Deflowering: interesting traditions and shocking facts. How deflowering was done in different countries of the world: historical fact

What women did not endure in ancient times! horror! In ancient times, bordering on the Neolithic era, the defloration of a young girl by a woman was an extremely common occurrence. Not so long ago, there was a tradition in Peru: a mother deflowers her daughter in public place. The same cases were noted in Kamchatka and Madagascar. *** There was a time when girls were obliged to go into the forest to be deflowered by hermit monks who wore animal skins and animal horns. These prehistoric monks belonged to special brotherhoods of man-oxen, man-horse, man-goat, man-wolf, man-lion, etc. In each individual case, they wore the skin of the corresponding animal.
***According to ancient Greek and Roman medical texts, girls in those days reached puberty at 14 years of age. Until this age, they could generally walk without clothes. In some provinces, it was considered a shame if a wife was left untouched until the wedding - she had to lose her virginity in advance in the temple of the Great Goddess, to whom a sacrifice in the form of a broken (or stretched) hymen was dedicated. In Hellas, the Great Goddess was called Aphrodite, in Babylon - Ishtar, in Phenicia - Astarte. On the appointed day, the chaste woman came to the temple and gave herself to any unknown man she met. At the same time, the deflorator under no circumstances had the right to expose the girl - this was equivalent to desecration of the temple. In Roman temples, virgins could also be deflowered with the help of phallic figurines that depicted one of the lower fertility deities. *** In the East, there once lived people called “Cadeberis,” whose only duty and profession was the defloration of girls before marriage. Deprivation of virginity was considered a very responsible and dangerous matter. *** The ancient Scandinavian tribes had such a custom. With the onset of darkness before the first wedding night, the sorcerer took the virgin into the forest, lit a fire and brought a sacrifice to the goddess Freya - an elk or a boar. And only after that he performed ritual intercourse with the girl. If sexual intercourse was not accompanied by rupture of the hymen and bleeding, the victim was considered rejected. True, a second attempt was allowed. Well, if the second “approach” ended in failure, the girl was declared rejected by the gods and thereby doomed to eternal loneliness. In such cases, the marriage was dissolved, and a new wife was found for the failed husband.
*** In Egypt, Saudi Arabia and many other Muslim countries, the custom of ceremonial defloration has been preserved to this day, when the hymen is torn with the index finger of the right hand, wrapped in a white cloth, which, of course, should be painted scarlet. *** In Old Russian marriage ceremony was folk custom: Druzhka (“senior boyar”) remained close to the newlyweds during the first wedding night. If the groom failed to cope with his marital duties, he was obliged to replace him. *** In the north of Slovakia, in Bosnia and Montenegro, the bride was symbolically (and previously, probably actually) deflowered by the groom’s “boyfriend”, who was considered the main one at the wedding. *** In Tibet, taking a virgin as a wife was considered bad manners. And if the village found out about this fact, the couple could be expelled altogether... Moreover, before the wedding, the girl was ordered to give herself to at least twenty men. Moreover, Tibet has never been a particularly populated place, which gave the idea a special extreme and intensity. However, telling your husband about the number of partners was considered unethical.
*** In Oceania, according to tradition, the groom entrusted his future wife to several friends, who spent several days with her away from the settlement, and only upon returning from there proceeded to the wedding celebration. *** Among the Zakai tribe (Sumatra island), the bride had to be deflowered by the father, who was helped by the bride’s uncles, i.e. brothers of father and mother, regardless of age. Sometimes up to 25 men aged from 70 to 10 years gathered at the bed of the unfortunate girl.
*** Well-known culturologist Mircea Eliade in the book “Shamanism: Archaic Techniques of Ecstasy” gives a story about the deprivation of virginity during the initiation of a girl into a shaman: “The girl is undressed, placed on a bed of sheep skins and covered with canelo leaves, constantly making magical movements. Then the shaman women bend over her and begin to suck her breasts, stomach and genitals with such force that the young shaman reaches ecstasy. At the same time, she is deprived of her innocence.” *** Almost all tribes in South America and in some African tribes There was a widespread tradition of deflowering oneself with a wooden dildo. After which the torn hymen was covered with pieces of antiseptic plants.
*** In Papua New Guinea, the right to deflower a girl belonged exclusively to the high priest. This happened with the help of a wooden knife, and the groom was obliged to invite other men to “test” the newly-made bride. Only after this did the wedding take place, and in marriage the wife had to remain faithful.
*** In some African tribes they fought for the “safety” of the bride. And they solved this matter radically - the girl’s vagina was simply sewn up early age and “revealed” it only before the wedding on special council elders
*** In Cambodia, the bride is deflorated during wedding ceremony carried out by the clergyman, using the middle finger of his hand dipped in wine. After this, the wine was drunk by members of the groom's family. *** In 1507, the city council of the French town of Amiens adopted new law: “The husband has no right to share a bed with his wife on the first wedding night without the permission of his lord, before the lord himself deigns to share the bed with the wife of his vassal.” If such an order had been issued today, or even a hundred or two hundred years ago, human rights activists and new husbands would probably have staged a protest march. But at the beginning of the 16th century, ordinary townspeople greeted the above legal act... with a storm of joy! Moreover, the husband-vassal also tried to financially thank his lord for the “pioneer of ascent.” *** The canons of the Lyon Cathedral were invited as deflorators by their serf subjects. History knows a case when the monks of a monastery in Piedmont turned to the local bishop with a request to spare them from such a procedure. The hierarch met them halfway and replaced the right of the first night with payment of monetary compensation...
*** Among some peoples of Siberia and the Far North, it was customary to invite a “stranger” - a representative of another nationality - to defloration. Moreover, such hospitality had purely selfish reasons: it was believed that along with the blood of a virgin, the anger of the ancestors was poured out on the man. And if a foreigner performs the ritual, then he takes the fire upon himself! *** The real horror of ritual defloration awaits girls in certain tribes of equatorial Africa. They are sent into the jungle so that the role of the first man will be played by... a male gorilla. Moreover, if a girl fails to attract a “monkey,” this casts a shadow on her reputation as a potential spouse: even the gorilla didn’t bite! Long live progress, technical, social, scientific, thanks to which such heresy ended!))

