How to behave to interest a guy. How to interest a man: the right ways

As it was sung in the old song, “there must be some kind of mystery in a woman”. And this is absolutely fair. If women are attracted to stability and predictability, then men are adventurers by nature, attracted by everything exciting, unusual and mysterious. The same applies to women. A man is more likely to pay attention to a woman who knows how to “keep her mouth shut” than to a woman who tells him all the ins and outs on the first date. And it’s better to be known Snow Queen than an annoying lady who does not allow the gentleman to take a step without her obsessive tutelage.

Men do not like predictable, easily accessible and overly flexible women.
How to arouse interest in yourself, conquer and interest the man you like?

Woman of mystery

How to interest a man?
There are several rules that will help you captivate anyone:

And remember the main rule: don't impose. It’s one thing to pluck up the courage and ask a man out on a date once, but it’s another thing if the relationship is maintained solely on your initiative. Think about it, do you need this? Perhaps the man of your dreams is sad somewhere while you are trying in vain to captivate an uninterested person.

How to “blow the roof off” any man

How to intrigue men by correspondence?

In essence, the same rules apply when correspondence as in live communication: namely, it is better to keep silent about something than to immediately reveal everything secret. There are other rules:

• You really shouldn’t put all the ins and outs in correspondence., otherwise, in a bad situation, the juicy details of your biography will be available not only to your boyfriend, but to the entire Internet. The same applies to too revealing photos (unless you are Sasha Grey).
• Write lively and interestingly(preferably without gross spelling errors).
• Don't respond instantly to all messages., otherwise your gentleman will decide that you spend all your time guarding your smartphone (tablet) and you have no more interesting things to do.

Remember that correspondence on the Internet has one specific feature. Sometimes a man just wants to chat and "have a heart to heart talk" rather than looking long term relationship. So don’t build castles in the air until he has clearly expressed a desire to invite you somewhere and meet you in real life. If in doubt, it is better to ask directly whether he expects romantic relationship or wants to remain pen pals.

How and what can you interest a guy or a man? How to hook? What mistake do most women make when trying to interest a man?

The main secret that women know, but for some reason forget. I remember back in school, I had a complex about my inability to find mutual language with peers and older people.

Among the books in my home library, there was one on the psychology of communication by Dale Carnegie, which I just had to start reading.

One of the key ideas that I took away from his literature: if you want to be an interesting person, be interested in your opponent. Show sincere interest, try to find out what is important to him in life.

I still remember my attempts to test this theory in life. My classmate began to look at me with interest after my questions about her hobby of playing the guitar.

At that moment, I believed that I had mastered the magic of winning people's sympathy. You just have to ask questions about a person’s life and LISTEN.

Shouts of admiration for his interests, hobbies, values, and goals will not be a hindrance.

I know it sounds too simple. Perhaps you were expecting a more complex answer to the question “How to interest a man?” The truth is that everything is really simple, but we [humans] are used to complicating things.

And don’t argue with me in the comments that it’s impossible to be interested in a man’s hobbies or business if you’re actually not interested in it at all. Just try it first. Be the explorer.

Frequent mistakes that prevent a man from igniting his interest in you:

Self-obsession, talkativeness (two ears, one mouth. Remember?)

When a woman talks about how bad everything is for her, about her problems. Yes, an adult solves family problems, provides and protects his woman. But women's problems in the first stages of communication they never increase a man’s interest in her

Excessive emotionality. Good man Shouldn't be too much :)

Excessive concern: “Well, how can I interest him?” , Crap. And all will be well

Closedness, inaccessibility. Leave these games to 15 year old girls. It should be clear to you by now that this works before the first sex, and then

All. It seems like I haven't forgotten anything. So, let's summarize.

The main idea: to interest a man, learn to be sincerely interested in him.

Unfortunately, modern world dictates its own trends in communication between people. Following their lead is a big risk of remaining an unhappy person.

Justified by necessity, more and more women are choosing a masculine line of behavior. They put their coolness, independence, independence on display. But men are not interested in such women, or are only interested for a short distance.

I understand you, but I don’t believe that in our time it is difficult/impossible to be a real woman. Yes, it’s scary, yes, there is a risk of being deceived.

However, I assure you, soft, friendly, able to trust/confide in - much MORE PROFITABLE (in all respects) than following trends.

Stop swallowing information from stupid clips, magazines, public pages, Instagrams. They won't teach you women's happiness there.

Thank you for reading the article. You will succeed! Share in the comments how you managed to interest a man?

