It all started when I moved to new school in 10th grade. New environment, new classmates, new teachers. My classmates were good and friendly, and the teachers were also good. Among them was one teacher who, for some reason, I liked the most (I didn’t immediately understand why). He said that his name was Valery Aleksandrovich, and that he would teach mathematics and computer science with us.
I never liked mathematics before, although I always studied very well. But I went to Valery Alexandrovich’s lessons with pleasure. He could explain even the most difficult topic in simple words so that everything immediately became clear.
A very kind, but at the same time very strict teacher, so much like a certain Japanese actor... I just couldn’t help but like him! During his lessons, I couldn’t stop looking at him, I listened to his voice, trying to understand the meaning of the words spoken (for example, new topic lesson), and felt that something was about to turn over in my soul...
Yes, I understood the absurdity of the situation, all the drama and doom of my feelings, I tried to suppress all emotions in myself, just to avoid this love that no one needed. I have heard many similar stories about students falling in love with their teachers, which did not end well. I knew that an adult man in his thirties extra years will never see a girl in a sixteen-year-old schoolgirl. The difference is too big. And the fact that he is not married does not change anything. A social status"teachers" only increases the distance between us.
But the further, the worse... Every day, with every lesson, with every minute the feelings grew stronger and stronger. It was no longer in the power of my mind and common sense to stop it. As soon as I saw him, the following happened: my pulse quickened, everything was on fire in my chest, there was a clouding in my head, it was simply burning, I felt a pleasant nagging pain in my stomach, “butterflies” were flying, my legs gave way and became weak, trembling ran through my whole body.
I couldn't eat or sleep. This feeling of light love grew into something more. I realized that I could do anything for this person. I could no longer suppress this love within myself. There was only one thing left: to make sure that no one ever knew about my feelings. And I carefully hid it.
As time went. Something unimaginable was happening to me. Throughout the entire time I lived only by his lessons. I couldn’t avoid seeing my favorite teacher for a long time. It was a mind-bending addiction. But it was impossible to allow him to even suspect something. It was like violence against myself. Everything is just for his sake, for the sake of his reputation and honor.
It took me great effort to talk to him as if nothing had happened, to answer in class. I even came up with questions about the subject. If at this moment, when he was so close, someone had measured my pulse, listened to the beat of my heart, then I would have been exposed.
This went on for six months. Spring has come. Obsessive thoughts did not leave me. Even communicating with new friends and classmates did not help.
And so, one day during the next lesson, Valery Aleksandrovich called me to the board to solve an equation. Until now, I had always tried not to look into his eyes (especially when I answered), but then I looked... He looked straight into my eyes and did not look away. I went to the blackboard on shaky legs, took the chalk with one hand, held the textbook with the other and rewrote the conditions. I felt uneasy - he stood behind me and carefully watched my actions. I could no longer control my body, my hands shook treacherously, became cold and turned blue. There was nowhere to go, and you couldn’t hide your hands, and the trembling grew stronger and stronger. My head was a mess; I couldn’t solve a basic equation. Out of the corner of my ear I heard my classmates whispering: “What’s wrong with her? Is she feeling bad? It’s a very simple equation...”. My head began to spin, the textbook fell from my hands, and the trembling throughout my body worsened. Valery Alexandrovich asked:
- Nadya, are you okay? How do you feel? - There was excitement in his voice.
“Everything is fine, Valery Alexandrovich...” answering, I tried to pull myself together. At this time the bell rang for recess. My classmates gathered, some asked what was wrong with me. I reassured them and said that I just didn’t get enough sleep and that’s why I couldn’t concentrate. And then Valery Alexandrovich said:
- Nadya, please stay longer.
- Yes OK.
When all the classmates left, he asked me to sit opposite him. I sat down. My heart was pounding. He asked again:
- Nadyusha, are you sure everything is okay?
“Yes...” I answered and lowered my head. I was lying, and that's why I couldn't look him in the eye. After all, everything was completely out of order!
- Then what is it?
- If you are talking about today, then it happened due to lack of sleep, that’s all...
- No, I’m not really talking about that... I noticed that lately you haven’t been yourself. Is there anything you want to tell me?
