk to her about. Actually, I already wrote an article about how to meet people on VK. But direct acquaintance and further communication are different. When you meet someone, you simply use a few templates and quickly take a number. It is not always possible to meet in real life right away, or the girl does not want to leave her number yet. This is where internet communication skills come in handy.

Once upon a time, in the first years of the founding of the VKontakte website, meeting girls on this social network was much easier. People were just registering and were not yet completely comfortable with their relationship to these sites. Yes, and they approached the ladies quite rarely.

But, nevertheless, even today, with the right approach you can meet and chat with girls on VK. Below you will find several rules of communication, as well as specific examples.

How to communicate with a girl on VK - basic rules

#1 Don't be intrusive. Nobody likes clingy behavior and you should be tactful towards the girl. If you don’t see enthusiasm from her answers, then it’s better to say that you’ll write to her later. The reasons may be different: she is in a bad mood, got a bad grade at university, the hamster died, etc. If you don't feel these moments, you can really push the girl away.

#2 Be original and not boring. Forget such phrases as “how are you”, “what are you doing” and the like. I don't want to answer them. Try to find general theme and develop it by adding your wonderful sense of humor and a share of intelligence. This is much better than spending short or long correspondence about nothing.

#3 Don’t bombard the girl with questions. If you ask any interest Ask, try to develop a conversation or discussion from it. If you throw questions one after another, it greatly stresses a person out.

#4 Don’t always be online. If you are constantly hanging out on VK, then this means that you are an uninteresting person who has nothing to do except sit in front of the computer. And if a girl notices this, it will greatly blur the impression of you.

#5 Use your sense of humor. To make your friend begin to experience emotions when communicating with you, use a sense of humor. After all, without this component, the conversation will turn out to be serious and boring.

What to talk about with a girl on VK - the best topics for conversation

There are several topics of conversation that can always be interesting to talk about with a girl. For example:

Hobbies

You can find out what a girl is like, what she does, her hobbies and how she spends her free time. And also make a conclusion for yourself whether this person is interesting to you at all.

Weather

A traditional theme, especially among the British. In some situations it's nice to talk about the weather.

Trips

Sport

Perhaps the girl is involved in some kind of sport. Then this will be a good topic for conversation. Provided that you also like the sport.

Relationship

Here you can learn about the girl’s views on life. How she sees her relationships with the opposite sex.

Pets

Many people have a dog, cat, hamster, etc. at home. A relaxed and fun topic.

Sex

It’s impossible without him :) Of course, you shouldn’t talk about sex from the very beginning of dating. But in the future, this is a very good topic for learning about a girl’s sexual preferences. Show that you are not embarrassed to talk about it. Also, such conversations have a positive effect on quick seduction.

An example of communicating with a girl on VK for the purpose of seduction (excerpt):

Tatyana: That's for sure. Therefore, you need to clearly express your thoughts and desires

Mark: I liked you, I want to make love to you

Tatyana: Even so right away

Tatyana: Very unexpected

Tatyana: Did you like me the day before yesterday?))

Mark: no, not at all

Tatyana: I liked you too

Mark: that's good

Mark: and I clearly expressed my desire)

Tatyana: Right now, yes.

Tatyana: Let's make love.

Mark: Saturday

Tatyana: In the evening

Tatyana: I never planned such activities

Tatyana: And you?

Mark: I think so too

Tatyana: There’s a first time for everything

Tatyana: But it will be fair. So?

Mark: Exactly. No misunderstandings

Tatyana: And everything is like adults

Tatyana: And just like in the movies)

Mark: exactly)

Tatyana: But there will still be embarrassment. Is not it?

Mark: slight embarrassment is appropriate)

Tatyana: But only light)))

Tatyana: Do you like to kiss?

Mark: yes, very much. And you?

Tatyana: And I am very

Mark: Cool

Tatyana: Yeah

Tatyana: We have already found one common interest

Mark: good interest))

Tatyana: Excellent)

Tatyana: I think we’ll find more)

Mark: I have no doubt)

Tatyana: Mutual confidence)

Tatyana: I just forgot how old you are

Tatiana: 26?

Tatyana: And when 25

Tatyana: Do you remember how old I am?

Mark: in July

Mark: 29 I think

Mark: right?

Tatyana: Not anymore

Tatyana: Somehow I’m much older than you(

Tatiana: 30

Mark: ok, 5 years difference

Tatyana: Okay) if so

Tatyana: It's time to sleep

Mark: Sweet dreams

Tatyana: Thank you. And you. Till tomorrow

A simple example of a conversation in VK:

Mark: Oh, hi)

Alena: Hello) why such a surprise?

