Psychologists advise cultivating cleanliness and accuracy back in preschool age. These are unborn qualities. The baby acquires them with age and thanks to his parents. In order for the concept of responsibility to be formed, and for children to show interest and respect for work from an early age, start small. Try teaching your child to clean up his toys. This is not easy, since the same educational measures are unacceptable in mastering a skill. You can use any approaches and methods, except coercion. Ultimatums and punishments are inappropriate in this matter; they cause nothing but negative associations. There are other ways out that are more interesting, useful and safe for the child’s psyche.
Teaching a child to collect his toys
How before parents They will teach you to maintain order, the better the results will be. This is a proven fact, but in your desire to raise a hardworking, clean dog, it is important not to overdo it and take into account age characteristics.
Children begin to respond to requests at the age of 1–1.5 years. They can already get something, bring it, collect it, etc. This ideal age to teach order and the “play - put away” rule. Up to 2 years old, children respond to any requests with pleasure, do not protest or be capricious. Older children behave differently. At 2.5–3 years old, the time for experimentation begins, when mom and dad are tested for strength, namely, whether they are ready to give in if they are not obeyed. At this age, the child has more activities and hobbies; they are no longer so impressed by praise, so find the right approach and it is much more difficult to teach order. If the mother, without waiting for a reaction, starts cleaning up the toys herself, the baby will understand that the protest worked, and in the future he will actively use his ability to manipulate.
In such situations, much depends on the behavior of adults. Temporary disorder can be tolerated, but the disobedience of a growing sloth will be more difficult to cope with. If the child ignored your words and does not want to put away his toys, wait until he wants something. As soon as the request is made, kindly remind them that the toys have not been collected. Let him get used to the fact that unfinished things need to be completed. This good quality, it will be useful in the future.
Compliance and excessive severity of parents are equally useless. To teach children to collect toys, follow these proven rules.
Lead by example
It is difficult to explain what order is to a small child. Good things must be taught by personal example. You cannot demand what you do not do yourself. Mess is memorable. Children get used to any conditions and, if from birth they see mountains of unwashed dishes and things scattered around the apartment, this becomes the norm. The baby copies the behavior of the parents. In the absence of a worthy role model, he will not show interest in cleaning up his toys.
Learn while playing and share responsibilities
Alone and without reminders, a child is unlikely to start cleaning. I'll have to remind you. It is very easy to captivate small children as young as 3 years old with an interesting game. He instantly responds to his parents’ invitation to compete, for example, who can assemble a pyramid faster or put pencils in a box.
Don't insist on independence. If the room is in complete chaos, the amount of work for little baby may prove overwhelming. Clean up with your child, let him collect the cubes, and you fold the books. This way, you can not only teach them to maintain order, but also teach you how to determine a place for each toy: cars in the garage, a construction set in a box, a doll in a stroller, etc. The main thing is to immediately make it clear that your participation is only help.
If your child categorically refuses to clean up toys, hide his favorite toy. When he remembers and starts looking for her, say that she was offended and went to a kinder and more thrifty owner. This works, but in order for the child to understand everything correctly, be sure to return the item and tell him what needs to be done so that it does not happen again.
Don't force, encourage
Cleaning up toys should not be a one-time event. Teach your child to clean things up regularly. If a child enthusiastically tidies up after himself today, this does not mean that tomorrow he will do the same with the same enthusiasm. If they refuse to fulfill your request, the easiest way is to threaten and shout, but this is not a solution. You can ask, but persistently and firmly, avoiding a threatening or commanding tone.
Praise your efforts, encourage and encourage your child. You can suggest a walk, going to the circus or watching your favorite cartoon, but only after cleaning. This is not blackmail, but a good incentive. The promise to buy a new doll or car after the child fulfills the request is also a working incentive, but it is better not to abuse material gifts.
The child’s reluctance to put away toys may be caused by poor health or an adaptation period: the device is in kindergarten, moving to a separate room, the appearance of a brother or sister, etc. Do not bother the baby with persistent requests during the period of change.
conclusions
It will not be possible to quickly teach a child to order. Whims and protests are inevitable and you need to prepare yourself for this. Do not focus on noisy refusals, do not give in when your requests are refused, and do not raise your voice at a rebellious child. Threats, coercion, and accusations are prohibited educational techniques. An irritated screaming mother will only scare you. Better than words They teach behavior and actions, so order and cleanliness should be the rule for the whole family.