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So how to attract a man? And so, before us girls, the question inevitably arises, like two lines on a pregnancy test: how to attract the attention of the man you like?
In dreams, a scenario for an ideal acquaintance emerges... You are all in white, despite the snow, rain and wind. He drives up beautifully in an expensive car, wittily introduces you, guesses your name and, as the climax of the meeting, you have flowers and he has your mobile number. It looks so easy, natural and unattainable that you want to cry and the fairy godmother at the same time. There is no need to cry, because, firstly, it is natural, easy and beautiful to meet someone. Secondly, today I am for the fairy godmother)

How to interest a man

First, let's figure out what type of men you are attracted to. We psychologists believe that sometimes women are attracted to men imposed by their environment. This environment may include parents, girlfriends, colleagues and even, scary to say, heroes soap operas. And with these, let’s say, not quite suitable for family life As men, you live the same unhealthy life scenario over and over again.

The way out of this psychological trap is quite simple - turn on your head. You just need to write down all the qualities of your chosen one, classifying them into important, conditionally acceptable and absolutely unacceptable. This will help form in your mind the image of the man you need for a serious relationship, so to speak, adjust your optical sight, and you will not waste your energy and time on unpromising relationships.

When you are open to talking to new men, your chance of being liked by a handsome stranger is 100%. If you still haven’t sorted out your previous relationship, or have feelings for your ex, then this greatly prevents you from meeting your partner.

It is very sad to watch when a beautiful woman, trying to show her worth, tries to sexually attract a man, portraying cold inaccessibility... My dears, you are not the Brest Fortress to be taken by storm. After all, this repels men. Help yourself! Make it a habit to talk to strangers at least 2 times a day. Make dating a spontaneous part of your life.

The entire gloss, without exception, is replete with advice on how to better and more effectively take care of your appearance. Even in the animal world, in order to attract an individual of the opposite sex, war paint and bright plumage are necessary. Fortunately, we have not gone far from primates, and in order for the young man you like to want to get to know you, you need to interest him in your appearance. I think it goes without saying, for modern girl living in the rhythm of a big city.

But! There are certain “recognizable places” in your appearance that fashionable and high-status men pay attention to. There are only five of them and every Woman should know the key “entry” points of her appearance.

Therefore, before you “go hunting”, check the condition of yours: manicure, elbows, hair, shoes and what brand is the most striking item in your wardrobe.

1. Manicure - it must be perfect and this is without comment.

2. Hair - shiny, evenly cut and no thinning (it deprives you of shine).

3. Elbows, don’t be surprised, some men I know admitted that they would definitely touch a girl to check if her elbows were dry. This is like a litmus test for the degree of grooming of a possible chosen one.

4. Shoes and bag. Shoes with heels, a bag with a name that, at least, is not embarrassing to name.

5. The most striking item of clothing (belt, bag, jewelry, etc.) must be genuine. If you don't want to be a fake girl, then you shouldn't wear a fake Louis Vuitton handbag, fake Christian Louboutin shoes or a fake Ermès scarf. Believe me, it is better to be than to appear, otherwise in pursuit of a ghostly status you can lose something real.

6. “It is just as impossible to hide love when it is there as to show it when it is not.” And La Rochefoucauld was right, we understand that we are loved or hated only when they look at us. Yes, you can “kill” or “make you love” with a look. And our task is to make sure that the look “speaks the language of love.” So let's get started! You've met him and he fits the description of your ideal partner well. The best advice is to make eye contact with him. And what you say with your eyes will sound much louder than what you say out loud. Look at the man tenderly and with admiration, and if he also looks at you, congratulations, you win! Hold your loving gaze for 4 seconds and modestly lower your eyes, as if you were embarrassed, without ceasing to smile. To make him absolutely sure that he likes you and wouldn’t mind getting to know you, it’s enough to repeat the “loving look” technique 2-3 times.

Using our methods to attract a man, try to be as natural as possible, my dears, and... improvise. Then your acquaintance will begin faster, and how it will end depends only on your desire!

Even if a woman dresses stylishly, is confident in herself, and possesses it, this does not mean that everything is going well in her personal life, and she knows how to interest a man in order to finally become happy. How to find the one and win his love?

The answer to this question is very simple: you just need to find a way to please a man. If you feel discouraged by this advice, then we suggest you familiarize yourself with the rules that will help you resolve this problem.