Mark: somehow our previous conversation was interrupted)

How do you feel?

Alena: I’m in a great mood, the session is over! I'll go home soon

and how are you?

Mark: I’m doing great too, I recently returned from the lake, swam in the dark)

and where to go home?

Alyona: ********* **********

a bit far

Mark: when are you going?

Alena: 5th

Mark: I’m going to Poland tomorrow, I’ll be back in the evening, we could see each other)

Alena: I wouldn’t mind, otherwise it’s so boring in the dorm

Mark: do you live on Pushkinskaya?

Alena: Moscow

dorm near the technical university

Mark: ah, got it

write your number, I’ll call you when I arrive tomorrow

Alena: uhhh.. well, you’re fast))) if you go online, I’ll wait for you here

Where're you from? Tell me about yourself?

Mark: let’s better meet when we meet, it will be more interesting to talk)

Alena: well, tell me something, otherwise I don’t know you at all

Mark: is it scary to date?) I’m a decent young man, I do boxing and love to travel)

Alena: wow, this is already interesting

boxing, travel

How long have you been boxing?

Mark: 6 years

Alena: How long have you been traveling?

Mark: I’ll go to Germany at the end of July, and from there to Turkey)

Alena: cool)

wait for me tomorrow VK)

Alena: ok, what time approximately?

I just need to pack my things tomorrow

Mark: oh, I don’t know, it’s hard to say, that’s why I asked for the number so that it would be easier to contact

Alena: well approximately

otherwise I’ll have to stay in touch all day

Mark: I think it should be by 7

Alena: ok

Now you know how to communicate correctly and what you can talk about with a girl on VK. Good luck!

It's always difficult to meet people. After all, you want to please a person at first sight. But, unfortunately, this is not always possible. Today, young people prefer to make friends and comrades on social networks or through mobile phones. What is proper correspondence with a girl like? How to make acquaintances? What questions should you ask a representative of the fair sex so as not to scare her away? It is these topics that we will talk about next.

Choosing a communication style

At the very beginning, it should be noted that the main thing is to choose the right style of communication with the lady you like. But how to do that? Everything is extremely simple. If you are going to meet someone on social networks, you just need to carefully study the girl’s page. She can tell you a lot. So, you can look at the photos and pictures she has uploaded, and listen to the playlist. It is easy to draw certain conclusions from this. Let's consider what communication styles you can choose:

Sweet, “vanilla”. Girls who prefer this kind of communication love it when people “lisp” with them, when they are given compliments and even flattered.
Literary. This is how you should communicate with girls who like to be addressed in beautiful literary speech, without ordinary expressions, not in Surzhik.
Ordinary. Here you can simply write to a girl without thinking about who she really wants to present herself as.
Special. In this case, you need to carefully study the terminology of the subculture to which the lady belongs. This can be easily recognized by photos and playlists on social networks.

First word/phrase

It is very important that the beginning of correspondence with a girl is as correct as possible. Why is that? The fact is that ladies, especially beautiful ones, receive many offers to meet each other every day. And most of them are simply ignored. That is why you need to initially interest the girl and attract the necessary attention. So, the first word or phrase written in the message is important. The usual "Hello!" few will be surprised. You need to be creative with your first proposal. So, let's look at successful correspondence with girls. Examples of the first phrases will help you build communication with the fairer sex you like:

"Hello! Tell me, what will happen to our planet if all the butterflies (cats, dogs) disappear?” That is, you need to ask about what the lady herself likes.
“I wonder what could such beautiful girl make you happy?"
"Hello! I’m asking a business question: tell me, what modeling agency do you work for? I want to send mine there little sister(niece)?” This is how you can start a conversation with beautiful ladies.

A story about yourself

Let's figure out further how to start a correspondence with a girl. So, if an acquaintance has already been established, you need to know how to keep the conversation going. To do this, you need to tell about yourself and find out all the most interesting and important things about the life of the lady you like. In this case, you need to review your completed application form. In some cases, it can be edited a little, adjusting the information towards the interests of the lady you like. What should you tell about yourself? Correspondence with a girl will be very successful if there are no boring stories like “born-raised-studied-work.” First of all, we need to talk about those aspects of life where you can find similar interests:

Hobbies, interests.
Favorite films, music.
Recreation preferences (visiting clubs, going out into nature, hanging out with friends at home or in a quiet place, etc.).