An ancient tradition of deflowering!

Defloration of girls in ancient times was often a ritual procedure performed by women. Thus, among many peoples of South America, responsibility for breaking the hymen fell on midwives after the birth of girls or on mothers who deprived their daughters of innocence at a very young age.

In Peru, not so long ago, mothers traditionally deflowered girls in public. Similar rituals took place in Kamchatka, as well as on the island of Madagascar.

1. In the old days, there was a tradition according to which young girls went to the forest, where they were deprived of their virginity by hermit monks who wore special robes - animal skins and horns. These monks belonged to a special kind of brotherhood of lion-men, horse-men, bull-men, wolf-men, and so on. Depending on which brotherhood the monk belonged to, he was dressed in the appropriate animal skin.

2. Ancient Greek and Roman texts contain information according to which girls in those days reached puberty at the age of 14. Until this moment, it was not considered condemnable even if they walked around without clothes at all. For girls in some provinces, it was a real shame if their husband received them untouched - they had to get rid of their virginity in advance in a special temple to the Big Goddess. This goddess, who in Hellas was called Aphrodite, in Phenicia - Astarte, and in Babylon - Ishtar. It was to her that the sacrifice in the form of a torn hymen was dedicated. On a certain day, a chaste girl had to come to the temple and give herself to any stranger who would be in the temple. At the same time, the man was forbidden to expose the girl’s body, since such behavior was equated to desecration of a shrine. In Roman temples, special phallic figurines depicting one of the fertility deities could be used for deflowering.

3. In many Muslim countries, in particular in Egypt and Saudi Arabia, to this day there is a ritual of solemn defloration - in this case, the girl’s hymen is torn with the index finger right hand. The finger is wrapped in a white cloth, which should turn red as a result of the ritual.

4. In the East, there was even a special profession “Kadeberiz”, whose representatives were engaged in an important task - they deflowered girls before they got married. This activity was considered dangerous and very responsible.

5. In Montenegro, Bosnia, and also in the north of Slovakia, there was a custom when the bride was symbolically deflowered by the groom’s “friend,” who was considered the most important person at the wedding. In ancient times, this process most likely was not symbolic.

6. During times Ancient Rus' existed marriage custom, when the senior boyar “friend” of the groom was present on the first wedding night in the newlyweds’ bedroom. If the groom could not cope with his duties, the senior boyar had to replace him.

7. Among the representatives of the Zakai tribe of the island of Sumatra, a girl had to be deflowered by her father before marriage, and the bride’s uncles, that is, the brothers of the girl’s mother and father, regardless of their age, should help him. So, companies of up to 25 people sometimes gather near the girl’s bed, of which the youngest may be 10, and the eldest 70 years old.

8. In Oceania, the groom trusted his future wife to several of his friends, who had to go with her away from the settlement and do everything necessary. The wedding ceremony took place after their return to the village.

9. The defloration of the bride in Cambodia was performed by a clergyman during the wedding ceremony. He did this with the middle finger of his hand, which he had previously moistened in wine. Members of the groom's family were supposed to drink this wine after the procedure.

10. In some African tribes, as well as almost all tribes in South America, there was an ancient tradition when girls independently deflowered themselves using special wooden dildos. After the procedure, the torn hymen was covered with special antiseptic plants.

Once again, let's start with statistics on the onset of sexual activity, and then move on to reading people's stories and opinions.
This time we'll talk about virginity and marriage.
“The majority of boys (42%) consider 16-17 years old to be the ideal age to begin sexual activity, 35% of girls consider 18-19 years old.
When comparing these responses with adolescents' opinions about ideal age marriage (the majority of both boys and girls believe that for girls this is 19-20 years old, for boys - 23-24 years old) it turned out that in the attitudes of adolescents the gap between the beginning of sexual activity and marriage for girls is from 0 to 2 years, and for boys – 6-8 years.
In other words, quite often girls start sex life, assuming that it is with this person that they will start a family, while the young men do not plan this. Even the fears and apprehensions in the situation of sexual debut are different for boys and girls: girls are worried about whether they are acting correctly in a moral sense, and boys are worried about whether they are acting correctly in terms of sexual technique. In total, only 12% of girls and 4% of boys would like to start having sex while married.
Some teenagers believe that the moment of the onset of sexual activity is determined not by age, but by “readiness” for this act. At the same time, they cannot define for themselves any clear criteria for this “readiness.”
Among young men, the following answers are found: “as long as it doesn’t harm your physical and mental health,” “when you understand the need for contraception,” “like I started at age 12,” and “however it turns out.”
For girls, the answers are somewhat different: “love”, “responsibility”, “a sense of puberty” “when both are physically and mentally ready for it”, “when you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without embarrassment and without shame”, “depends on the circumstances "
Young men determine their readiness for sexual activity by signs of physiological maturity. Girls find themselves in a state of uncertainty due to the fact that a clear criterion for a relationship – a marriage proposal from a young man – is “outdated”, and all other criteria are quite ephemeral."
Psychologist-sexologist Valentin Denisov-Melnikov.

Well, now let’s read the opinions of those who stand behind the statistics.

How our ancestors burned out.
Sexual rituals and mythology of the ancient Slavs. Shocking traditions of Slavic Rus'.

Before the advent of Christianity, our ancestors never experienced a feeling of shame. They didn't know what it was. Moreover, the ancient Slavs treated any manifestation of physicality and sexuality as an exciting game or as a reverent drama, the main characters of which are the gods, and then everyone else, like people. Judging by the reviews of the first Christian chroniclers, our ancestors lived in such debauchery that it was impossible to even think about it without receiving heavenly punishment. Therefore, information about sex life the ancient Slavs are so meager - the first monks did not raise their hands to write about such debauchery. The traditions of the Slavic people were savagery and debauchery for them.