So, first of all, in order to interest a man, it is important to understand one thing: women and men are polar creatures in many ways, they are not alike either externally or internally. Therefore, knowing how to please you, do not be so sure that a representative of the opposite sex can also be liked in the same way. Remember that your stylish (as you think) girlfriends or saleswomen in fashion stores may seem to you the embodiment of beauty and grace, and a man will look at them as ridiculous creatures. The main thing is not to listen to anyone’s advice (especially these girlfriends), and then everything will work out for you. And we will help you with this by providing a list of some rules. They are all united by one theme: “hunter-prey”. Naturally, he is the hunter, and you are the victim. And not literally. The point is to conquer, and the woman must provide him with such an opportunity. So:

1. The first thing a woman should pay attention to is her appearance. She should be attractive to your chosen one. Men love with their eyes, and this is a fact. Well, how can he discern that he is rich if the woman is not interested in him? He simply will not talk and will not understand your subtle mental organization, which is hidden under the guise of a “gray mouse”. However, the main thing here is not to go too far. Remember that a charming woman is by no means a vulgar or dissolute person. Men have a peculiar attitude towards such people, and they do not choose such people for a serious relationship. So, appearance is something that can interest a man at first sight. Moreover, here modesty and charm should be harmoniously combined with elegance and seductiveness. Then the man will want to please such a woman again and again and unravel her, each time finding interesting features.
2. It is important to understand that men love ladies who are feminine and not masculine. That is, a woman must be a true representative of the fair sex. So the answer to the question of how to interest a man is in this case is the ability to be weak and constant admiration for the strength of a partner. You need to help him do something nice for you, protect you. Moreover, this should happen in such a way that the initiative comes from him. And your task is to sincerely thank and admire his resourcefulness. It is important to unobtrusively let a man understand that without him you will be lost and will not cope with all the difficulties of the world. But you don’t need to do this by constantly resorting to tears. If you do this regularly, a man will simply get tired of your behavior and he will find someone else.
3. The third rule in the question of how to interest a man is that you cannot witness his failure or mistake. Even if this happens, encourage him with words like “you did great, I couldn’t do it like that.”
4. Don't talk to a man about money, about your small salary and meager opportunities. You should admire him, and not his income - then expensive gifts and luxurious villas are guaranteed to you. Conquer him with the purity of your soul, because he needs this most of all.
5. Don't be too enigmatic and mysterious: speak directly about your claims and passions. For example, if you love gold and not silver, it is better to tell him about it right away, so that later there will be no absurd insults and phrases like “Wasn’t it clear?”

In conclusion, the game is only good up to a certain point. Building relationships is an art, and each of us knows how to find a suitable line of behavior for ourselves. Be yourself and everything will work out!

Forget all the tricks you use when communicating with your friends. Men are a completely different audience. Speak in a way that will capture their attention, maintain their interest, and leave a favorable impression. You must learn to change your communication style and evoke a reaction in your interlocutor - this is the only way you will make them look forward to the next conversation with you.

Honest male gaze: men listen equally attentively to both their favorite radio programs and people they are interested in. If you want to attract and keep a man's attention, learn how to have a casual conversation. Otherwise, your fans will lose interest too quickly and will not give you a chance to appear in front of them in all your glory.

A woman who wants to be an interesting conversationalist must be able to quickly capture a man’s attention, speak “with taste” and leave a favorable impression. This way there is a greater chance that a man will “tune in to her wavelength” rather than disconnect from the conversation. By mastering the art of small talk, a woman will gain skills that will help her successfully develop personal relationships.

Consider that men have "attention deficit disorder"

Many women complain that they are surrounded by men who either do not listen attentively or prefer not to engage in long conversations at all. Often such women mistakenly believe that the problem lies with the man. By placing all the blame on the opposite sex, women absolutely do not take into account the influence they themselves have on the communication process. Just as tango requires two partners, a conversation must involve two.

If a woman communicates freely with her friends, then to get an equally pleasant result when talking with men, you need to make a little more effort. To easily communicate with the opposite sex, you need to bridge the gap of mutual misunderstanding. This is possible if you are able to understand the peculiarities of the perception of another.

It is impossible to forget a conversation between two people when the memories of it are pleasant to both, when it flows like music and captivates like sex. It has a rhythm and a predictability that everyone looks forward to and enjoys.
Jessamyn West, American writer, author of The Land of Ruthless Loneliness (1984)

Therefore, to encourage a man to listen and willingly participate in the conversation, wise woman must communicate with him “on the same wavelength.” Even though not all men are the same, there are still some universal rules of communication that are suitable for both shy people who are speechless and those who like to talk.

Make men tune in to you

I present to your attention several useful tips How to get men to listen to you carefully and participate in the conversation:

Speed ​​up your learning process!