“What are you talking about?” I asked, and my heart was beating so hard that vibrations were noticeable chest. “NO! I must never fall apart! I can’t just give up! No, no, no!..” - I thought, hiding my shaking hands under the desk. But he apparently noticed these manipulations of mine and asked for my hand. I timidly extended my hand to him. He squeezed her in his warm palms.
- Nadenka, you’re trembling so much, are you really that afraid of me? - he said with a smile.
“No, not at all, I’m just frozen,” I desperately tried to fight my feelings, I didn’t understand what he was leading to. His fingers smoothly slid to my wrist, feeling for my pulse. I took my breath away... That's it... I'm exposed... I watched his reaction. This is what I feared most. But Valery Alexandrovich looked at me with such a gentle, such a kind gaze that I could not stand it:
- I love you! - I suddenly burst out. Without letting go of my hand, he stood up, sat down next to me and hugged me tightly. Tears flowed from my eyes.
- I know. My poor girl, how much you suffered, forgive me, I knew everything, but was silent all this time... Forgive me...
- Valery Alexandrovich, I love you very much! From the very beginning, as soon as I saw you! I didn't think I'd confess to you. I should be the one apologizing! Sorry for causing you so much trouble!
- No no! No problem! Everything is fine!
Here he froze for a moment, then put his hand on my heart and said:
- You know, I also have to tell you something... You should know this. At first I fell in love with you as my best student, but now this love has grown into love for you as a girl. They say that when you love someone, that person feels it. I always felt your love for me, probably it was she who awakened in me reciprocal feelings for you. I love you, Nadya! - he said all this in such an unusually gentle voice, I melted in his arms, I felt like the happiest person in the world! This person, unattainable until this moment, is now so close. The strict teacher took off his everyday mask of inaccessibility and confessed his love to me. I'm happy! Then he kissed me passionately on the lips. Our kiss was interrupted by the bell for class.
In the corridor one could hear the students already breaking into class through the door that was locked from the inside with a key. Valery Alexandrovich opened the door, they immediately burst into the classroom, and I went to my lesson.
Valery Alexandrovich and I agreed to meet after school in a park nearby and discuss everything. The whole day before our meeting I was simply flying with delight! I was looking forward to the end school day. When we finally met, I immediately rushed into his arms. He was also very happy, the smile never left his face. I couldn't believe my luck!
We talked about the need to hide our relationship from the public, that the age difference (fifteen years) is too great, and besides, he is a teacher, I am a student. Valery Alexandrovich tried to explain to me what I was getting into by choosing him, but I was adamant. We love each other. There is no turning back.
Throughout the entire time I was finishing my studies at school, we met secretly. When I graduated from school, I had just turned eighteen. We told our relatives about our relationship. There were no problems with them, they were only happy (fortunately, they are not conservative people, his or mine). We formalized our marriage, he quit school, we moved to another city, where I went to university. There he found a new job.
We overcame all social barriers that stood between us. I realized that when you love very much, the opinion of society should not worry. You can overcome anything. Now it’s scary to imagine: what if we had never found out about each other’s feelings, if we had not taken this step towards... Stereotypes only prevent us from living. Indecision delays happiness.
Remember, the most important thing is love. Love is the meaning of life.
Tatiana Levchikova
After all, the main thing for him is that he knows, feels and sees our love for him. Love. But so sincere not every teacher can give love to children.
IN pedagogy love for children- this is a very capacious concept that explains what qualities a person should have teacher and what he can give children. Loving children a teacher can give a lot: your knowledge, your joy and sadness, your interests and your Love. He shares with children what is dear to him, what worries him, what will definitely come in handy children in life.
For many years I have been in pedagogy. But to such I didn’t come to love children right away. I really wanted to be a teacher in kindergarten. And I became one. Parents and children Always They treated my endeavors with interest and desire, the way I communicated with them, and cared for their children. I loved my job, even when the salary was meager. But I thought that you can only love your children. But it turned out not. Each time I send my children to school is a piece of my heart that I parted with. After all, the children trusted me and trust me now that they don’t Always can be trusted by parents. Their laughter, tears and sad eyes are very dear to me. And I realized that without this there is no point in my work.