Virginity. If the Slavic groom discovered that his new wife was a virgin, he could reject her in anger, because this meant that no one liked the poor thing before the wedding - which means she was spoiled. Purity had absolutely no value among the ancient Slavs. As soon as girls entered puberty, they took off their children's shirts and put on a ponyova - a kind of loincloth, a sign of readiness to enter into an active sex life. From that moment on, the girl turned into a harlot. But not in the sense that we are used to, but in the sense that she could wander, wander, look for a suitable groom. Moreover, the more partners the future bride had, the higher she was valued, the more she knew and was able to do so. As for pregnancy, everything was under control here too, the Slavs were well versed in herbs and knew such reliable contraceptives that we had never even dreamed of. Sexually transmitted infections also did not exist, just as there was no condemnation. So unmarried girls could happily give themselves to the guy they liked in any place convenient for this.

Wedding. If a foreign traveler or Christian chronicler needed to present our ancestors in the worst possible form, then it was necessary to describe the wildest wedding ceremonies. Like a huge guy with blond hair and with skin the color of copper (a literal description of a typical Slavic appearance) with a wolf skin thrown over his back, he rushed into the crowd of girls grazing in the meadow, and grabbed the most attractive one, after which he disappeared along with the prey thrown over his mighty shoulder. The rest, not at all surprised, continued to play tricks in the meadow, collect herbs, light fires and weave wreaths. Perhaps this is what happened. However, most likely, the thief agreed in advance with the victim at one of the previous “parties”, and such wild marriages were carried out by mutual consent. However, kidnapping a bride is cool, spectacular and impressive. Therefore, they were stolen, and they played along, turning pale with happiness.

These are rituals, and the marriages themselves took place at just such parties - games, where harlots from different villages (by the way, they were 12-14 years old) wandered around, tracking down grooms, and the grooms looked at the brides during the dances, appreciating their passion and external data. At such games, mentioned by Nestor the Chronicler and in the Tale of Bygone Years, young men and girls from different villages danced in forest clearings, flirting with each other, partially exposing themselves, exchanging glances and making passionate movements with their bodies. Couples who really liked each other retired to indulge in love and exchange rings, agreeing on the next meeting, which could also turn out to be a wedding. The sex traditions of Slavic Rus' played into the hands of young people here.

When a young wife moved to her husband’s house, her relatives saw her off with so-called Soromnitsa songs, in which they described in detail her future wedding night and, in general, everything that awaited her in bed with her husband. Such songs were sung in Russian, Belarusian and Ukrainian villages until the end of the 19th century, and their content was so indecent that poor monks refused to transmit their text in chronicles, limiting themselves only, like Nestor, to phrases like “they will dishonor themselves before their fathers.”

Fertility cult. Afanasyev wrote that the meaning of paganism lies in the adoration of nature, in its animation, deification. Sex traditions originate from this cult. Our ancestors were engaged in agriculture, considering the changes occurring in the earth as phenomena of the female body. Hence the expression “the mother of cheese is the earth,” which was understood literally at that time. Our ancestors already knew that a woman does not bear fruit on her own; this requires the participation of a man, copulation, some kind of sexual act. And if there is no shame in motherhood, then there is no shame in the act of copulation. Thus, human fertility and the fertility of the earth had the closest connection in the minds of the ancient Slavs. The power of plants and earth was used to treat infertility in people and, conversely, human sexual power was very often directed to stimulate the forces of the earth. This was especially true of spring rituals, in order to awaken the earth from a long winter sleep, the Slavs amused it as best they could, dressing up, getting naked, laughing.

Especially often, farmers loved to have sex with their wives and mistresses right on the plowed field, while pouring semen onto the ground, thus transferring their strength and passion to it. It is known that such ritual copulations took place on the territory of Russia and Ukraine until the end of the 19th century. Later, this custom was simplified a little - couples simply rolled around the field, simulating sexual intercourse. Men could sow grain without pants or completely naked, masturbate before sowing, irrigating the ground with sperm. If a woman sowed, she poured her husband's seed onto the plowed ground. During a drought, women went out into the field and lifted their hems, showing their genitals to the sky, so that the sky would become aroused and water the earth with heavenly seed - rain.

Orgies. We have already discussed above the forest gatherings of young people, at which they committed various obscenities. Over time, such gatherings ceased to be held frequently and became something like modern carnivals. The most fun happened, of course, in the spring and summer, during the sacred sowing period. From there the famous night of Ivan Kupala, Mermaid Week and many other Russian holidays associated with the awakening of nature after hibernation. It is known that such bacchanalia took place in Rus' until the 16th century and even later, despite the prohibitions of the church. The shocking sex traditions of the Slavic people could not be conveyed by chaste monks. Such rituals were of great importance for our ancestors; first of all, they had a cleansing function. For one night, a person became an animal, a demon, went to great lengths, tore out his voice in wild screams, literally rolled on the ground, emanating sperm and saliva, went into fits of hysterical laughter, and shed tears. Having lost his human form for a while, he had to regain it by washing in the river (it was not for nothing that the holiday of Ivan Kupala was later renamed the day of John the Baptist, because the ancient Slavic “bathing” after an unbridled night is nothing more than a kind of baptism). Washed and demons released, he was again ready for the hardest work in the field, and the field, watered with his seed and tears, was fertilized and lay under his plow, like huge woman, obediently stretched out, bearing the fruit.

Such orgiastic rituals gave impetus to the forces of nature, a person lost his individuality and merged with nature into a single living whole, as if pushing the earth from within towards fertility, the sky towards rain, a woman towards the birth of children. The orgy gave ancient man the opportunity to create himself anew, to emerge again from the black chaos of the flesh, from the preform state of intertwined seeds and branches, so that, washed by the morning dew, he would be born again. These are the Slavic traditions in terms of sex. So we are far from our ancestors in terms of sexual freedom.

What the hell! Cleanliness has always been held in high esteem! The traditions of the Slavic people did not contain sexual licentiousness at all!

A woman who had many children was valued. This meant that she was healthy and could give birth to equally healthy offspring.

And what do you want to say with this post? So that now we all put on loincloths and run into the field to dance, and then have an orgy, like the perfumer in the final scene of the film? Public deflowering in honor of the powers of the earth? Unclear.

Yes, many Russian men still have this. If a girl is a virgin, they consider her trash, as if the more men who have been through his woman, the better. So this is where the legs grow from, the sex traditions of Slavic Rus'!