Focus on developing your communication skills. To begin with, try to express your thoughts briefly and give the interlocutor the opportunity to speak out. Make sure you don't overwhelm others in the conversation.

To learn how to express yourself better, pay attention to how television talk show hosts interact with their guests and viewers in the studio. Watch their facial expressions, gestures, glances, and postures. Watch how these experienced communicators adjust the pace of their speech and the pitch of their voices to capture the full attention of the audience.

A gossip is one who talks to you about others, a bore is one who talks to you about himself, and a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about you.
Lisa Kirk, American singer and musical comedy actress (1925-1990)

If we embrace other people's experiences and strive to develop, we can become a good communicator in a short period of time. Start improving your communication skills immediately!

Conclusion. You are unlucky in love when you are considered a bad conversationalist. But if you learn to lead your lungs and casual conversations, “tuning in to the wavelength” of a possible partner, you will definitely be lucky in love.

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Thanks for the tips, I'll definitely use them.

great article!

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If, for example, I want to attract the attention of a man, then I wear clothes that are quite long and modest, but light in color. I can carry on a conversation on any topic, I have many educations and hobbies. There were even men who were offended that only sex was needed from them.

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It’s clear that it’s nice to be with young people. But. Women, on average, age earlier. People retire 5 years earlier. This is what you should focus on. Especially at pre-retirement age. Even though you think you look good. It is realistic to marry a young man only for some prominent women, famous actresses, film directors, etc. (Pugacheva, Leni Riefenstahl). Or if you have significant material benefits or the potential to obtain them (dad is a millionaire or a general, American citizenship). Or if a gerontophile occurs, which is very rare. So if this is not the case, there is no need to have any illusions. Even if you are older, it will be difficult for you to find a groom.

Well, you yourself answered your question. If you want to Serious relationships, why meet young men who just want sex. Find worthy man, otherwise you are simply ruining your reputation. Wherever you live in a large or small town, rumors are creeping... And most likely they are retold, like, this girl is walking around looking for men. You won't find anything normal in clubs and bars. Go to exhibitions, the theater, the cinema. Well, something like this....

Successful men they come across here more often and they are not afraid of a successful woman. depending on where you attracted his attention - at work, on a dog park, in a fitness club or somewhere else. How to meet a man and continue the relationship? Meeting a man with a prescription...

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Happiness can only be found within oneself, it does not exist externally, and a man will only help for a while, then there will be emptiness again.

Once upon a time (when it was relevant) I read the book “How to Get Married.” One of the key ways there was dating sites. They only advised me to go there with a cool head and a warm heart. You just need to be internally prepared for the fact that you will have to shovel mountains of, so to speak, people who are unsuitable for anyone and not fall into despair because of this. But persistence must bear fruit.

Section: These insidious men (And again about men. I met a man, we meet occasionally at work. I invited him to a cup of coffee, went, liked everything, then invited me How to attract a man’s attention: remove your belly and sit beautifully on a chair.

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Invite yourself)

“There are problems in sex, I’m 90% sure”) Men who actively talk about sex, hinting, but not bringing you into bed, end up there, in bed, or a fiasco altogether
demonstrate. Or so much about nothing in this matter that you want to cry."
+ 10000000000 (personal experience)))

I know the technologies and principles of intrigue, attracting attention and all that, but when I found the right person, I would like to forget about it all. I want to clarify right away - I want to forget about external games, so to speak, and not take it all on myself. Manicure-makeup in my...

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It seems to me that you are confusing: flirting and intrigue. I hate intrigues (all these “I would ..."). Light flirting adds mood.
True, some flirt through intrigue. It's infuriating.

Briefly speaking. Be yourself, just the way you are.

In general, partying and not answering calls lead to the breakdown of relationships, and not vice versa. How many times have I seen aunts flirting with someone else to tease them (as a rule, when there is a lot of dissatisfaction with the spouse, and you want to “solder”) - in 100% of cases, the husbands left. This is insulting for a man. Well, just imagine - your handsome man begins to respond to calls every other time and make eyes at other “beautiful” ones? Is it really possible that, having financial independence, we wouldn’t have a heart-to-heart talk, even in case? negative result- wouldn't you leave? That’s for sure, I can’t stand social humiliation.... if you want sex and borscht, behave correctly.
The second question is - there are “hangings” that are so sickening. But this isn’t about flirting, this is about the fact that a man is bothering himself 24 hours a day, that he has to amuse the lady, organize and decide everything, and is not able to go to the toilet without him. It's tiring. But you write that this is not your case.