However, it is also important to talk about your place of study or work. After all, there may be certain lines of intersection. At the same time, it is necessary not only to tell. After your speech, you need to ask an appropriate question, for example: “I love cars and everything connected with them. How do you feel about this hobby?” If a lady is not interested in something, you should not stop there, you need to move on to the next object of attention.

Topics that will appeal to many young ladies

In order for correspondence with a girl to be very successful, you definitely need to interest the lady. In this case, you need to choose an appropriate topic for conversation. So, let’s look at the questions a girl should definitely ask when texting:

Questions about her personality. All people love to talk about themselves and their achievements. Therefore, after almost every story, it is good to ask a question, as they say, on the topic. This way you can chat for hours, learning more and more information about each other.
Preferences. You definitely need to ask the girl about her preferences in all possible areas of life. You can talk not only about music, movies or books. So, you can find out about your favorite clothing style, weather, season, food, drinks, etc.
Future plans. This path is very risky (especially if the guy is afraid of commitment), but sometimes you can ask about the girl’s plans for the future. If the answers she gave are ambiguous and are not to your liking, you need to quickly move the topic in a different direction. However, you should not choose a completely opposite topic, so that the girl does not get the feeling that the guy is deliberately ignoring this or that question. For example, if a lady wrote: “I dream of getting married and having five children,” you can answer: “That’s good. “My sister (brother) has a family, there are children, they are so happy.” And then move on to the topic of relatives.

If the correspondence “stalled”

What questions can you ask a girl when corresponding if communication does not work out or is progressing rather difficultly?

Tell me about your most fun day.
Ask what country (city) the girl would like to live in and why.
Ask who the young lady dreamed of becoming as a child.
Ask what made the girl choose this particular profession (study direction, job).
Ask what your interlocutor dreams about.
Ask a question about what kind of fairy-tale hero the girl would like to become if possible.

There are actually a lot of such questions. You just need to use your imagination.

About men

If you start a correspondence with a girl, you also need to clarify how the lady treats members of the opposite sex and whether she is thinking of starting close communication with guys in the near future. The answer is important, because the future of the correspondence itself will depend on it. If a girl is hostile towards people of the opposite sex, then you should not waste your time on her. Let's consider what correspondence with girls can be like in this case. Examples possible questions from your side are given below.

What character traits do you want to see in young man? What, in your opinion, do not make a man beautiful?
Are you ready to visit some interesting place in the near future (hint of a date)?
How ready are you to change your life in the near future (hint of a serious relationship)?
What kind of ideal couple is she?

It is important to remember here that if a lady goes away from the topic, you also need to step back from it for a while. IN otherwise It’s easy to scare off a girl with your pressure.

Taboos and forbidden topics

So, we figured out how to start a correspondence with a girl. However, it is worth remembering that it is still very important to maintain communication correctly. So, you should not make various mistakes:

You should never criticize a lady's shortcomings. This will offend her.
You can't make fun of her choices (in music, movies, books, etc.).
You can't talk down to a lady. The conversation should be on equal terms.
You cannot boast or flaunt your advantages. It's not beautiful.
When talking to a lady, you should not be rude, swear, or call names. Even if the girl behaves inappropriately. It’s better to just “turn on ignore” and stop communicating.
You should not ask too frank or even intimate questions at first.
You cannot promise or offer something without the desire to bring it all to life. Men don't do that.

It is worth noting that correspondence with a girl on VKontakte or another social network can be completely different. Sometimes it happens that, even following all the rules of decency, you cannot strike up an acquaintance with a girl. No problem! No need to be upset. You just need to continue to look for your destiny, without focusing on failures.

Time does not stand still, technology is rapidly developing, but the problems of the younger generation remain the same. When guys were afraid to say a banal “hello.” Today, they do not dare to start correspondence first. And, even if the young man managed to get the phone number of his passion, he still does not dare to talk for a long time. But you can write an SMS. How to chat with a girl you like? What to talk about, ask? These are the questions that concern most teenagers.

Good start

For successful SMS correspondence, it is important to start correctly and originally. The girl should receive a message that she has not yet had. A simple greeting or emoticon will not do. The girl needs to be interested. You can show originality in your first message like this:

Be witty. You can give a girl an unusual compliment or remark.
Be fun. The girl should smile when reading the message. But jokes should also be smart.
Be educated. You can write something to the girl interesting fact, the news we just heard.