Complete heresy. Someone clearly has little understanding of the history of their people. Chastity Slavic women was highly valued.

But no. The myth that the ancient Slavs were some kind of cosmically spiritual people was invented by the ideologists of modern dolboslavia. People were like people. Before the advent of the puritanical morality of Christianity, they were less constrained in the “ent” sphere. The loss of innocence was perceived as an everyday matter, and sex was held in high esteem. Don't be confused.

The author has completely confused the coast! Paganism. In Rus'. Until what century did paganism exist? And when did Christianity appear in Rus'? In 988! And here the century is both 19 and 16! Just some kind of nonsense! The Internet is evil! And articles from the Internet are nonsense!

But whoredom was not held in high esteem! The Slavs valued the girl's innocence very much.

And I see an attempt to debunk the stupidest myth about the spirituality of ancient tribes. People are the same everywhere, and society at the stage of tribal unions behaves exactly this way. Look at Africa. Why be afraid of your own history and invent beauty? It was and was, but it is being eradicated slowly. We still have echoes of paganism even in Christian rituals, but nothing. The virginity of a girl was exalted in Christian times, if that.

The girl, the teachers of the materiel, did not baptize all of Rus', some simply went deep into the country and continued the faith of their ancestors. Slavic traditions are still alive.

I have never read such nonsense before! Pure lies. I have been interested in Slavic culture and traditions for quite some time now. But this, sorry, is just some kind of absurdity. The one who wrote this is a complete idiot who does not honor his ancestors and throws mud at his Family. Before throwing in such nonsense, I would like to make sure that the above is true! As for Levashov, I can argue. The type is ambiguous, although there are “stuff” of his that are worth reading. It’s better to rely on facts, archeology, fairy tales and epics. There is more truth there than in all articles of this kind.

I never thought that ancient people were particularly spiritual. It’s just that the author so vividly and colorfully describes how great it is that our ancestors were whores and had everything that moved, that it somehow makes me feel awkward. A direct call: “let’s join the roots, let’s have everyone and everything, oh, how cool, how good”!

The concept of what “whoredom” is in the form in which it now exists (promiscuity) also came with the advent of Christianity. If you are sexually inhibited and articles like this make you feel awkward, disgusted and judged, maybe the problem is you? Maybe you should ask for help sexologist to harmonize your intimate life?

But I liked it, and I didn’t see anything dirty in the text described. But I agree that Christianity is unnecessary morality. Taking a girl's virginity is her business. And religion should not dictate what and how.

For me, the entire text directly calls for debauchery, they say, what boring Christians are, and what cheerful, daring fellows our ancestors were! Integrity is a gift, not a hindrance, as stated in the post.

I remembered: “In Ancient Rus' there was no word “orgasm”. Therefore, women experienced a wonderful miracle, a festival, a loaf and a round dance.” Cheerful traditions of the Slavic people!

I didn’t see anything wrong with the post, that’s for sure. better than life eternal slaves. A girl loses her virginity when she decides, and not when religion dictates.

All clear. It is easier for modern Russian people (not all, fortunately) to accept that their ancestors led a lifestyle full of filth and to be proud of it. It's a pity of course.

I am not at all ashamed, rather, on the contrary, to exchange almost 30 thousand years of faith of my ancestors for a God who did not fulfill a single promise of his, it’s even sad because of this, and the methods by which Christianity was implanted do not really appeal to me. The facts about virginity in the post indicate that people used to be freer morally.

Normal classic nonsense.

Orthodoxy is ours, unlike Christianity. Orthodoxy - according to etymology - “Glorify Rule”, that is, to glorify the Upper World, one of the three worlds - Reality - our world, that is, Midgard, Nav - the lower world (for example, Mara is included in the face of the dark Gods), and Rule - to The bright place of Iriy belongs to him, and one of the faces of the bright Gods is Svarog. Slavic traditions are very kind and bright.

Christianity is misogynistic, the phrase “servant of God” is used everywhere, Christian morality really diverged greatly from paganism, and the adoption of Christianity in Rus' was not fun and bloodless. But, I will also note that the adoption of such a religion as Christianity still played a positive role for the state and its unification into a single whole. Although the loss of innocence outside of marriage has become one of the sins.

To be fair, I note that modern Rodnovers sometimes also amaze us to the point of laughing. Especially with its bizarre chronology and views on ancient history. By the way, they have dehymens in marriage, if that happens.

Modern Rodnovers do not want to study primordial paganism, what our ancestors glorified. The new Rodnovers, in essence, are no different from Christians who blindly believe in the Bible, only the first ones follow a certain Santi Perun. I can give you a bunch more examples. There are so many new projects that people fall for. Just like this post - a true remake, there is exactly zero confirmation for it. How to lose virginity Slavic girls- nonsense, as for me.

Religion was not invented for the sake of the comfort and happiness of the people around, but for the sake of fooling, for the sake of herding people into a herd and better control over them. Fairy tales about a good, solid life scratch your ears; if you pray, you pray. And if you doubt, you will have a great fur-bearing northern animal, and your husband is not Noah. I don’t understand one thing, why? Why defend someone's interests? Or if the herd believes that going to drown is right, then it becomes right? Just like deflowering in different countries peace. It's their business! If this really bothers you, maybe it’s not a matter of tradition, but you just need psychologist consultation? Learn to live your life.

Not only am I more savvy in this than some “believers,” I also had the opportunity to read Old Slavonic religious texts in translation and original (in textbooks on cultural studies and ancient Russian literature, because I’m, like, a philologist). That's how it happened. And it was there that I was taught not to evaluate anyone’s history, morality, or religion at all, because only facts matter. It is precisely because I am interested in facts that I do not hate either faith or believers. Pointing out an inconsistency, illogicality, shortcoming or something else does not mean hating or accepting blindly.

In fact, I try to avoid religious disputes, but here, as I already said, I saw a clear call to live “like our ancestors, the faith of our ancestors” and was surprised by people’s reaction to this. You may not recognize monotheistic religions, you may consider Christians somehow incomprehensible, you may not like Christianity, and so on. But to rejoice in the filth and debauchery of your own ancestors like this! I am shocked! After all, a girl’s virginity is her dignity!