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Cleaning up a child's room is not an easy task! Especially if the child is still small and does not like to help his mother with cleaning issues. How and where to put toys so that they are always in their place? How to teach your child to clean up his room on his own? We've looked at a number of ideas to help resolve these issues!
Many kids like to hide their toys under the bed, which ends up being a whole dump of cars, robots, cats and other items. You shouldn’t scold your child for this or somehow resist it; you can make storage under the bed convenient and fun. To do this you will need drawers on wheels. They come included with many cribs or are sold separately in furniture stores.
Perhaps these are the most affordable and easy-to-use storage systems. You can put the most common toys in textile baskets, from small construction sets to large ones soft toys. It is convenient for the child to do this himself without the help of his mother, and if desired, he can move the baskets around the room.
This option is great for those with multiple children. of different ages. It is convenient to place the toys of a younger child on the lower level, and the older ones on the higher levels. This way, parents will protect themselves and their children, because many toys for older people are not at all suitable for the little ones to play with.
If there is not a lot of space in the room, then you can organize the storage of toys right at the front door. To do this, you can use a soft textile or polyethylene organizer with pockets. Or hang it on hooks small bags or baskets, and put toys there.
Retractable plastic containers can often be found in hardware stores. They are convenient for storing tools and all kinds of things, including children's toys. The baby can easily put toys in them, the main thing is that the containers do not have unpleasant odor plastic, if there is one, then such containers cannot be purchased.
Flexible and bright baskets for storing toys are not difficult to find in specialized children's stores. Children will be happy to put their toys in such organizers.
It’s convenient when the nursery has mobile storage systems that are convenient to move around the room. This saves a lot of time and makes cleaning more enjoyable and productive. Therefore, you should pay attention to wooden boxes equipped with wheels.
Any mother can make textile pockets; it’s not very difficult, and you don’t need to be a seamstress or designer. But the baby will always be pleased to put his favorite toys in the “houses” that his mother made with her own hands.
Metal baskets – classic version, which will be comfortable for both baby and mother. They are very light and transparent, they are not difficult to pick up and you can always see what is in such a basket.
Magnetic holders will come in handy in a boy’s nursery; there will always be several dozen cars and robots that are in disarray. You can quickly collect them in one place with the help of small magnetic helpers.
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About why children don’t want to clean and how to turn cleaning into a developmental activity. " In upbringing, neither excessive gentleness nor harshness is required - reasonableness is required.” Saint Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow (c)
“The child was playing and at some point it is necessary to put away the toys. Many parents try to teach their child to put away toys from early childhood, and many fail. Let's try to figure out why. In my opinion, the most soot important point when teaching a child to put away toys, this is the number of toys modern children have and the organization of their storage.
Olya and Katya are friends. They are almost three years old. The girls' mothers also communicate regularly. Katya's mom constantly complains that Katya doesn't put away the toys and her mom has to do the cleaning instead of Katya every evening. Olya’s mother does not have such a problem.
Let's look at each girl's home and see what happens in the evenings.
Katya has a lot of wonderful toys. A whole toy paradise. Due to the abundance, Katya doesn’t even really know what toys she has. All Katya's toys are neatly stored in large boxes in the children's room. More precisely, this is how my mother would like it. Ideally. In reality, things are like this. Every evening Katya and her mother begin to put away the toys before going to bed. More precisely, Katya continues to play, and her mother haphazardly fills empty containers with toys and closes them with lids. One box contains blocks, dolls, and a doctor's set. In another box we will again find cubes, part of a set of dishes, rings from a pyramid, etc. The room takes on an outwardly neat appearance. A dozen large multi-colored containers stand neatly around the perimeter of the room. In the morning Katya starts playing. She doesn't know what's where, so she just dumps the toys out of each container onto the floor. The room begins to resemble a landfill. Katya rummages through her toys, her attention switches from one toy to another.
What's the problem? The mother organized the girl’s life space without taking into account the child’s characteristics. Let's imagine that someone else "helped" you organize your belongings. They gave you a lot of nice boxes and randomly put your things in them: jeans were put in the first box, some underwear, sweaters, then again underwear, trousers and blouses, etc. And you don’t know what and where you have. Finding the right thing takes a lot of time. You want to put everything neatly, but the abundance of things makes it difficult to put things in order. Are you ready to carefully put your things away in the closet every day if they are thrown out again on the floor every day? Do you have enough strength for this? More likely no than yes. The same thing happens with Katya. The girl's number of toys is so large that she does not have enough energy to put them away. That's why mom has to do it.