In order to start a dialogue, and not just play with one goal, the girl must receive a question from the guy. How to set it? It is better to start correspondence with a question. Then the passion will understand that you are waiting for a reciprocal step from her. It is important that the question is simple and easy. She doesn't have to spend the whole evening thinking about the answer. The simplest, most common option is to ask how your day was.

The message must not contain errors. Before sending an SMS message, be sure to check the punctuation and spelling. If a sentence or question is not structured correctly, you may not expect an answer. When texting, you need to remain yourself. Don't try to seem smarter or better to the girl. She will immediately feel that she is trying too hard. Too much humor will also not work in your favor. Everything should be in moderation.

How to keep your crush's attention?

If the girl nevertheless answered your question and started a dialogue with you, you need to keep her interest. If a guy can carry on a conversation over the phone, he is even more interesting during live communication. The purpose of correspondence is to let the girl know about your character, interests, and hobbies. And, if she likes your wit, she will want to meet you in real life as soon as possible.

You can keep your attention in the following ways:

Share your interests. Football, cooking, and martial arts will definitely interest the fairer sex.
Find common interests. Find out what the girl is interested in, try to find something in common in your hobbies and preferences.
Tell us that you would like to devote yourself more to your hobby. She will understand that you have a rich life, a rich worldview.
Be smart. To a funny comment from your crush, don’t write a banal “ha ha.” Come up with an equally funny, original answer.

Be sure to flirt. If she is already responding to you and is involved in the dialogue, flirting and compliments will be pleasant to her. This will only spark conversation. In addition, the object of your adoration will clearly understand that you like her. After light flirting You can move on to direct action. Try to show her in SMS correspondence that you are constantly thinking about her. Show that you remember everything she talked about and wrote. Ask more questions that concern her personally.

Successful end of correspondence

To continue having something in common with a girl you like in real life, you need to know when to stop and end the correspondence. Don't send endless messages to your crush. Intrusiveness and excessive persistence will only scare her away. In the end, the girl has her own personal matters and concerns, and she cannot answer you all the time.

If your loved one regularly ends the conversation herself, it is better to wait until she writes first. You need to give her time to solve her problems, and not stress her even more. The end of the conversation should always be positive. A funny message gives you a reason to write to you tomorrow. You can tell the girl that you are going to a concert or meeting with friends. Then next time you will have a topic to discuss.

The end of the conversation could be like this:

Always write “good night.”
Write that it was fun and interesting for you to communicate today.
Let her know that you will think about her.
Tell us what you plan to do after your conversation with her.

After the SMS correspondence is regular and successful, you can safely invite the girl on a date. And even this needs to be done correctly. Avoid officialdom, direct standard phrases (“I’m inviting you on a date”). Say that you are going to a bar, cinema, theater, ask if she would like to join you. Even if you get rejected, it's not the end of the world. Perhaps the girl already has plans for this evening, and you will be able to meet in real life next time.

What to chat about with a girl on VK?

Today, a world without social networks seems impossible. And for teenagers, teenagers, young people, virtual life seems more real than usual. Most communication is conducted via Internet mail. Also, social media- a great dating option. How to properly meet a girl on VK?

You need to start with correct design personal page in contact. To interest your crush, you need to upload high-quality photographic material. Business card The guy is an ordinary photographic portrait, but in good enlargement. There should be a minimum of surroundings, photoshop, a maximum of naturalness.

On your page the girl should find photos from her personal life, with friends, from vacation. She will understand that you have fun, spend your free time intensely, and have a hobby. This means you are an interesting person, and there is something to talk about with you. It is equally important to tag photos with other girls. Your crush will have a question about these representatives of the fairer sex, and you will have a reason to talk about them and start a conversation.

Before starting a conversation on VK, carefully analyze the girl’s page. This will allow you to discover something in common. So, from your social network profile you will learn:

Girls' hobbies;
Her interests by group;
How often does she log into VK?
How many fans does she have?
Who are her friends (maybe you have common ones).

Don't start straight away with correspondence. First, add your crush as a friend. If she accepts your offer, you can start communicating. You don't have to write her a private message. You can start with a flattering comment under the photo, rating the avatar.

Proper communication on a social network

There are several rules for corresponding with a girl. By following them, you will definitely be able to make new acquaintances. First, you need to decide on the purpose of communication. Do you just want to communicate, find a new friend, or are you planning a subsequent relationship? Serious relationships. Depending on your goal, choose your communication style.