Teacher who loves children is the happiest person because he love generates reciprocal love from children. They can come up to you and just cry, or tell you something, just to you. Many young teachers don’t understand this and think that we are sentimental. But I want to be sentimental, I can ask for forgiveness child. I- teacher! A teacher can't work without love for children. His love we light the lights of kindness, happiness, confidence in the hearts of children tomorrow and its necessity. And children carry this light throughout their lives, remembering their teacher by patronymic name, or just kind in a word. It’s touching and pleasant to the point of tears when the child tells his mother that she kisses him like a teacher before bed.
For the sake of such moments, I want to create, expand my knowledge, and love children. How to love children? Every the teacher will answer in his own way. Children should live in an atmosphere love. If your heart is open to this feeling, then you will find the answer. You need to educate with love. This is my principle. Know how to negotiate with them, respect their opinions and their feelings, everything they do and think about. Don't be above them, but be Always at the height of his behavior, words, the sincerity of your feelings towards them, i.e. love. It is forbidden tell children lies, since they sense lies very subtly and trust relationships With as a child such a person will not have it.
For me everyone a child is a small world, with its problems, pros and cons, the integrity of which I have no right to violate. But I can help to kid find your place in society, be confident in yourself, learn to love yourself and the world. This can be done through personal contact, through creating for everyone child of such situations when he feels successful. It is necessary to set high goals for yourself and your children, which can lead to success and personal growth as teacher, so child.
Teacher- this is not only a profession, it is a calling and talent, which is based on love for children. He must have patience, have a good modern knowledge base, be a creative person, and show initiative. Teacher should be an example for children. Otherwise it is forbidden: he is surrounded by children inquisitive, requiring attention. It is necessary to use innovative methods and techniques to enrich the inner world of children and develop their personality and resilience to life situations.
Publications on the topic:
Essay “Love for children is the credo of a teacher!”. We all come from childhood, from a world of love, kindness, where a child, without losing the joy and hope of a new day, marveling at the beauty of the world, waits to meet.
Love for the Motherland is one of the manifestations of patriotism. This complex feeling is made up of an emotionally positive, stable attitude.
Abstract of the OOD on speech development “November. Getting to know the variety of words, dividing words into syllables" Educational areas: " Speech development», « Physical development", "Cognitive development" Types of children's activities: play, communication,.
Pedagogical workshop. Topic: “Sensation and perception - the primary source of information, or a few words about sensory development baby" with a master class.
Project type: Group (participants - children, teachers). Implementation timeframe: Short-term (one month) Age group: children 4-5 years old.
Essay “The main quality of a teacher is love for children.”
“To be a good teacher, you need to love what you teach and love those you teach.” V. Klyuchevsky’s statement clearly conveys the meaning of the word “teacher”. The qualities of a good teacher at all times have been and remain unchanged: these are, first of all, decency, honesty, love for your subject, for children, and, most importantly, the willingness to take on enormous responsibility for those you teach.
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Applicationfor participation
onTThird Republican Pedagogical Readings
on humane pedagogy “Teacher”»
Teacher: Akhtyamova Gulnara Ilgizovna
Position: teacher of Tatar language and literature
Place of work: MBOU "Baisarovskaya secondary" general education school"
Work address: RT Aktanysh district, village of Staroe Baysarovo, st. Shkolnaya, 54
Phone: 8 927 496 44 63
Subject:Lloveteachersto the children
Abstracts of the work:
Love the Child.
Love him more than yourself.
Believe that the Child is cleaner, better, more honest, more talented than you.
Give your all to your children
and only then can you be named
Teacher.
Goal of the work: find ways to cultivate love for children and learn to carry it beautifully.
Tasks:
Explanation of the meaning of the word "Love".
How does a teacher show his love for his students?
How to develop love for children?
Familiarize yourself with the works of great teachers on the topic of love for children.
Show ways to preserve love for children and carry it beautifully.
Work structure: introduction, main part, conclusion, literature.
Methods:
Acquaintance with the works of Sh.A. Amonashvili, V.A. Sukhomlinsky,
L. N. Tolstoy, N. N. Neplyuev, etc.,
Using your work experience,
- use of Internet materials
If the teacher has only Love for the work,
he will be a good teacher.
If the teacher has only Love for the student,
like father, mother, he will be better than that teachers,
whichread all the books, but has no love
neither to the point nor to the students.
If the teacher combines
Love for the business and students,
he is a perfect Teacher.