What about Olya?
Olya has few toys. Maybe not even enough. a pair of dolls, dishes for dolls, a doctor's set, a machine, a construction set, pyramids. At first glance, it may seem that Olya’s room has more cabinets than toys. Indeed, a significant part of the room is occupied by low shelves on which toys are neatly laid out. The dolls are sitting on a shelf, some toys are in plastic boxes or baskets, and a construction set is in a box. Olya remembers all her toys and knows where each toy is. Mom never rearranges the girl's things. That's why Olya never wastes time searching. She simply takes out what she needs from the shelf. And after the game he cleans it up. Yes, sometimes not everything is removed, sometimes some parts are rolled under the bed. It happens that when Olya’s mother is away, she spends a little time putting something that is out of place in its place. But this cannot be called cleaning...
Does it seem strange to you that Olya puts away toys? In fact, there is nothing strange here. Every child has an internal craving for order. It is even stronger than that of an adult. But an adult is able to organize his life himself and achieve order in affairs and things. And the child needs help. It is very important for a child to know that everything is always in its place, and he can find the right thing where she should be. But if the child's things are moved, as in Katya's case, then the child does not live in a state of order. Therefore, the task of parents is to organize the child’s life space so that the baby does not have large quantity toys so that each toy has its place. Then the child will be able to maintain order.
It is worth talking separately about various parental claims and demands. Are the parents' demands always adequate and is the child always able to fulfill them?
Vera (3 years old) loves to draw. She can sit at the table and draw for hours. Vera really loves color drawings and has excellent color perception; she feels shades very subtly. That's why they buy Vera very large sets of pencils, 30-50 pieces each. Vera usually organizes her workspace like this: she lays out all the pencils she has in front of her and draws. The girl has a special shelf where albums, stands with pencils and paints are stored. After drawing, Vera usually puts the pencils in a cup and puts away the album. But Vera’s dad doesn’t like the process of organizing the drawing itself. He is annoyed by a table littered with pencils. He says: “Is it really difficult to keep pencils in a glass? You draw with one pencil! You need to take one pencil, draw, put it in a glass and take another. And so your table is a mess,” Dad says indignantly. Vera tries to please dad. She puts the glass in front of her, but then the pencils still end up on the table: this makes it easier for her to choose. And dad is angry.
What do we see in this example? Requirements that not only do not correspond to the child’s age, but also contradict common sense. The problem is more with the pedantry of the pope than with Vera. It is the pope who should reconsider his views towards less striving for universal order.”
Hard work through play
There are still options on how to turn the cleaning process itself into a game. Considering psychological factors, we should also not forget about age and available gaming methods in order to cultivate hard work. Using a little imagination, you can teach your child to maintain order without developing negative associations with the cleaning process.
Role-playing games.
Play is both enjoyable and useful for children. You can imagine yourself as a construction and cleaning equipment that collects garbage ( various toys) and sorts them. Cars can deliver dolls to homes, large cars can collect small ones in their “garage”. If the vacuum cleaner monster fails to carry out its task, it can suck in all the scattered toys, and they will need to be urgently rescued.
Inventions.
A creative way to generate interest is to come up with useful cleaning inventions. It can be anything from available materials. For example, from unnecessary cardboard box You can make a toy collecting jet. A piece of cardboard can become a flying carpet that collects all sorts of little things. This method develops creative thinking, broadens your horizons, because you need to come up with something new and useful.
Announcement time.
Since cleaning up toys sooner or later turns into a chore, you have to come up with something out of the ordinary to maintain interest. So, you can announce the time for cleaning specific things. For example, “Lego time” when a bell or whistle rings and the child puts away the construction set. Gradually, such tactics can be brought to the game. For example, prepare a list with a list of things and two cubes. One cube indicates the category of the toy, the other the quantity. So, the child rolls the dice and completes the task. Not only interesting, but also useful - you can learn to count in this way. And when you get tired of this form, you can dilute the game with pleasant tasks with cards, such as a somersault on rings, a minute of rest, etc.
A quest, not an ultimatum.
The parent’s favorite “you won’t watch the cartoon until you put things in order” can be transformed into an exciting quest for the child.
If you have time, it is better to draw a map of 7-10 stations. The child travels from one station to another and at each one he is met by local residents and given tasks. Residents of one city need to clean the bottom of the lake (wash the sink), another - to help harvest the crops (the same scattered Legos), and still others are asked to work in the garden (water the flowers). And at the fourth station, residents can simply treat the traveler to an apple. The final goal of the trip (cartoon) also matters, although most children will be carried away by the process itself - adventures, anticipation of new meetings.