You are so evil, that's why you won't go to Valhalla.

I also know about polygamy and how they put out a sheet with blood after the first wedding night. I also know how deflowering was done in the ancient world.

So it's not about whoreness married women it’s not written about how good anal sex is, it’s just written about the fact that people didn’t have pens, that first you need to pray, get married, put on a ring, tie a belt, wash the floors, milk a cow, spit in the toilet, put incense, fart , kiss mom, hug dad, go into the forest.

Eh, it’s better to live with “noons” than to let a bunch of men go through you before getting married. I'm talking about the text, because being a virgin is shameful. The Russian peasant was ashamed that he got his wife clean. Chastity is a shame.

Why "immorality"? The moral was different, that's all. From the point of view of Christianity and Islam - yes, dirt, but it was fine for them. The African tribes over there also burned and are burning. Well, this was the stage of society and such morality. And now virginity is valued differently in different countries of the world.

Does it write about chaos and immorality? It says about ancient customs and love for nature. Among other things, the text directly states that the word “whoreness” itself had a completely different meaning than it does now. But there were orgies in ancient Greece, and they were normal. Now gays in Germany walk down the street with flags, shouting about their rights to wear thongs and it’s normal. And having sex on the field is not normal, these depraved Slavs! They don’t honor virginity, they made up different stories about it, they say, it’s a shame.

The information in the post is slander, that is, it is not true. Our ancestors did not have such dirt. And no. I do not consider myself among the modern Rodnovers, who have spoiled the true faith of paganism. And I don’t encourage this dirt. I consider the sex traditions of Slavic Rus' to be fiction and nonsense.

Of all the debauchery, it was the night of Ivan Kupala. And even then, unmarried, virgin girls did not take part in these orgies. Some kind of bullshit. And even letting down your hair in front of people was considered a shame for an unmarried girl, but you write about sex before marriage! Yes, if a husband died, his wife and children were taken by a relative (usually a brother) to live with him. Yes, it happened that, for example, the leader of the community took a second wife, a “young woman,” when the first one could no longer bear children. Well, he didn’t put the first one anywhere; more often she raised his young wife and taught her everything about the house. And the girl’s virginity was held in high esteem.

And our ancestors will be more advanced than us. Instead of hovering around in offices all day long, they copulated on green grass! Hedonistic philosophers, by God. And that’s more logical.

It's time to convert to the ancient Slavic faith.

My mother is a historian, she says we need to work with sources. I ask: are the sources genuine? She: well, there are almost no original ones left, mostly rewritten from the originals. You can also remember that almost all libraries containing books - the treasures of our civilization - were destroyed, burned, plundered. The Vatican has a lot of interesting things, but access to these books is closed. My question is: which facts to believe? It turns out that we don’t know anything for sure; history is rewritten almost every year. So how do we know what the sex traditions of the peoples of modern Russia were?

Mom says it right: study the sources. The only sources are archaeological finds and the works of serious archaeologists on them; there are almost no original handwritten texts left (even Old Church Slavonic, Christian era, and pre-Christian written sources are unlikely to be found anywhere, time erases everything, and the new religion that came sought to destroy it all).

Doesn't look like us. In Rus', “cleanliness” has always been valued. You have incorrect information. Everything was fundamentally wrong.

I admit the possibility of orgies and I don’t understand since when is sex dirty and who drilled that into your head? Sex is a natural process. And there is such a thing as progress, and this is not only the technological development of humanity, but also the intellectual, and religion (any) is an artificially created form for manipulating humanity. Virginity in different countries where monotheism is artificially elevated to the rank of virtue. And this gives food for suspicion that not everything is so simple.

You can take a second or third wife without the consent of the first, but if you don’t like it, you can leave, and a man is not obliged and cannot love all wives equally, but he must treat everyone equally, and about incest from the Bible, here you go - Genesis 19:30 And Lot went out from Zoar and began to live in the mountain, and his two daughters with him, for he was afraid to live in Zoar. And he lived in a cave, and his two daughters were with him. And the elder said to the younger: Our father is old, and there is no man on earth who would come to us according to the custom of all the earth; Let us therefore make our father drink wine, and sleep with him, and raise up a descendant from our father. And they made their father drink wine that night; and the eldest went in and slept with her father that night; but he did not know when she lay down and when she got up. The next day the eldest said to the younger: behold, I slept with my father yesterday; Let's give him wine to drink that night too; and you go in, sleep with him, and we will raise up a tribe from our father. And they made their father drink wine that night; and the youngest came in and slept with him; and he did not know when she lay down and when she got up. And both of Lot's daughters became pregnant by their father.

How deflowering was done in different countries of the world.
Our planet is home to a huge number of different peoples who have their own culture, their own language and, of course, traditions. This article will help us plunge into the world of sexual traditions and find out: How virginity was taken in different countries of the world.

1. In the East there once lived people called “Cadeberis,” whose only duty and profession was the defloration of girls before marriage. Deprivation of virginity was considered a very responsible and dangerous matter.

2. The ancient Scandinavian tribes had such a custom. With the onset of darkness before the first wedding night, the sorcerer took the virgin into the forest, lit a fire and brought a sacrifice to the goddess Freya - an elk or a boar. And only after that he performed ritual intercourse with the girl. If sexual intercourse was not accompanied by rupture of the hymen and bleeding, the victim was considered rejected. True, a second attempt was allowed. Well, if the second “approach” ended in failure, the girl was declared rejected by the gods and thereby doomed to eternal loneliness. In such cases, the marriage was dissolved, and a new wife was found for the failed husband.

3. In Egypt, Saudi Arabia and many other Muslim countries, the custom of ceremonial defloration has been preserved to this day, when the hymen is torn with the index finger of the right hand, wrapped in a white cloth, which, of course, should turn scarlet.

4. In the ancient Russian marriage ritual there was a folk custom: the friend (“senior boyar”) remained next to the newlyweds on the first wedding night. If the groom failed to cope with his marital duties, he was obliged to replace him.