Lev Nikolaevich Tolstoy
Introduction
I like the epigraph by L.N. Tolstoy. I agree with the writer’s thoughts, with every word he says. I consider the beginning of all my achievements to be LOVE. Love for children, for my profession, for my homeland, for my family, for people close to me. For 22 years now I have been sowing reasonable, good, eternal things. She graduated 4 classes of students and never once complained about the hard work of teaching.
Over these years of work, I have accumulated a huge arsenal of tools and techniques in communicating with children, I try to help everyone by possible means. I will always find time to praise, stroke, listen to someone’s secret. I try to create in the classroom an unusually warm atmosphere of trust and creativity, relaxedness, sincerity and directness. Each student feels involved in the joys and sorrows. And all this is because it all starts with love.
I remember my first day at school. How many innocent eyes look at me. They look and wait for something. Yes, they expect love and understanding from me. From this day on, I become their protector and second parent. Because the child spends more time around us, teachers.
My work experience has shown how younger child, the closer he is to us in soul. He has no secrets from us yet. He shares his thoughts, seeks protection. And when he grows up, everything changes. A teenager has secrets. He closes himself off. And if there is no mutual understanding between the teacher and the student, then it will be very difficult for the teenager. Therefore, I try not to lose those understanding relationships between students that were formed in the lower grades.
I find it hard to bear any parting with my students, even for short holidays. Let them joke, play around, and sometimes disobey, but I still love them. I love them like my own children.
Main part
Love for children, good looks, energy, emotionality, perseverance, patience and perseverance, a sense of responsibility, dedication to what you love, a sense of humor, rich imagination, hard work, dedication, optimism, patriotism... This list has no end. I think a person who wants to be a teacher should have these qualities. Such a personality is capable of making a student fall in love with him and arouse interest in academic subject, the desire to learn something new and the ability to return to what has been learned in a timely manner. Unfortunately, not every teacher is able to combine all these qualities. Perhaps it is not so important whether the teacher knows modern computer teaching technologies, speaks several foreign languages, or has diplomas from three universities. In my opinion, his main quality should be his love for children!
Loving is difficult. To love is not to pat a child on the head, not to spoil him. To love is to understand. Be patient, don't be moved. These principles imply great responsibility and great work for me. “Children are drawn to those who themselves are drawn to them, cannot live without them, and find happiness and pleasure in communicating with them.” My students are drawn to me, and I am grateful to them that I am becoming more confident, wiser, and more self-possessed. I love my students. First I love, and then I teach. Because everything starts with love! And my law as a teacher: love the child, understand the child, be filled with optimism for the child.
The question of how to love children is eternal for pedagogy. But not for pedagogy as an academic science, but for pedagogy as a unique unity of science and high art, as a way of life, as a state of mind. It’s a shame that pedagogical science does not strive for synthesis with the art of pedagogy, so that on this basis it can become a powerful engine for the progressive development of our society.
But it’s even more offensive when it completely contradicts the art of education, which is based on boundless love for children. We will not be able to solve our pressing life problems of humane pedagogy if we do not return a thousand times to how schools need to love children. The educational space should be filled to the brim with the spiritual, wise, inspiring, sacrificial love of educators and teachers for children and students.
For humane pedagogy this is an axiom.
But we still need to understand how, exactly how love children and every Child, so that love becomes the most effective and good power education. How many of us are teachers and educators on Earth, we can get as many answers to this question – How. If each of us returned a thousand times to comprehend the quality of our love for children, I believe we would comprehend the wisdom of pedagogical love. This would probably be our highest professional achievement.
A true teacher is one who is based on compassionate love for children. This is a special form of Universal love, which manifests itself through the teacher’s love for each individual child.
Love is a medium in which the experience of previous generations can be conveyed without distortion. This is why children are so helplessly beautiful, evoking love in the hearts of adults and the desire to give this love to them. All classical pedagogy grows from this deep feeling of love for children; without it, the adult society would have perished long ago. Therefore, in our world there will always be people who convey their experience of love for children.
Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky – Teacher-Master. His greatest teaching wisdom is how to love children.
“Love for a child in our specialty is the flesh and blood of the teacher as a force capable of influencing the spiritual world of another person. A teacher without love for a child is like a singer without a voice, a musician without hearing, a painter without a sense of color.”