Family Saturdays.
You can start common family cleanup days. For example, everyone should do general cleaning together, so that not only the mother, but also all family members get involved. This way, children will feel like they are part of the cleaning process, and not observers from the outside. Every day you can make it a rule to clean for 10 minutes before dinner, for example.
Sometimes joint work may temporarily give way to competition. It is convenient for him to hang a sign on the refrigerator, where everyone can mark the dishes they have washed or the garbage they have taken out. And after a week, sum up the results and reward the winner. Even if adults continue to do everything as usual, the child’s excitement will be enough for everyone.
Awards.
Whatever game you choose, don't forget about praise and rewards. Of course, the motivation to clean for the sake of cartoons or candy is not pedagogical. Points scored during cleaning games should be a nice little thing - a sticker, an interesting postcard, a children's magazine. The child will be interested in saving and earning these points if he can spend them on something significant, for example, going to a museum or zoo. The prize can be assigned in advance. Or you can write a whole list of different awards with prices, let the child choose.
Reasonableness in education, which Saint Philaret spoke about, should also be present in the matter of teaching people to work. Of course, it is easier to captivate young children by playing, and this must be done, because it is better than ultimatums, punishments and the development of negative associations, coupled with the wasted nerve cells of their parents. In addition, games develop imagination and logic, one way or another teach systematic thinking and accuracy. However, children grow up, and the concept of play must gradually be replaced by the concept of responsibility. Organizing and tidying up toys, and then personal belongings, and then the rest of the house, should be a responsible task, and ultimately children should learn to love work. Let it be in early childhood for points and awards. But as a child grows up, it will be useful to understand that he works not only for himself, but also for those around him. The seeds of hard work sown in childhood will certainly bear fruit in the future.
Cleaning up toys worries parents both in itself and as part of parenting independent child and preparing him for kindergarten. What is the risk of a mother who does not involve her baby in putting things in order, believing that it is faster and easier to do everything herself? Psychologist Anna Bykova in her new book “How to Become a Lazy Mom” tells how exactly a “lazy mother” is useful for.
How to teach a child to put away toys? I get asked this question very often. In terms of popularity, the problem of cleaning toys comes right after the “top three” (potty training, problems with sleep and appetite). To be honest, I don’t know a single working algorithm that will result in every child immediately starting to clean up after themselves. All children are different. Needed different approaches, different arguments. Therefore, I simply present “toy stories” as material for reflection and finding a solution that may suit a particular mother and a particular child.
Story one: what toys like
Kindergarten, group of three-year-olds. Typical situation: they grabbed all the toys from the shelves, played with them and immediately threw them away. It doesn’t occur to anyone that the toys need to be put away. For what?
I call the children over.
— Guys, do you like to return home after playing in the kindergarten?
- What if you stayed in the kindergarten overnight? What if they forgot to pick you up? Would you like it?
- So toys have their own homes, where they like to return after playing! Toys don't like it when they are thrown around and forgotten there. Let's all return the toys to their homes, where they will feel good. Where do our dolls live?
Morality. It is easier to convey a thought to a child if you rely on his experience.
Story two: a cleaning tale
Sashka is three years old. With his imagination, it seems that even toys are not needed. To have fun, all he needs is a roll toilet paper. The cars are driving along a snowy track, the track is a roll of soft two-layer rolled out around the apartment. “Oops,” I think, “I didn’t have time to hide the last roll again. It’s late, I don’t feel like going to the store, I’ll have to use paper tissues...”
And at this time a snowstorm began. The soft two-layer one turned from ribbon-shaped... I don’t know what it turned into. The entire floor is strewn with small pieces. Satisfied, Sashka is lying “in the snow”, sprinkling himself with “snowflakes”.
It's time for bed. I should clean up before going to bed. But it’s mom who needs it, not Sasha; Sasha is getting snowdrifts. And mom is not happy with the mess. If mom commands: “Collect the garbage!” - Sashka will object: “This is not garbage! This is snow! Let him lie!” This means that you need to convince the child that the snow needs to be collected.
- Sash, Santa Claus really needs your snow.
- Yes?! What for?
- It's May now. The snow has melted. Santa Claus is hot. But your snow doesn't melt. Santa Claus will protect you from the sun with snow. Let's shovel all the snow into this bag.