The general rules for online correspondence are as follows:

Be positive. A girl should have fun just talking to you. Appropriate humor always comes in handy. But ridiculous sarcasm will only alienate the fairer sex.
Be literate. Spelling and punctuation errors are simply unacceptable. Believe me, the first thing women pay attention to during correspondence is literacy. In the absence of one, your communication will end before it even begins.
To be polite. During every conversation, greet the girls, and then say goodbye. Basic politeness and ethics will attract a girl.
Intrigue. To provoke a girl, maintain intrigue. She will be interested in communicating in this spirit. Next time she will start the correspondence herself.
Be interested. Show interest in the girl’s interests, hobbies, and life. If a young man talks only about himself, few people will like it.
Be different. You can turn from a brutal macho into an incorrigible romantic.

Examples of correspondence

What to talk about with a girl by correspondence? How to answer her questions? As soon as you write “hello” to her, she will have a lot of questions. And the first one is “who are you.” And this is natural, because the woman doesn’t know you, she hasn’t seen you before. Try to answer this question for yourself and write. Your message could be: “Hi, I'm Andrey. I'm a cool, funny guy and I'd love to hang out with you."

Also, the girl will definitely be interested in what you need from her. There is no need to fuss here, but talk about your goals. Be sure to compliment your crush that she is beautiful and you are very interested in starting a correspondence with her. Just correspondence, don’t try to meet with her right away. Everything should be gradual, take its course.

How to chat with a girl you like? Here are real examples of first messages with which you can start a conversation in contact:

"Hello Kate. My name is Sasha, and I am also interested in this musical group (sport, book). I saw you have the same community. I have plans to attend their concert, but I haven’t decided yet whether it’s worth it. Please advise."
“Hello, Marina. My sister's birthday is in a week, and I still haven't decided on a gift. So I decided to ask the girls on VKontakte about gift options. Tell me, please."
“Good afternoon, Christina. It seems like I saw you at the Central Department Store last night. You are very beautiful both in life and in the photo. So I decided to just give you a compliment.”

These are all general, approximate phrases that can be adjusted to suit the girl’s interests. But the message must contain a polite greeting, compliment, question (request). In any case, the girl will give you an answer, and after that the dialogue will begin.

Remember that she won't start falling in love with you right away. There is no need to rush things. Always keep her interested. Regularly send her online poems and pictures. They can be both romantic and humorous. It all depends on the woman. Once your conversations become casual and regular, you can ask her for her phone number. After all, chatting with a girl online is just one way of communication. Already during a live conversation, real love can occur.

It’s easier to talk to a girl you like on the Internet than in real life. In a couple of clicks you can find out everything about her: where she works or studies, what her hobbies are, what films she watches and what music she listens to. But what should you write to her in the first message in contact so that the girl will pay attention and want to continue the conversation? In our article we will talk about what must be in the first message and what should not be there, and at the end of the article you will find several examples of successful online dating...

Preparing for dating: a few important rules

Before starting a correspondence you need to:

Tidy up your page. Choose a good avatar, fill out the “About Me” section, publish it beautiful pictures etc.
Choose a girl. We choose a girl from our city, weed out fake accounts, find common interests, possible topics for conversation.

About how to properly prepare your page on social media. networks to meet and choose suitable girl We talked in detail in . Be sure to read this article before you start writing your first message.

What should be the first message to a girl: 3 main questions

The first message should be brief, but should directly or indirectly respond to 3 main questions, which will definitely arise in the head of any girl after she reads your “Hello”.

These are the questions:

Who you are: what is your name, how did you find it online;
Purpose of dating: chat, have fun, go on a date;
Reason why you chose it: what do you have in common, what did you like about her?

The order of these points may vary depending on the situation.

The main task the first message is to interest the girl, make her pay her attention to you. To do this, you don’t need to write a whole sheet of text or come up with complex greetings. 1-2 correctly selected simple sentences are enough.

Don't forget to say hello and introduce yourself the name your friends call you. Avoid overly familiar forms (“Sanyok”, etc.). Yes, your name is already on the page, but the introduction is a simple form of dating etiquette.

Don’t know what excuse to come up with for communication? Desire to communicate– this is already an excellent excuse for the first message. Do not intimidate a girl by talking about your desire to start a family and have children, even if you are really looking for a future spouse.

Carefully look through her page - pay attention to books, music, films and public pages. How is a girl different from others? What is she proud of? What unites you?