He wants to attract your attention, to remind you that he is the man whom you chose and with whom you were once in love. Not This role becomes dominant, but the roles of husband and wife (man and woman) as a couple go into second place. It may turn out to be not even at all...

This way you will attract men's attention without looking at them. Women feel lonely when their men do not include them in their plans and do not pay attention to them. Why don't men date beautiful women? Many young girls pass by me and so many...

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I read the entire thread.
Regarding the operation - I had abdominoplasty, it is indeed a very painful operation, and very much so. If after a cesarean I got up on the second day and didn’t remember anything else about my stitch, then after muscle correction I lay there for 4 days, the pain was hellish. But! This is an operation not based on indications, but at will, so your husband should have been prepared for pain.
besides, in reality he will complain about pain for another month and pulling sensations, nothing heavier than a loaf of bread can be lifted, and it is very difficult to drive a car. so get ready to sting him for a long time.
but in essence of your dissatisfaction - as I understand it, this dissatisfaction was not born yesterday... does it require attention even when it is healthy? so it is necessary to rule in the conservatory and look for the reasons for his whining much earlier. If you take into account that a person is essentially a whiner, then during the operation you should be prepared for his troubles, at least for your own peace of mind - take a week off from work or invite an assistant for a while. something like this.

Selfish, but before marriage he was the same. Tolerate it if you can treat it with humor (I know it’s hard). Good luck and strength. My husband has one positive traits? Why did you love him, love him. And selfishness is a negative quality. We are all not perfect.

How to seduce a stranger. Specific example. I would like to confer with you here. Why does a woman need male attention at all? why happy married man waste time on such dubious pleasure as aimless courtship?

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There are all sorts of search sites. Google, Rambler. Those same classmates. There, you look, and you learn something about him - where he goes, how, what.
Then, you know his phone number - well, call him under some pretext. Tell him he lost a pen or something, and you have it. Or, if there was some kind of conversation, ask him for a book, a cassette, a disk. Don't know. Or offer it to him. If, for example, he told you that he is interested in ancient Chinese philosophy or dinosaurs or renaissance art, tell him that you have something on the topic (you can buy it).
You also know the address - well, take a walk nearby - what if you get lucky and he comes out?! The ideal option is to appear there as if by chance at the moment when he is leaving work. You can come up with an excuse: I was visiting a sick friend, for example. 03.10.2018 22:37:34, Do the same

My current BF (a more than strange creature) REALLY loves to raise his self-esteem in this way. Moreover, with all female creatures within a radius of 50 meters from his squishy body. I looked at this twice. And then she did the following - CALMLY approached the girl and began to pester her herself. And SO that the girl rolled her eyes and ran away.

Since we constantly go to the same club, all the waitresses he grabbed by the asses and sat on his lap, as well as regular customers now adore me. Because after I get down to business, I QUICKLY make friends out of them - it’s not difficult - the basic pearls that all men are assholes bring them closer to girls of that level who are tempted to flirt with a man in the presence of his woman.

You should have seen my man’s eyes when, upon entering society, the objects of his flirtation rush to me in order to talk and joke about something. And I hardly communicate with him. He began to miss ME,
Men perceive a woman as an image (in my opinion) imagine a beauty in a quilted jacket and a girl of average appearance in an elegant dress on high heels with high-quality makeup and hairstyle. Who has a more attractive image? I know from myself that a lot depends on clothes. If you look gorgeous, then your gait becomes even different, self-confidence appears and men turn around, and not only them, but also women. Although there were cases when they met me when I was in jeans and no makeup, or in a skirt to my toes.

I don’t know about men, but personally, I always pay attention to a woman’s makeup, her hair, her skin... I like well-groomed women and girls, I think it’s the same for men too :-) Hair is a thing, the main thing is that the hair is clean, healthy, shiny, I don’t like pyramids on my head, I don’t like it when a woman uses a lot of hairspray...
It’s not particularly pleasant to look at a girl with bad skin who wears bright makeup and puts on a lot of tone, it’s just a nightmare :-(I think the main thing is healthy skin and hair....
Personally, I don’t use makeup very often, but I definitely use skin care products every day, then the skin just glows. It’s enough for me to put on lipstick to make it look bright, if I put on makeup inside and out, I’ll look like an Indian or just a call girl, since my face is quite bright even without makeup....
And my friend cannot leave the house without makeup, because she is very pale, her hair is light, her eyes are light, her skin is simply transparent, so it all depends on the person....