“Mom,” asks Sashka, already sweeping scraps of paper into the bag, “how will the snow get to Santa Claus?”
“How, how,” I come up with on the fly, “we’ll leave the package on the balcony.” He will fly and pick it up.
Sashka carefully collected all the “snowflakes” into a bag.
The eldest, Arseny (he heard everything) carefully asked me about the ethics of such motivation:
- Mom, are you lying?
- No, I'm not cheating. I come up with a fairy tale for Sashka, and he plays it. Does this make anyone feel bad?
Morality. Any activity will be more attractive for a child if it can be turned into a game.
Story three: divide the task into pieces
Sashka is four years old. I set him a task: put away the toys. He starts whining that it’s taking a long time, that there are a lot of toys, that he can’t handle it, that he’ll get tired and that it would be nice for him to get some help.
The nursery is such a mess that even I had the feeling that it was impossible to clean it up.
“Okay,” I say, “now just collect the cars in this box.”
The task is simple and clear, and Sasha quickly copes.
- And now just the cubes in this box... And now all the soldiers in this box... Well, all that remains is to pick up the trash.
Morality. If a task seems abstract and impossible, it needs to be broken down into specific, simple subtasks.
Story four: how many toys do you need?
New kindergarten. The group has just been recruited. There are several dolls, several bunnies, several cars, a couple of construction sets. There are ten children who, during their two weeks in kindergarten, learned to put away their toys after themselves.
The children quickly learned where hares, dolls, cars and blocks “live”. Cleaning up after the game was easy. And then we bought new games and toys for the kindergarten: finger puppets, dishes, a “hospital”, balls, more construction sets, pyramids, puzzles, mosaics, animals, a railway, trains with trailers, lotto, dominoes...
I arranged everything on shelves, according to the principle that each toy has its place. And in the morning the children came and swept everything onto the floor. Not out of malice, of course, and not out of hooligan motives. That's just how they play. At the age of two or three years, simple manipulations with objects are more common: he turns them over in his hands and throws them on the floor. The more toys on the shelves, the more there is on the floor.
But then it was time for lunch. Children do not have the strength or patience to clean. They were able to pick up the toys from the floor, but classifying and putting them in their places is an impossible task for them.
Morality. There should be as many toys within reach as the child can pick up.
R.S. After that, I left the previous set of toys plus the pyramids. And new toys were introduced gradually, as the children remembered where to put things away. Offering new toy When telling how to play with her, I didn’t forget to show her “place of residence.” There were also some hints: on a shelf or drawer I pasted a picture of the toy that “lives” there. If the child forgot where to put the pyramid, he simply looked for the corresponding picture on the shelf.
Story five: the one who cleans plays
Periodically, not only new toys appeared in the group, but also new children. They did not know how to put away toys according to the rules. And some still didn’t want to learn it.
- Egorka, why don’t you clean up? All the guys put the toys in their places, and you continue to play.
- I'm tired.
“If you’re tired, sit here on this chair and rest.” When you relax or get bored, come help us.
Sitting on a chair is a bit boring. But I don't want to help. The guys put away their toys, drank juice and went for a walk. There are also toys on the street: cars, scoops, shovels, balls.
- Egorka, why are you taking the spatula? What if you get tired?
- Egorka, don’t touch the typewriter. Sit and rest.
- Egorka, why are you taking the ball? Then you have to put it back in its place, but you get tired...
Egorka can’t stand it:
- Yes, I won’t get tired!
- And will you clean it up later?
- Fine. Take what you want, but be sure to return it to its place.
Morality. Those who don't clean up after themselves don't play!
P.S. At home, I implemented this rule in the following way: if the toys remained on the floor after playing (what stubbornness!), I put them in a box on the mezzanine and took them out only after a week.
P.P.S. A participant in my training for parents told a story about applying the same rule in a fairy tale format familiar to a child:
- The toys need to be put away. I taught and taught my son to do this, for two years we put away the toys together, and then one day my son objected: “I won’t and that’s it, let them lie there like that.” Okay, let them lie there, let's go to bed. And in the morning we wake up - the toys are lined up at the front door, getting ready to go out! Dima to them: where are they going? “Look for new owners and new houses, otherwise it’s cold on the floor.” We looked: the racing car slipped through, the skittles and a couple of books managed to run away when dad came out. Dimka and I went to look for them. It turns out that the concierge managed to catch the fugitives! The concierge was given candy in gratitude for her vigilance. And now the toys always sleep in their places.