We will all agree with these, but each of us will definitely sooner or later ask the question of what kind of love for a child should be? How to love a child in practice so as not to build your relationship with him, according to N.N. Neplyuev, only on the “sticks of fear and the bait of self-interest”? We can get answers to these questions not only from books, but from the experience of those who devoted themselves to the “experience of the work of love.” Who not only wrote about love, but vitally and realistically proved its power, without the use of force. Lines about love for children can only influence the individual experience of a teacher if they are filled with lived experience, if there are real deeds and actions behind them.
“Love a child,” writes V.A. Sukhomlinsky means protecting him from the evil that still surrounds many children in life. ... For students to love their teacher, they must see in him the living embodiment of human thought. What we mean by the concept of a teacher’s love for children, children’s love for a teacher, begins, in my opinion, with surprise, with one person’s reverence for the spiritual riches of another and, above all, for the richness of thought. ...
I love the child not as he is, but as he should be. ... The art of our profession is to hate evil, but not to transfer hatred to the one in whose soul it lives. ...
You can learn to love children and understand its necessity through constant communication with children.”
The source of love for children is childish nature itself; constant communication between an adult and a child cannot but affect the feelings of both. Children's optimism, openness and trust in the world cannot but evoke in the heart of an adult a feeling of love and a desire to protect childhood in children. “Children by their very nature are optimists. They are characterized by a bright, sunny, cheerful worldview. Loving children means loving childhood, and for childhood optimism is the same as the play of colors for the rainbow: no optimism - no childhood. ... Optimism is like a magical piece of colored glass through which the world around us seems like a great miracle to a child. A child not only sees and understands, he evaluates emotionally, he loves, is carried away, is surprised, hates, and strives to defend good against evil. You cannot take this magic piece of glass away from a child. You can’t turn him into a cold, rational reasoner.”
Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky is the apostle of love in pedagogy. His own life- proof of how personal suffering and difficulties not only do not cause bitterness in the soul, but, on the contrary, contribute to the manifestation and revelation of love towards others. In the books of Vasily Alexandrovich one can find a “methodology” for the constant “production” of love by a teacher in relation to his students.
A modern school teacher easily masters teaching methods, begins to apply pedagogical technologies and techniques, and develops didactic material, uses a variety of forms and methods of work. The most difficult thing for a teacher still remains to understand: how to love children. You can become familiar with the science of human love if you truly admire the experience of the apostles of love, want to be like them, be amazed at their spiritual wealth and want to see how they give their hearts to a person.
Lev Nikolaevich Tolstoy, in his article addressing the youth circle “Love each other,” writes: “With what more people loves, the more his life becomes freer and more joyful... And every person who loves more, not only becomes more and more happy and joyful, but makes other people happy and joyful.”
Experience wise love teaches us that it cannot be conditional and rely on fear and self-interest, it must make the one who experiences it and those who are close to the bearer of love happy. N.N. Neplyuev, using the example of his school community, embodied the dream of the possibility of the existence of education and other forms of organizing life in conditions of love. “In our schools, growing in love, they grow into the discipline of love, and at the same time they grow into the need for unity in brotherly love.”
Loving a child for me is not just an idea, but a teacher’s law. But it's not that. This law is indeed very old, classical, and even authoritarian pedagogy, despite its childlessness, proclaims it as the most important professional feature of a teacher. The point is not so much that you need to love a child, but how to love a child, how this law can actually be implemented.
Conclusion
In the classical sense, loving a child, in my opinion, embodies the essence of understanding the child, respect for his personality. I personally would formulate the classic core of pedagogy this way: my human love for a child should evoke in him his reciprocal human love for me.
The love of the teacher must today give birth to the reciprocal love of the student. To educate and teach in such pedagogical process, which is filled not with feelings of love and reciprocity, but with feelings of hatred and hostility, means the same thing as sowing weeds in the souls of children in the hope that bread will grow, planting bitterness in the hope that kindness will grow. Janusz Korczak dedicated his most heartfelt book to “how to love a child.” The problem of pedagogical love lies precisely in this: how to love a child. “The atmosphere of education should be based on trust and love - this is an old truth,” wrote D.N. Uznadze, “but its implementation encounters the most difficult obstacles.”