5. In the north of Slovakia, in Bosnia and Montenegro, the bride was symbolically (and previously, probably actually) deflowered by the groom’s “boyfriend”, who was considered the main one at the wedding.

6. In Tibet, taking a virgin as a wife was considered bad manners. And if the village found out about this fact, the couple could be expelled altogether... Moreover, before the wedding, the girl was ordered to give herself to at least twenty men. Moreover, Tibet has never been a particularly populated place, which gave the idea a special extreme and intensity. However, telling your husband about the number of partners was considered unethical.

7. In Oceania, according to tradition, the groom entrusted his future wife to several friends, who spent several days with her away from the settlement, and only upon returning from there proceeded to the wedding celebration.

8. Among the Zakai tribe (Sumatra island), the bride had to be deflowered by the father, who was helped by the bride’s uncles, that is, the brothers of the father and mother, regardless of age. Sometimes up to 25 men aged from 10 to 70 gathered at the bed of the unfortunate girl.

9. The famous culturologist Mircea Eliade in the book “Shamanism: Archaic Techniques of Ecstasy” gives a story about the deprivation of virginity during the initiation of a girl into a shaman: “The girl is undressed, placed on a bed of sheep skins and covered with canelo leaves, constantly making magical movements. Then the shaman women bend over her and begin to suck her breasts, stomach and genitals with such force that the young shaman reaches ecstasy. At the same time, she loses her innocence.”

10. In ancient India, the defloration procedure was performed for money by people specially trained in this “skill.” The decision to take the girl to such a specialist was made by her mother. Deflowering took place using the symbol of a phallus made of stone, wood or other materials. After this, the girl was injected into the vagina with a special remedy made from medicinal leaves, which healed and reduced discomfort. At the same time, the blood that the girl lost during the process, by the decision of the parents, could be collected and further used as a love spell.

Some kind of cult of virginity in every sense! How they took their virginity in the countries of Oceania - just a paragraph!

Previously, it was believed that a husband or simply any man could not cope without the help of outsiders? The information about how deflowering was done in different countries shocked me!

Our society is also now considered perverted and unprincipled, but that’s not the case! For modern girls psychologist would be needed after such traditions. It’s okay for them!

It was great in Tibet and Oceania! They have funny sex traditions!

I don’t envy the women of the Zakai tribe, this is truly cruel, 25 people rape the poor woman, and all the relatives too! The loss of virginity is probably a shock for local girls.

This is some kind of nonsense, couldn’t they just come up with this? general rule What is the honor of getting married and marrying innocent? No, we need some rituals, bullshit.

The harsh Scandinavians turned out to be one of the most loyal in this regard.

Yeah. Scandinavians. If there’s no blood, that’s it, they expel them. Really shocking sex traditions.

It seems that here, too, Tibetan laws have extended to some people.

I read a long time ago that in Arab countries, virgins were placed on wooden idols, there was complete unsanitary conditions, and you could get an infection. And under the feudal system, the feudal lord took away virginity.

Yes, before, apparently, there was no other entertainment than depriving virgins of film.

What is your opinion on ancient sexual traditions related to virginity?

The right of the first night is a custom that was widespread in many cultures and consisted in the fact that the bride spends her first wedding night with her master, owner, important social person, tribal leader, etc.

Some peoples believed that the blood that appears during deflowering and defloration brings evil and disease. Therefore, the elder of the tribe or a sorcerer, that is, a strong person capable of resisting the machinations of evil spells, was entrusted with deflowering the bride. And only after this, the “ready-to-eat” bride was given to the groom. This is where the “right of the first night” originates. Previously, this was a duty, and one fraught with consequences. And much later it became an honorable right...

To protect the young and inexperienced groom, various measures were taken. Often the responsibility to deflower the bride was assigned not to the groom, but to a more experienced man:

• In the tribes of Central Australia, Central America, the Marquesas Islands and New Guinea before marriage elderly woman deprives a girl of her virginity with a bone knife or finger. Then all the men from the clan to which the groom belongs take turns copulating with the bride, and only after that she is handed over to the future spouse;
• Residents of the Kuanyama tribe, which lives on the border with Namibia, in ancient times deflowered girls using a chicken egg;
• Among the ancient inhabitants of the Balearic Islands, the eldest and most honorable of the guests first went to bed with the bride, then others followed depending on rank and age. The groom was the last to receive this honor;
• In the Papuan Arunto tribe, the entire burden of this intimate process fell on the shoulders of the husband's friends. Shortly before the wedding, the groom asked two or three friends to kidnap the bride and pluck the red flower of her innocence. From that moment until the wedding, all the men of the tribe could come to her house and “try out” the new woman;
• In North Africa at the beginning of our era, on the first wedding night, all the guests took turns copulating with the bride, and each guest gave her a specially prepared gift;
• Among the people living in India, a man from outside was invited to a wedding for this purpose. He stayed in the village for one night and had sexual intercourse with the bride;
• In Ancient Egypt. On a certain day, a virgin came to the temple of the Great Goddess and gave herself to the first man who came along;
• Among the ancient Scandinavian tribes, at nightfall before the first wedding night, the sorcerer dragged the virgin into the forest, lit a fire and brought a sacrifice to the goddess Fria - an elk or a boar. And only after that he performed ritual intercourse and deflowering with the girl;

• In the Middle Ages, the role of the sorcerer was inherited by the feudal lord, and deflowering serf girls was not only his right, but also a sacred duty. The rulers of the counts and dukes had to deflower up to a hundred virgins a year. In some regions of Russia, this practice remained until the abolition of serfdom.

Bridal treatment in ancient times was often a ritual procedure performed by women. So many peoples of South America are responsible for the gap hymen fell on midwives after the birth of girls or on mothers who deprived their daughters of their virginity at a very young age.