Almost every families, where there is Small child, there is a problem of how to get a child to clean up his toys. Here is the most common picture that is familiar to many modern parents: “Parents sit and watch TV, the baby plays with his toys. At the same time, the child’s concentration on any one game or toy changes every 5 minutes.
Switching attention for another game, the baby simply leaves the toy and takes out another one. Within an hour, scattered around the house, they give the impression that a real hurricane has passed through the room. Parents enjoy watching their baby play independently, but only until the very minute they ask him to put away his toys. The baby does not react in any way to the parents’ requests and flatly refuses to obey.” The most common mistake parents make in such a situation is that they force the child to put away toys, resorting to threats and punishment. This should not be done under any circumstances.
Every parent wants to raise his child to be a responsible and hardworking person. The child responds to parents' requests for help starting from the age of one. He can bring something, put dirty things in washing machine, get a book or toy. From this same age, we must begin to teach him to master the main rule of behavior: if he plays, clean up after himself. If you ask a child who is only 1 year old to put away his toys, he is unlikely to start rebelling and being capricious. But children aged 2-3 years are already beginning to show their character and test their parents’ strength. They are interested in knowing how mom or dad will behave if he refuses to obey.
In any age You don’t have to start fighting with your child or cleaning up his toys yourself. Even if you were unable to force the child to fulfill your request, never collect his toys immediately yourself, wait until the child turns to you with some request. For example, if he asks you to look at a book together, tell him kindly and firmly that you will do what he asks only after he puts his toys away. From a young age, a child must understand that it is impossible to start a second task, leaving the first unfinished. He should know that his parents will read a book to him, draw and play together only when he follows the rules that all family members must adhere to.
Useless demand from the child to maintain order and cleanliness, if the parents themselves do not believe that neatness and regular cleaning of the house are necessary. If there are constantly mountains of scattered toys and things lying on the floor that no one cleans up during the week, then asking the child to remove them is pointless and stupid. He simply cannot cope with such a task without the help of his parents and will experience fear every time from the sight of the toys themselves.
Ever since age When a child starts playing with toys, parents should show him an example of caring for them. Help your child learn simple steps in handling toys. If you bought a new toy, show him how to play with it and where it should be put away after the game is over. There is no need to try to keep all the toys in sight of the child; leave only those that are most interesting to him and that correspond to his age. Put the rest in a secluded place and take it out only when necessary. When there are a lot of toys scattered around, your request to remove them seems impossible to the child. In this case, he cannot do without his mother’s help.
Suggest for your baby to put the toys together and divide the cleaning process into simple steps: “Mom will put the blocks in a box, and you put this car in the garage. Well done! This is the kind of helper I’m growing! Now put the ball in the box, and I’ll put together a pyramid.” Thus, by sorting toys by type, you will teach your baby not only to put them away, but also teach him to determine a place for each toy. He should know that books should be put where books are, cars are next to cars, dolls are next to dolls, and so on. If the mother herself irritably throws all the toys into one big box, instead of patiently collecting them together with the child, and each time he carelessly shakes out this box to get it out the right toy, then you shouldn’t demand that your child handle toys carefully. He will behave just like his mother. Scatter them and throw them so that they break faster.
If the child played with a toy and wants to take the next one, immediately ask him to first put the toy he played with back in its place. Small children may not understand their mother’s request, help him and say: “Now you and I will put this car back in its place, you don’t want to play with him anymore. Let her sleep in the garage for now, and you and I will take the pyramid.” If your child refuses to put away a toy, hide it discreetly.
Later some time ask him where this toy is. Let the baby search, and when he doesn’t find it, tell him a fairy tale about how the toy lay on the floor for a long time, then went to look for its place, didn’t find it, and another owner took it to live with him. This owner turned out to be very neat and kind; he plays with the toy very carefully and puts it back in its place every time. Before returning the toy, warn your child that if he does not put it back after playing, it will disappear again. So, step by step, instill in your child a sense of responsibility and accuracy.
Given that patient and painstaking work on your part, by the age of 3 your baby will put his toys and books back in place himself. Of course, no one will be able to teach a child order in one day or even in a month. At first, whims, tears and actions aimed at spite of you are inevitable. You shouldn't get angry or irritated because of this. Try not to focus on the child’s whims and do not put away the toys yourself. Help him, but at the same time give the child the opportunity to clearly understand that he puts away the toys, and you are only helping him.