Doesn't it seem paradoxical to you that this old truth does not have a more or less acceptable methodological solution? Are you not outraged by the fact that schools and teachers lack love for children and art - how to love children, how to love each individual child? In these areas, each of us could become the discoverer of our own methodology, our own system.
At the end of the work I want to add. Love has many manifestations.
Respect is one of the beautiful forms of showing love, of course, if it is sincere.
Respect is a manifestation of love. Respecting a Child means growing Pedagogical Love in oneself.
Dear colleagues, let's love and respect children. Remember, our entire future lies in them!
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Amonashvili Sh.A. In the Chalice of the Child the germ of the grain of Culture shines - Artyomovsk, 2008.
Amonashvili Sh.A. REFLECTIONS ON HUMANE PEDAGOGY (excerpts from the book)
Ilyin I. A. Singing heart. Book of quiet contemplations. - M.: “Martin”, 2006
Neplyuev N.N. Experience of the work of love. — Spiritual light in the life of a teacher. Collection of philosophical articles. – Artyomovsk
4. Sukhomlinsky V.A. – Reissue. M.: Shalva Amonashvili Publishing House, 2002.- (Anthology of humane pedagogy).
5. Tolstoy L.N. Love each other. Address to the youth circle. – Spiritual light in the life of a teacher. Collection of philosophical articles. – Artyomovsk, 2009. pp. 61-66.
In pedagogy, the phenomenon of love deserves more and special attention. Here this phenomenon acquires its own specificity and is considered as a necessary component of the “teacher-student” relationship. Despite its significance, “love” only relatively recently began to be considered as a pedagogical category.
Sh.A. Amonashvili (1995), teacher primary school, the first principle pedagogical activity calls love for a child. Without it, it is impossible to educate a “humane soul in a person.” L.L. Shevchenko (1991) characterizes the manifestation of love as the degree of development of the teacher’s moral consciousness. Trust, respect, exactingness, sense of proportion, justice, generosity, kindness characterize the relationship between teacher and students in love. The listed qualities include mutual assistance, mutual understanding, mutual respect, mutual exactingness and responsibility. O.A. Kazansky, in his work “Pedagogy as Love” (1995), believes that cooperation in the “teacher-student” relationship is a manifestation of love. Love, the author emphasizes, relieves anxiety and gives a feeling of security. Belinsky notes that feeling plays a prominent role in the formation of personality and in education, especially the feeling of love for children, which is a tool and mediator of education. Every action in a child's life should be an expression of living, fiery love for the truth in which God appears. Only such love is true and worthy of being called love. Special attention teacher A.S. devoted love Makarenko, who considered this phenomenon in the context of sex education. In his work “On Education,” he notes: “Sex education should be the education of love, that is, of a great and deep feeling - a feeling adorned with the unity of life, aspirations and hopes... In this matter, the most important place is an example. Real love between father and mother, their respect for each other, help and care, openly acceptable manifestations of tenderness and affection, if all this happens in front of children from the first year of their life, are the most powerful educational factor; it is necessary to arouse children’s attention to such serious And beautiful relationships between man and woman. Second the most important factor is generally the cultivation of a feeling of love in a child. If, growing up, a child has not learned to love his parents, brothers and sisters, his school, his homeland, if the principles of gross selfishness have been brought up in his character, it is very difficult to expect that he is capable of loving deeply...”
Pedagogical Encyclopedic Dictionary, ed. B.M. Bim-Bada interprets love as “the highest feeling, manifested in a person’s deep emotional attachment to another person or a personalized object.” In the pedagogical dictionary G.M. and A.Yu. Kodzhaspirov's love for children is “a specific activity to strengthen the personal element in each child, develop his abilities for self-determination and self-realization, and independently develop a system of life values and relationships.” This definition is close to main point the phenomenon of love in pedagogy.
1. Love in pedagogy is considered as a component of the “teacher-student” relationship;
2. Education in love and education of love are necessary factors in the development of a child;
3. Love is one of the main characteristics that contribute to the development of a child and his formation as a person.
Analyzing the study of love in philosophy and pedagogy, it becomes clear that it is a complex phenomenon that has occupied an important place in the thoughts of scientists for many years. There is no clear definition of love. But, nevertheless, it is noted that love is an emotionally important and necessary feeling (and having different types), which is an integral part of relationships with the outside world.