• In Peru, not so long ago, mothers traditionally deflowered girls in a public place. Similar rituals took place in Kamchatka, as well as on the island of Madagascar.
• In the old days, there was a tradition according to which young girls went to the forest, where they were deprived of their virginity by hermit monks who wore special robes - animal skins and horns. These monks belonged to a special kind of brotherhood of lion-men, horse-men, bull-men, wolf-men, and so on. Depending on which brotherhood the monk belonged to, he was dressed in the appropriate animal skin.
• Ancient Greek and Roman texts indicate that girls in those days reached puberty at the age of 14. Until this moment, it was not considered condemnable even if they walked around without clothes at all. For girls in some provinces it was a real shame if their husband received them untouched - they had to get rid of them in advance virginity in a special temple to the Big Goddess. This goddess, who in Hellas was called Aphrodite, in Phenicia - Astarte, and in Babylon - Ishtar. It was to her that the sacrifice in the form of a torn hymen. On a certain day, a chaste girl had to come to the temple and give herself to any stranger who would be in the temple. At the same time, the man was forbidden to expose the girl’s body, since such behavior was equated to desecration of a shrine. In Roman temples, special phallic figurines depicting one of the fertility deities could be used for deflowering.
• In many Muslim countries, in particular in Egypt and Saudi Arabia, to this day there is a ritual of solemn defloration- wherein hymen The girl is torn by the index finger on her right hand. The finger is wrapped in a white cloth, which should turn red as a result of the ritual.
• In the East there was even a special profession “cadeberis”, whose representatives were engaged in important work - deflowered girls before their marriage. This activity was considered dangerous and very responsible.
• In Montenegro, Bosnia, as well as in the north of Slovakia, there was a custom when the bride was symbolically deprived virginity the groom’s “buddy”, who was considered the most important thing at the wedding. In ancient times, this process most likely was not symbolic.
• During the times of Ancient Rus', there was a marriage custom when the senior boyar “friend” of the groom was present on the first wedding night in the newlyweds’ bedroom. If the groom could not cope with his duties, the senior boyar had to replace him.
• Among the representatives of the Zakai tribe of the island of Sumatra, a girl had to be deflorate her father, and the bride’s uncles, that is, the brothers of the girl’s mother and father, regardless of their age, must help him. So, companies of up to 25 people sometimes gather near the girl’s bed, of which the youngest may be 10, and the eldest 70 years old.
• In Oceania, the groom trusted his future wife to several of his friends, who had to go with her away from the settlement and do everything necessary. The wedding ceremony took place after their return to the village.
• Defloration The bride in Cambodia was officiated by a priest during the wedding ceremony. He did this with the middle finger of his hand, which he had previously moistened in wine. Members of the groom's family were supposed to drink this wine after the procedure.
• In some African tribes, as well as almost all tribes in South America, there was an ancient tradition when girls independently deprived themselves of virginity using special wooden dildos. After the procedure, the torn hymen was covered with special antiseptic plants.

In Europe, this custom lasted until the 17th - 18th centuries. various countries. In Switzerland this right disappeared at the end of the 16th century; in some German states at that time it began to be replaced by ransom and tribute. In Bavaria this custom existed until the 18th century.

In Russian traditions, wedding night (basement), is one of the main wedding ceremonies, physical and legal consolidation of marriage. The wedding night usually followed the wedding and wedding feast and took place in the house of the groom's parents. In the southern Russian provinces, where after the wedding the newlyweds returned to their parents' homes, it was held in the house of the bride's parents before the main wedding feast. The venue for the wedding night was always a cold room: a basement, a cage, an upper room, a closet, a hay barn, a bathhouse, a barn, and sometimes a stable or a sheepfold.

In this case, bedding from the bride's dowry was used. The high marriage bed was built on a wooden floor. Sacks of flour, sheaves of rye, several mattresses stuffed with hay, sometimes a feather bed, and many pillows were placed on the boards. All this was covered with a white sheet with an embroidered valance that went down to the floor, and a beautiful blanket. The bed for the newlyweds was covered with bedding - matchmakers from the bride and groom's side, as well as the groom's mother or sister. After the arrangement of the marriage bed was completed, the bedwomen placed a poker, a frying pan, and several logs under it and walked around the bed with a branch of rowan or juniper, which was then stuck into the wall.

It was believed that a poker, a frying pan, juniper, and rowan could provide the newlyweds with protection from evil forces; sacks of flour and sheaves of rye - well-being in life together. The logs symbolized future children: the more logs you put under the newlyweds’ bed, the more children they will have. The newlyweds were escorted to the wedding bed by their boyfriends, matchmakers, and sometimes all the wedding parties, that is, everyone invited to the wedding feast. Seeing off the newlyweds was accompanied by laughter, noise, jokes, erotic instructions, and songs. The wedding brides who escorted the newlyweds to bed sang in chorus.

The friend usually entered the wedding room first and hit the bed several times with a whip, scaring away the evil spirits. In a number of places in Russia there was a custom according to which the boyfriend had to pay a ransom to the bed-women. The bedroom door was locked and a guard was placed outside, his task was to protect the newlyweds from evil spirits, which could spoil them, and drive away partying wedding guests.

Left alone, the newlyweds had to perform a number of ritual actions approved by tradition, which, according to legend, ensured agreement. married life, wealth, healthy offspring. For example, before going to bed, newlyweds were supposed to eat chicken and bread. Moreover, bread was seen as a symbol of the future wealth of the young, and chicken - as a sign of their future fertility.

Consensual married life, from the point of view of the peasants, was achieved by the wife’s submission to her husband. The newlywed had to demonstrate humility by removing her husband's boots. This ancient custom was mentioned in the first Russian chronicle - in the Tale of Bygone Years. The newlywed demonstrated his desire to be the master of the family by forcing the bride to ask him for permission to go to bed with him. During the wedding night, a friend came to the newlyweds several times, inquiring whether sexual intercourse had taken place. According to a custom widespread in almost all areas of Russia, defloration of a girl on her wedding night was mandatory. If everything ended well, the friend notified the feasting guests about this, and either took the young people out to the guests, or left them in the bedroom until the morning. The delighted guests sang ditties of erotic content, which told about the event that took place between the bride and groom.