Write that you saw on her page a photo from a recent concert of your favorite band or that you noticed a selection of Nolan’s works in her videos. Show her that she is not just another girl to whom you “copy-paste” prepared text, but that she is special. She will at least become interested in what kind of person you are if you point out your common interests, and she will want to continue communication.

Examples of good phrases for dating

Here are 3 original example from the life of the beginning of a conversation in VK, which can be used as a sample.

Example 1. A beautiful compliment is an original start to a conversation

Hi, Olya! My name is Vadim. I accidentally came across your page and wanted to get to know you. The smile on the avatar is so charming:)

Well, hello, Vadim! Thanks for the compliment…

Or maybe we can meet and continue communicating offline?

Sorry, but I don't go on dates with the first person I meet.

You can go to my page - there's quite a lot about me there. You won’t even know that much about a stranger on the street if they come up to you to introduce themselves :) By the way, I also have a Rottweiler. Maybe we can meet and walk the dogs? How about tomorrow evening?

Fine. Here is my number +79212345xxx

Example 2. A common passion is travel.

Hello, Sveta! I was looking for news posts using the hashtag Baikal, and accidentally came across your page. I saw that we are both from the same city, and that you went there this summer. Would it take me a lot of time to ask a few questions about the trip? By the way, I forgot to introduce myself - my name is Grisha)

Hello! Nice to meet you :) Few people get from our city to Lake Baikal - nowadays it’s both closer and cheaper to fly abroad than to fly so far away. Ask whatever you want. I'll try to answer)

Or maybe we can meet somewhere for a cup of coffee? I think it will be more convenient this way. In general, I really like traveling around Russia. I can give you some more interesting routes)

Why not?)) I’m busy today, but I can do it tomorrow after work. I finish at 8 at Amethyst's. Comfortable?

Yes, it's convenient. Leave your number please. In case I lose you there)

79213345xxx see you)

Where not to start a correspondence: the most common mistakes

The most common mistakes the following:

Platitudes The first message must be original. You can’t start a conversation with cliches or hackneyed phrases, for example: “Hello! How are you?". If you write something like that, in 9 cases out of 10 she will simply ignore the message;
Sexual innuendo. Moreover, this includes not only messages like: “I would like to look at you up close!”, but also “compliments” to the girl’s figure, even if she herself put a profile photo of herself in a swimsuit;
Use of slang expressions and swear words. It seems that this is understandable, but many first messages from men are still replete with various “what”. And if a girl decides to ignore you or immediately rejects you (even if in a rude manner), under no circumstances should you call her names. Even if you never cross paths again, save face and don’t stoop to something like this;
There are grammatical errors. Check what you write. Special attention pay attention to commas. No one will find fault if there are minor punctuation errors in the message, but a complete lack of understanding of the grammar of the Russian language will definitely scare off an adult girl;
Deception. Using a “fake” page or one without personal photos. Put yourself in the girl’s shoes: would you, in her place, meet a person who has no friends on his page, and whose profile photo shows a Hollywood actor or the latest model Lamborghini?

The girl replied to the message: what next?

So, you managed to interest the woman and she responded to your message. What to do next? The best solution is to go directly towards your goal.

If you want a close relationship, immediately invite her on a date and take her phone number. You need to take advantage of the moment while her attention is completely focused on you. The longer you wait, the more likely that she will refuse to meet in person.

Remember! Pointless messaging is a waste of precious time.

If a girl agrees to go on a date, you need to immediately set a place. Here is a selection of where you can go on a first date.

Great way to produce good impression on a date - surprise the girl, surprise her. Here are a few ways to do it.

If a girl doesn’t agree to a date, this is not a reason to give up. There is no need to delete her from your contacts and send her to the blacklist. You can continue to communicate with her. Don't forget, the more you communicate with girls, the better it will work out. In addition, if you interest her in correspondence, she will definitely give you a second chance. There are several that can be used in correspondence here.

In any case, if you want success with women, then you need to develop.

Brief conclusions

In short, for a successful first message, you need to briefly and succinctly describe the purpose of the appeal. Sometimes you can directly talk about the desire to get to know each other, but it is more effective to use some kind of excuse. Don’t forget to put the page in proper form, double-check your grammar, and get ready to deal with objections.

Don't put pressure on the girl, stay positive and remember that the purpose of your first message is to meet. Communication just for the sake of communication in this case doesn't make sense. And if at first the young lady refused to meet with you, but continued the correspondence, then you should just wait. Give the girl a couple of days to get to know you better.