In the morning, the newlyweds were woken up and the girl’s premarital chastity was checked. They were usually woken up by those who took the newlyweds to the bedroom (friends, matchmakers, sometimes parents, wedding parties) by knocking on the door, shouting, ringing bells, beating pots on the door or threshold of the room, pulling back the blanket, and pouring water on them. Notification of relatives, guests and the entire village that the bride had retained or, conversely, lost her “honestly and commendably maidenhood” before the wedding took place through ritual and playful actions. So, for example, in the villages of the Perm province, if the newlywed turned out to be “honest,” the newlyweds’ house was decorated with towels and tablecloths with red embroidery. The friend tied the same towels to the arches of horses when going to the newlywed’s parents.

In the Vladimir province, the chaste behavior of a girl before the wedding was evidenced by a wedding sheet hung in the front corner of the hut. In some villages, the wedding party, led by a matchmaker and groomsmen, drove around the village with whoops, shouts, ringing and noise, waving the newlywed's shirt like a flag.

In the villages of the Don Cossacks, all guests of the second wedding day were pinned with a bunch of viburnum. Often, with a successful outcome of the wedding night, they began to beat pots, saying: “How many pieces, so many sons, how many hummocks in the forest, so many daughters.” In case of “dishonesty” of a young woman who lost her virginity before marriage, a collar was put on her parents’ necks, and the newlywed’s father was served beer in a leaky glass. The matchmaker was subjected to the same humiliation: “The matchmaker has the first cup and the first stick.”

The requirement of chastity from the bride, and in some villages from the groom, was dictated by the peasants’ ideas that the transformation of a girl into a woman, and a boy into a man, could only occur during the performance of rituals observed in a certain order. Violation of their sequence was considered as a disruption in the course of life, an encroachment on its foundations. There was an idea that a girl who lost her virginity before marriage would be infertile, would become a widow early or leave her husband a widower, and that the family would be threatened by hunger and poverty. The wedding night was considered a very important part of the wedding ritual.

She was finishing a series of ritual actions associated with the transition of a girl and a guy from one gender and age category to another. This transition on a symbolic level was interpreted as death and resurrection. According to ancient ideas, a girl and a guy after their wedding night were reborn in a new quality, which was expressed in a change in hairstyle, headdress, clothing, and behavior. The wedding night turned a guy, a young man, a young man into a young man, and a girl, a girl, a maiden, a young woman into a young woman, a young woman, a young woman.

In most cultures, there was a concept of the right of the wedding night. This right was that the bride had to spend her wedding night with her master.

General deprivation

Some peoples believed that the blood that appears during the process of deflowering/defloration carries evil and illness. For this reason, the bride was deflowered by the elder of the tribe, or a sorcerer did this, because... only these people could resist the evil spell. And only after this action could the groom receive his bride. It was from those times that the concept of the right of the first wedding night appeared. Previously, this had to be done without fail, but there could have been not the most pleasant consequences. And a little later it became a sign of honor.

Important!!!

Often an inexperienced groom was not given the opportunity to deflower the bride, but was given this right to a man who was more experienced.

Australia and America

In some tribes in Australia and America, the bride was deflowered by an elderly woman using a finger or a bone knife. And after that, every man from the groom’s clan copulated with the bride. And only after these rituals could the groom receive a wife.

Kuanyama tribes

In the Kuanyama tribe, girls were deflowered using a chicken egg.

Balearic Islands

The ancient inhabitants of the Balearic Islands had their own custom. First, the oldest and most honored wedding guest copulated with the bride, and then all the other men according to their ranks. And the groom was the last one to go to bed.

Arunto tribes

The Papuans of the Arunto tribe blamed the husband's friends. Before the wedding, a couple of the groom's friends kidnapped the bride and took her virginity. And from that moment until the wedding, all representatives of the tribe could come to the bride’s house and copulate with her.

Advice

In North Africa, on the first wedding night, all guests could copulate with the bride, and for this they were recommended to give her a gift.

India

In India, it was customary to invite an outside man to the wedding, who would deal with this issue. He stayed overnight and did the job.

What was the custom associated with deflowering in Ancient Egypt?

The bride had to come to the temple on a specific day, and then simply give herself to the first man she came across.

Scandinavia

The ancient tribes of Scandinavia, before their wedding night, took the virgin into the forest, where they lit a fire and sacrificed an elk. After the sacrifice, it was already possible to copulate and deprive the bride of her virginity.

Important!!!

In the Middle Ages, the feudal lord did this, and in relation to serf girls - it was his responsibility. Some of them had to deflower up to a hundred girls. And in Russia, in some areas, this was done before the abolition of serfdom.

According to Russian traditions, the first wedding night was one of the most important wedding rites. The night followed the wedding and feast. Everything took place in the house of the groom's parents. Everything had to happen in a cold place - an upper room, a bathhouse, a stable.

Young people's bed

In this case, there was a need to use the bride's dowry. They set up a special sleeping place (the bed maids/matchmakers did this). It was customary to place a poker under the marriage bed, and then they walked around the bed with a rowan branch. Then they stuck the twig into the wall. All these attributes were supposed to save the newlyweds from evil spirits and evil spirits. They also placed logs, which were a symbol of children. All the guests escorted the newlyweds to their bedside. Everything was accompanied by cheerful songs and jokes, some gave instructions. First, a friend came to the marriage bed and beat the bed several times with a whip. Then the bedroom door was locked and a guard was posted. When the newlyweds were left alone, they had to follow certain traditions that promised a happy married life. For example, they had to eat bread and chicken. The wife must be submissive to her husband. To show this, she took off her husband's boots. And to show his dominance, the husband forced the bride to ask permission to lie with him. Several times during the night a friend came to the young couple and asked if sexual intercourse had already taken place. Taking your virginity on your wedding night was mandatory. If the friend gave an affirmative answer, then he notified everyone. The guests began to sing erotic ditties, where they talked about the wedding night of the newlyweds.

And if the bride was dishonest, then a collar was put on the mother’s neck, and the father was given beer in a leaky glass.

Conclusion:

All these rituals show that even in such a matter, each culture had its own traditions and customs that needed to be followed. Each nation has its own beliefs and rituals. Even issues such as deflowering are handled differently in each nation. For some it was done with the help of an egg, for others it was done by the chief, sometimes it could even be a woman, or a bone knife.